Yes, open-ended questions are better.
If she pauses to think, don't fill the gap with words. Let her silently ponder on it, hopefully for a few days.
Posts by jgnat
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80My Experience and how I finally let myself see the truth
by OneEyedJoe infirst off - for those lurkers who feel guilty just for being on this site and reading this (even if you don't read any further, as it is your right to choose that course) i want you to know that you're not alone in what you're going through or in what you are feeling.
if you read on, i hope my experience may be of some small help to you.. this may be long, but i'll try to organize it in a way that doesn't make it painful to read.
to start, i feel it is most beneficial if i'm upfront and honest with my goals from posting this, which are (in order of the degree to which they motivated me):.
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My Experience and how I finally let myself see the truth
by OneEyedJoe infirst off - for those lurkers who feel guilty just for being on this site and reading this (even if you don't read any further, as it is your right to choose that course) i want you to know that you're not alone in what you're going through or in what you are feeling.
if you read on, i hope my experience may be of some small help to you.. this may be long, but i'll try to organize it in a way that doesn't make it painful to read.
to start, i feel it is most beneficial if i'm upfront and honest with my goals from posting this, which are (in order of the degree to which they motivated me):.
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jgnat
You know, I worked with a young man who was convinced his mother had no natural personality at all. A little questioning about her childhood brought up a wealth of insight that he never had before.
Yes, this will stretch you out of your comfort zone.
What does she find most satisfying about being a housewife? Least satisfying?
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How much time/ money do you spend to look nice?
by new hope and happiness inhaircut, cosmetics, perfume/ aftershave, clothes, botox, surgery, tan, cutting nails, feeding the body, showering.
is there no end to the needs of the living corpse?.
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jgnat
It all depends on the occasion, doesn't it? I'd dress up to meet President Obama. I even have the dress picked out.
I've also recently added forty minutes of exercise a day to my daily regimen. It's not a waste at all. Being healthy, I think is not vain.
Here's a great interactive graph that shows how people spend their day. Guess what wins?
http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2009/07/31/business/20080801-metrics-graphic.html?_r=0
Last time I looked, computer time was digging in to time dedicated personal hygiene. So perhaps our society is not becoming increasingly self-absorbed about their appearance.
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My Experience and how I finally let myself see the truth
by OneEyedJoe infirst off - for those lurkers who feel guilty just for being on this site and reading this (even if you don't read any further, as it is your right to choose that course) i want you to know that you're not alone in what you're going through or in what you are feeling.
if you read on, i hope my experience may be of some small help to you.. this may be long, but i'll try to organize it in a way that doesn't make it painful to read.
to start, i feel it is most beneficial if i'm upfront and honest with my goals from posting this, which are (in order of the degree to which they motivated me):.
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jgnat
Instead of studying more books (which is obviously in your comfort zone), I suggest you make a study of your wife as a book. This will require asking her many questions. Filling out the survey as I suggested will give you the questions to ask. Knowing her personality, interests and dreams hides key to get her out. For instance you may ask,
- Why do you think so-and-so left the truth? (Chances are she will mention HER chief doubt in the answer)
- Did you ever dream of doing anything differently when you grew up? What was that?
- If you could go back in time and change one thing, what would you do?
- If money or time were no object, where would you go and what would you do here on earth?
- Who is the person you would most like to talk to in Paradise, and what would you ask them?
For heart-to-heart conversations, I suggest you time them to be as far away from the meetings as possible, both in time and in distance. The cultic personality wears off the longer you away. Schedule vacations and times away so you can enjoy your wife's natural personality and get to know her as a person.
This exercise has the side-benefit of helping you be a more sensitive and with-it husband!
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True Stories from the Tower - Part 1 "From Anointed to Pedophile to Bethelite"
by BluePill2 inbefore i dive into the actual write-up of this experience, let me put some things straight.. i have thought long and hard if i should write more about my experiences during the 10+ years at different branches.
during these years i worked from financial department, service department, home office and different it assignments.
as you can imagine one sees and hears and reads a lot of stuff going through different stations in different countries.
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jgnat
villagegirl, are all judicial meetings about pedophiles?
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How much time/ money do you spend to look nice?
by new hope and happiness inhaircut, cosmetics, perfume/ aftershave, clothes, botox, surgery, tan, cutting nails, feeding the body, showering.
is there no end to the needs of the living corpse?.
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jgnat
I just spent seventy dollars on a haircut. I love it. Einstein used bar soap on his hair. It was a statement against vanity.
I am not a walking corpse!
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Science proves there is a God
by seekchristonly infusion with god natural .
in the cosmos universe or whatever.
all things are made of the same materials etc so humans will always be fused with the universe in life and death because those building blocks are eternal.
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Are all narrow roads the superior path?
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My Book- How the Bible Was Invented
by HowTheBibleWasCreated ini am using an online publisher but this fails to underatnd why i started... i was lied to for 31 year i wanted to make it right... .
as of now my chapters will be posted her for the reason that these will be peviews.. i want everyone to review thm... some may object to my new stance on ezekiel, haggai , jesus and paul....i'm sorry if my newerr more updated views will be shocking... but it neeeds to be said.... .
my book will go from 1500 bce to 500ce 2000 years of bible writing.
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jgnat
Another interesting read,
http://www.dubiousdisciple.com/2014/04/the-miracle-free-gospel.html
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jgnat
Here, follow this rabbit trail.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watchtower/beliefs/280836/1/Convention-releases-2014#.U6G1hvldV8E
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Who knows when Native Americans was granted citizenship?? Very strange.
by jam inhow can one not be a citizen of their own land??.
yes the act of 1924 granted u.s citizenship to those native .
americans who were not already u.s. citizens.. prior to the passage of the indian citizens act of 1924, nearly .
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jgnat
The whole purpose of the Indian Act was to pacify the Indian population to allow uninterrupted white settlement of British North America. I understand that South Africa adopted this model to resettle their indigenous populations. We can see how well that turned out. Here's a recent judgement on the Indian Act, which covers a great deal of the history of how this all came about.
