Sorry to hear that. It is so hard when you realise your belif system no longer reflects those around you. I went to a Funeral the other day and just sat there during the talk thinking " this is all BS".
BTW I sent you an email.
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My sisters partner died last night
by wobble inmy sister has pioneered since shortly after she left school in the mid-sixties.
she has had the same pioneer partner ,and shared a house with her,for over thirty years.. last night her long time friend died.
she had not enjoyed the best of health in recent years, but at 59, this is a devastating shock to my sister.. the problem is i don't really know what to say to her, she knows i don't believe the wt's view on life after death, so i suppose i shall just have to provide a listening ear.
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So, Was Your Life RUINED Because You Were A JW?
by minimus inthe fact that you were a witness, did it actually "ruin" your life?
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It wasn't ruined, some good things happened. I met wife through the org, I was lucky she wasn't an over zealous crackpot and really is my best freind and soulmate. I was able to build a client base when I started my own business because of the network of contacts I had built up over the years.
Saying that I missed out on a lot experiences and my childhood was dull because of the stupid man made rules. I have spent my life trying to please others so I can fit in. I have lived with guilt for doing things I should never have felt guilty about and I didn't spend long enough in bed on Saturday and Sunday mornings. I am never going to get that time back, but boy I am going to make up for it from now on.
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*Everyone Please Enter, I'm New Here*
by tryingtoexit ini've been lurking in the shadows of this forum for about 6 months or so.
i'll try to be brief here, but i apologize in advance if this is not "brief enough" for you.
anyways i'm a 27 year old african american young man, i was born and raised a jehovah's witness.
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Hi trying, Welcome. It hits you right between the eyes once you start think doesn't it! I wish you every success with your exit.
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beer
by John Doe ini never really liked beer, but, i got a hankering for one on the way home from work.
i picked up a six pack of foster's (never tried it before) and i must say, it's prettty danged good.
what do you drink?.
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The best Beer in the World is "Old Speckled Hen" at 5.2% in the bottle, DO NOT drink from cans, Sacrilege !!!!
Shame it's served in all the Green King Pubs
Wobble have you ever had Ringwood Brewery's" Old Thumper?" That is even better than Old speckled hen! (did you know the Old speckled hen was an MG car?) I'd love to go for a bevvy with you - you obviously drink well.
Ohh and what about Wychwoods "Hobgoblin" ahhhhhhhhhh
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COURT: Clergy Abuse Files Must be Released
by AdaMakawee inhttp://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/33178609/ns/us_news-faith/.
this was interesting and may just possibly affect mother watchtower.. ada.
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It's such a shame nothing has every gone right through the legal system, it would really open the eyes of the R&F. On second thoughts it would just be seen as media and governmental "persecution".
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New here
by goldensky indear all,.
i discovered this site only a couple of weeks ago and i already feel affection for you.. i am a 48-year-old woman and i live in spain, where i was born and raised, so i apologize in advance for my inevitable lack of style and possible grammar mistakes, due to english not being my native tongue.. i grew up in the truth and jehovah and the congregation have filled my whole life.
i've had little contact with the outside world.
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Welcome to this forum.
Your story will strike a chord with many of us. You said
I still love Jehovah very, very much, although I'm not even sure whether he exists of not. Weird, isn't it?
Your right it is wierd, but as witness you have basically been told what to think and how to act all your life and after that, all free thinking is wierd - enjoy the wierdness, don't let the confusion distract you and open your mind to all possibilities, it's great!
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Can you Believe Some of the New Posters on Here?
by lifelong humanist inin life, i usually trust new people, at least on face value, until i discover otherwise.
yet, my normal belief system is now in doubt.
i've just replied to a thread started by 'goldensky' - an alleged spanish lady with lots of history as an extremely devout jw in spain.
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A lot of "newbies" like myself use this board because exiting a highly controlled and structured way of life takes you onto a road of confusion and guilt.
Someone in that position will know what they want to do, but may have not fully formulated a strategy for moving forward and completely breaking free of the cult. It is so valuable to engage with others who have been through the process, others who can relate to what they are going through. It is important that there is something out there, people who can help.
If my first post on this board was treated with sceptism and I was called a troll I would have probably thought, the WTS is right, there is nothing outside the organisation. The warm response I recieved (Flipper, Mouthy, All Time Jeff, On the way out and others) helped to move forward far more quickly than I could imagine. My user name reflects how I was feeling when I joined, I now feel that I can leave and I will leave.
It would be sad if as an individual or as group we frightened someone back to the WTS because we had a feeling that they were not being genuine.
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COURT: Clergy Abuse Files Must be Released
by AdaMakawee inhttp://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/33178609/ns/us_news-faith/.
this was interesting and may just possibly affect mother watchtower.. ada.
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They will deny one exists
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Is there any hope of you coming back to Jehovah?
by LeftBehind inmy brother is a self proclaimed apostate.
i see now that there is a wide variety of posters here.
so to those that have left the witnesses what would it take to get you back?
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Leftbehind, please give me a body of evidence why I should go back to the organisation. Provide me with reasons that really demonstrate that the WTS has gods approval and that they teach the truth. If you can do that then I may consider my decision to leave as invalid.
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cONSERVATIVE WELFARE REFORMS could affect jws
by badboy inmight affect reporting hours if more jws had to go to work..
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I still can't differentiate btween DC's Tories and New Labour. Both seem to lack clear direction or policies on a number of key issues and the quality of debate between them seem pimarily to be childish point scoring. I am watch the conference season with interest as I will be voting for the first time ever in the Next General Election.