I remember when I had one of those loving "shepherding calls" and I asked the leading elder why is it that some friends are so reserved in their love for others. His response in a rather cavalier manner: "Because they are possibly wanting to protect their spirituality from those who they view as spiritually weak." What an assured message to convey to an ailing one. And it is this very sad stance for why many do find themselves leaving this wasted religious cult.
Girlie
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Amazing how they are so damned sure of my views!!
by AK - Jeff inmy wife ran into a jw the other day who apologized to her for having 'shunned' my wife the other day.
turns out that my wife never even saw her the day she was 'shunned'.. the apology was telling though: "i just wanted to say i was sorry for ignoring you the other day.
i was under the impression that you had 'left jehovah' just as your husband has done.
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Question for Faders.....
by lepermessiah indid you all start getting the "full court press" from "friends" to start doing more things socially as you began your fade?.
i havent been invited to do a whole lot the last few months, but now all of a sudden i am getting phone calls and invites to do things.
fortunately, it hasnt been - "hey lets go out in field service" or anything like that since i would tell them to take a hike (which at this point means make myself busy at work or otherwise) .
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Girlie
I am experiencing the opposite as well. I get a few invites, but just like OTWO said in a previous post of mine, a fade is a fade and I do not want nor need any fair-weathered friends in my life nor do I want to be pressured with all that "Come back to Jah" nonsense. I have recently joined facebook and found a lot of high school friends on there and have made little bit of friends from old jobs I had and my volunteer service. Since fading from the borg, I have been able to focus on myself and planning major and meaningful goals. I say life, as challenging as it can be sometimes, is truly good.
PS - In joining Facebook, I have had a couple of JWs wanting to add me to their friends list. Felt good to ignore them.
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JW wedding reception - Should I go? Would you?
by Girlie ini've been invited to attend a wedding reception of a "sister" that i was formerly close with.
there was no major breaking up of the friendship or anything, other than her not liking a statement i made.
just a distancing apart.
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Girlie
LOL @ Finally-Free. That is the total sum of her and the borg's worth.
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JW wedding reception - Should I go? Would you?
by Girlie ini've been invited to attend a wedding reception of a "sister" that i was formerly close with.
there was no major breaking up of the friendship or anything, other than her not liking a statement i made.
just a distancing apart.
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Girlie
Thanks all for your replies and for helping me to see the error of my thoughts. What was I thinking? Not gonna go nor will I send her a card. I have no desire to rekindle any relationship with this chick nor do I feel up to an interogation process either.
I thought the samething. No invitation to the wedding, but an invitation to the reception? Very strange. It was a broadcast email invitation and I too found it tacky as hell.
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JW wedding reception - Should I go? Would you?
by Girlie ini've been invited to attend a wedding reception of a "sister" that i was formerly close with.
there was no major breaking up of the friendship or anything, other than her not liking a statement i made.
just a distancing apart.
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Girlie
In all honesty, I am very surprised that a "brother" is willing to even marry this chick. She has some extreme mental issues.
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Let's Have a Friday Hug-In
by snowbird inplease hug someone.. anyone.. like this: (((((((palmtree))))))).
thanks.. sylvia.
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Girlie
((((((JWN)))))
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JW wedding reception - Should I go? Would you?
by Girlie ini've been invited to attend a wedding reception of a "sister" that i was formerly close with.
there was no major breaking up of the friendship or anything, other than her not liking a statement i made.
just a distancing apart.
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Girlie
I've been invited to attend a wedding reception of a "sister" that I was formerly close with. There was no major breaking up of the friendship or anything, other than her not liking a statement I made. Just a distancing apart. However, I haven't heard from this woman in over 2 years, so this is a new discovery for me (actually have heard of her engagement from a third-party).
Since I am new in my fade and have abandoned all friendships with JWs (except one) not sure if I should attend or not. She personalized the email asking me to attend and I don't want to appear rude. I am very happy for her and do hope the best, but to not hear from this person in such a long time and to all of a sudden receive an invitation is a bit awkward to me.
I know it is a personal decision, but I am just curious of what would you have done if in this situation?
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Logic Teaser
by TD inin a remote village, half the population lies all the time; the other half tells the truth all the time.
a traveler approaches three natives in this village.
he asks the first one, "are you a liar?
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Girlie
I agree with Snowbird. All of them are liars.
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Elders Trash Face Book
by sammielee24 injust found out that elders and spies are trolling face book and my space.
some elders in xxx congregation began trolling face book looking for wayward souls and using the links to other friends etc to get more info.
they waited until they had enough ammo on the 'friends' and then printed off some of the conversations being had....questioned the 'friends' who of course denied everything..and then they produced the printed copies to catch them in the lies.
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Girlie
I remember this being brought up at an assembly. The elder made mention of how they have a number of users' info from a network site and how some were sitting among the crowd. Everyone whispering and wondering who they were. Not surprised they're going that route.
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FlyingHighNow Needs Our Love & Support
by snowbird inher son, jesse, is in serious condition.. my son is in surgery and may lose his hand and arm.. jesse got an infection in a cut on his finger.
his finger and hand swelled to the size of an arm .. .
they have to do surgery on his hand and arm.
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Girlie
You and your son are in my thoughts and prayers FHN.