I love buying my dog toys and gifts. He is so excited and happy with things I bring home for him. Those $29 Sams and Costco beds are as good or better than the pet store versions that sell for up to $300! It's crazy. Dogs definitely leave their blanket and pillow to snuggle on their own fluffy, comfy bed. Money well spent for sure!
looking4peace
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For all dog owners....One happy dog!
by restrangled ini have resisted buying a dog bed, just because they are too expensive.
i can slap together some old blankets, sheets etc., and pile them up, and the old boy will happily lay down on them.. today at sams wholesale, i found a bed for $29.00 with a zipper so i can wash the cover.
it was a monster to get into the car, stuff in the back seat, and it obstructed all vision.
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Finding Normality, Common Ground & Community
by dh inhi,.
it's been a long time since i posted on here, but i find myself at a point in life where the input of others who've been through a similar experience would be nice to hear.. i'm 32 years old, was born in the jw and left when i was 18, so it's fair to say the bulk of my adult life has been spent out, but the bulk of my adult life i have been pretty much working, and i'm often told i am a 'workaholic'.
i suppose now looking back in perspective, i have always kept myself very occupied with work, surface friends and surface experiences, but never really allowed anyone or anything in any deeper.. now i look at it an identify that there are some massive barriers still up, and i have developed a person who is successful in real life in terms of whatever real life percieves as doing ok, but is deep down completely isolated from other people 'like me' if that makes sense.. i do not believe in the idea of god, or religion in general, i've always said it is just a crutch and a control mechanism, but it brings me to the thought of how i feel right now, that i have lacked for most of my life anyone to share common ground with, common views and community etc, and that most people turn to their church for that, but for a person such as myself, there is no such place.. it doesn't make me want to go anywhere near a church or reconsider anything but it does make me think sometimes that it would be nice to have an alternative, with real life interaction and sharing of ideas, i miss that in my life, and i think because of how i am wired and how my experience has been, it is becoming a negative thing, and is probably the beginnings of the path to implosion.. anyways, would be interested to hear if anyone has had a similar experience.. dh.
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looking4peace
dh,
One idea that comes to mind is to find a "cause" that you do believe in and to reach out to meet people who believe in that same cause so you have a basis for connection. Are you fired up about the environment? Volunteer for some type of clean up effort and meet people who are also dedicated to making a difference in that area. Are you concerned about poverty? Volunteer at a homeless shelter and meet the people who work to better the circumstances of those less fortunate. There are websites that show volunteer opportunities in various locales. Look up those in your area and see if you connect with any of the ideals behind them. Reaching out to a group that is trying to make a difference in the world (apart from religion) might just give you the sense of community you are craving. That is what I am starting to do. I have connected with some women's groups and am meeting some fascinating people that share some of my concerns and ambitions.
Meetup.com is a really cool resource for starting a group or for connecting with a group that is involved in things that mean something to you. It is a networking site that connects people for social reasons based on a common interest like hiking or for causes. It's pretty cool just to browse the groups and check for meetings you might want to pop in on. For me, work doesn't always provide the resource for social relationships that are as close as I wanted, so I am still looking for ways apart from work to meet new and interesting people.
I am a new fader and have found it a very lonely process. I can't put much energy into relationships that I know are short lived once my fade is complete, so I am just now starting to build a network of associates outside the congregation. It takes some time and a lot of effort, but I am really enjoying the connections that I am making. All the best to you!
L4P
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"Can't accept blood but allowed to accept blood fractions. Cannot donate blood but allowed to accept blood fractions that come only from blood. Able to take medicines made with blood but cannot donate blood to help hospitals make this medicine. Cannot store blood for surgeries but are allowed to have blood pump around outside your body and back in during surgery"
Well stated! (God forbid the tubing come loose during the procedure...now you've broken God's law while you were unconscious because the circuit was broken! What a crock!) This issue is one that really started bothering me about a year ago and was the straw that broke the camel's back for me. Either blood is sacred and should only be poured out on the ground to Jehovah or it isn't. Picking and choosing how it can be used and whose can be used under what circumstance based on nothing in the Bible but just because the GB said so and might say something else next week was just too much for me. It was over the top. Couldn't deal with it. Over and out.
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Husbands/Wives, Do you share passwords for each other's email account?
by asilentone injust wondering.
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looking4peace
I have willingly given my passcode to my husband and he has given me his, but honestly, I didn't write it down and only got it for one specific purpose when he needed me to log in for him. I don't remember his specific e-mail passcode and it makes me no difference. I have no intention of ever checking his e-mail account. It seems a huge invasion of privacy.
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According to bookstudy, it's ok to beat wife.....occassionally
by JWinprotest ini apologize if this has been mentioned, but i don't have the time to come on here as often.
yesterday's bookstudy on divorce got my shorts in a bit of a knot.
apparently, according to the god's love book, a wife could consider legal separation from her husband if she is physically abused, but (get this) only in the case of extreme physical abuse, and if the wife's life is in danger.
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looking4peace
This is precisely the very point that infuriated me and started my realization that JWs are not teaching the truth. Such an idea could not at all come from a loving God and anyone who grew up around abuse or has experienced it personally is not willing to accept such a ridiculous notion. It is disgusting and evil. That is putting it mildly in my opinion. I cannot even begin to relate how upset it makes me to know some will view this as a requirement for life because the "faithful slave" said so. It puts me over the edge.
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According to bookstudy, it's ok to beat wife.....occassionally
by JWinprotest ini apologize if this has been mentioned, but i don't have the time to come on here as often.
yesterday's bookstudy on divorce got my shorts in a bit of a knot.
apparently, according to the god's love book, a wife could consider legal separation from her husband if she is physically abused, but (get this) only in the case of extreme physical abuse, and if the wife's life is in danger.
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Do You Care What Happens To Indiviual JWs At This Point In Time?
by minimus inother than possibly family members, do you care what happens to those you called "brothers and sisters"?.
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looking4peace
I care very much, yet at the same time, I can't help but feel myself detaching emotionally as I fade. I was disowned by a parent, so knowing that the "friends" are required to basically disown me if I no longer share their beliefs, I feel the need to protect myself emotionally to prepare for that outcome by pulling away from the friendships myself so that it is less painful when it does happen. It is sad, because I cannot be honest and tell my closest friends that it is nothing they have personally done, that I am just not the same person I once was and cannot be a spiritual "encouragement" to them. To protect the rest of my family from an outcome they beg me not to force, I have to "pretend" I am just discouraged as I fade, daring not to say why I am inactive. It is painful. I'd rather be honest so friends can stop trying to figure out why I am not returning their calls. I am not returning their calls because I cannot say what is on my mind and I am afraid that with my closest friends, I would, and it is not "safe" for my family for me to do so. The more I try to verbalize what I am going through, the more awful it sounds. I am sure many of you have been here before. It is just new to me.
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Materialism & Adultery
by sweet pea inso, we were brought up in/enticed into an organisation that we believed was a spiritual paradise.
everyone appearing to be better than the world around them.
my experience was of youngsters leading double lives, partying hard like the best of the world.
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looking4peace
Sweet Pea, go back to school when it makes sense for your family. It is never too late. I went back as an "old woman" :o) and had the time of my life learning things I never even knew to be curious about. You don't have to know what you want to do right away. While you are fulfilling some of the liberal arts requirements, you will have the chance to explore a lot of interesting subject matter until you find something that you love. It seemed like my whole world opened up and it forever changed who I am and my outlook on life. You will meet so many interesting and amazing people. I will never regret the sacrifices I made to reach that important goal. I started my undergrad at age 38 and continued through to my Masters degree. Keep that dream alive and you'll know when it is the right time to pursue it. You can do it! All the best to you!
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Mental Illness with Jehovah's Witnesses
by Hope4Others inthis presentation goes over jerry bergman's research on mental illness with jehovah's witnesses.
this includes over 8 different research projects conducted by different doctors.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=urbxtvuat1g.
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I just have to say that even though the WT literature recommends counseling to a person who needs it, a witness is so afraid of ending up with a counselor that will "discourage" them spiritually OR they are so afraid of bringing reproach on Jehovah's name by revealing that they have problems as a witness OR they are afraid something they say will make the organization look bad and they will be bloodguilty for stumbling a potential sheep that most will not go to counseling, no matter how badly they need it.
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That is the funniest thing I have read in a long time. :o) Thanks for sharing the letter, blue canary.