Beachwalker

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  Inability to develop close connections with others

  by Lemon_Lime_Shasta in

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  hi all, i'm still pretty new here, but i wanted to talk about something more substansive than low quality generic soda brands (my first post and my logon name).. of all the negative side effects of my dub past, the one that still haunts me the most is my complete inability to develop any sort of depth in my relationships with others.

  i'm not one to blame all my personal problems on the wbts, but i can't help but feel that it was a significant contributing factor.

  i still hate talking about my past, and i work very hard to hide all aspects of my jw past from anyone i meet.

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  Hi, Lemon & Lime! It's all part of the process of grieving, I'm afraid. You'll get through it. How about going to classes or hobby groups? You'll find somebody with the same interests. Reading books about people skills is good too.

  People tend to sense if you have a 'great big secret' and could possibly shy away from that. So if anybody asks what are you doing for Christmas just say I'm going to see the folks or something, you don't have to tell the whole story from the get-go.

  Once you are comfortable with people then you'll be able to say, oh, yes I'm having christmas with friends this year, and if they ask why, then you start telling them.

  There's some fanstastic people out there, so let them in!

  Beachwalker
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  Shunning inactive JW? I never heard about it before....

  by Albert Einstein in

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  from many of your posts ive noticed some of you, who never were df or da are practicaly shunned by your family memebers or congregation memebers.

  does that really mean they wouldnt talk to you or greet you, if they meet you on the street or if you call them?.

  i live in eastern europe and i never in my life heard about such attitude.

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  I haven't spoken to one son in 8 years, and the other about 5 years. Both of them are married now. My ex sister in law sent me photos of my eldest sons wedding which happened 2 weekends ago.

  What a great witness that is!

  Beachwalker
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  so many questions...

  by Aussie Oz in

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  Beachwalker

  I've been here a while, just keep a low profile, but when somebody's asks a question, well, what can I say!

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  so many questions...

  by Aussie Oz in

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  Beachwalker

  let's start with the first one!
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  What is it with men?...

  by highdose in

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  this is a responce to john does "what is it with women" post.

  i'd like to point out that men do even more irrating and inexplicable things than women.... 1) not wanting to ask for directions.

  2) getting a kick out of seeing people blown up in movies.

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  Beachwalker

  As mentioned a few posts ago, I used to be a postie. So I can say from extensive experience that men do not like to ask for directions! I used to see a car drive up and down, up and down, and I could see the woman arguing with the male driver. I've even heard women say, "There's the postie, if she doesn't know where it is, nobody can find it"!

  Eventually, the car would pull up, the woman would wind down the window and ask for directions, while the man would stare steadfastly ahead, like his manhood and/or hunting instincts were being called into question!

  It used to brighten up a day every now and then!

  Beachwalker
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  Hey Aussies, I got a Postie!

  by SixofNine in

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  is it true that these are still used as postal vehicles in australia?

  if so, is it just in rural areas?.

  can you buy these new at honda dealerships in australia?.

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  Hey, I used to be a postie! They started out as CT90s, but got upgraded to CT110s. Jeez, the mail I used to carry on those things, it was a wonder it went at all! The young fellas used to wheelstand those babies!

  They still use them for mail delivery in the suburbs, well, in Queensland anyway. I didn't think the public could buy them from Honda, plenty of secondhad ones, though. I bought one for my son.

  Gave up being a postie 10 years ago this month. Got my long service leave, had 12 months off, courtesy of John Howard! Good time, good mates!

  YOu got a good bike there, you couldn't kill it if you beat it with a stick!

  Beachwalker
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  Are you an 'Ex Witness' or just you?

  by creativhoney in

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  i just wondered how people feel about this?

  - do some only mix with other ex witnesses a couple of my friends, and it seems that by definition, they are 'ex witnesses' almost like a religion in itself.

  - i would never define myself as an 'ex employee of xxx' as you leave it behind it doesnt define you.

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  Hard question! I am just me, but when I start talking to people, then you get onto family, then it gets a bit hard.

  "Yes, I have two sons, and three grandsons."

  So, where to they live?

  "Well, I don't really know"

  Oh, why not?

  "Well, they're Jehovahs Witnesses and don't talk to me"!

  Then the real questions start!!!! Good anti-witness, though!

  But apart from that, I've moved on, got a degree, great job, great partner.

  Beachwalker
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  Man to be jailed for writing child porn stories

  by joenobody in

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  http://www.ottawasun.com/news/ottawa/2009/10/29/11570841.html.

  man to be jailed for writing child porn storiesby megan gillis, courts bureau.

  a man got the minimum sentence of 14 days in jail thursday for possessing child pornography stories about sex involving teen girls and incest he wrote himself and never tried to publish or share.. judge hugh fraser called the facts in the case of michael jay thomas rather unique because it dealt only with written material.. thomas, 43, pleaded guilty to one count of possessing child pornography.

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  I guess he was prosecuted because that's how it starts in some cases. Soon writing about it won't be enough.

  I know that the State Library of Queensland, Australia pulled a book off the shelves, and in all the public libraries in the state, because it was deemed inappropriate. The story was similar, an older man and a teenage girl.

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  "Won without a word"

  by Beachwalker in

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  Sorry, pressed the wrong button!

  OK, my rant - "won without a word" isn't that the biggest load of hogwash! I was reading a previous post about it being OK to hit your wife. The scenario is usually an 'unbelieving mate' being won without a word.

  This is where I realised my ex was a hypocrite in a cult full of hypocrites. I was emotionally abused, and on one occasion hit, by my so-called 'believing' mate. Where was Jehovah's spirit then? I realised that I didn't want to be a hypocrite, and that's why I stopped going.

  I realised that the term means that you lead by example, but even if you put up with being treated like sh**, the other bad examples of the jdubs will outweigh your little contribution, don't you think?

  Most 'worldly' people will think you are just stupid staying with somebody who hits you, they won't think that you are noble!

  OK, rant over ;-)

  Beachwalker
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  "Won without a word"

  by Beachwalker in

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