In following the shunning instructions I have been fed since 3, I had a funny experience when my best friend was DF'd.
Of course, I couldn't talk to her anymore, no matter where I saw her. We were both about 16 at the time. Anyway, we happened to be at the same red light on a four-lane highway, which means we were right next to each other waiting for the light to turn green. Obviously I knew she was there. It struck me that it was like a drag race - I was intently staring at the red light waiting for it to turn green so I could get away from this awkward situation. Anyway, I looked over at her, she looked over at me, and we both reved (sp?) our engines up and started laughing.
I share this because it was a small turning point for me. After that I started sending her letters secretly through one of her sisters who attended the meetings.
Unfortunately, she never forgave me for my prior silence, and has since proved go out of her way to avoid me. I won't go into the details on that. I just think it's interesting that we can try to look at the black and whites of any issue, but it still boils down to the individual people involved and where they are at in their lives.