You can always explain to your wife that you just aren't comfortable going to meetings anymore, remove yourself from being a servant, stop meetings and service, but don't talk anymore (at least until you feel it is safe) about what you have discovered. You have a right to make decisions about how your child is raised, so you can demand things there, as well. Just keep researching, take your time with it, but if meetings, etc. are just unbearable, then you'll have to make a desicion about that. I hope things go well. That said, many of us have not had an easy time since leaving, but I think everyone who has left says even though it's been difficult, with the shunning thing, it's still been worth it.
Posts by Cacky
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56Greetings! My first post
by BU2B inhello all at jwn!
i have been a lurker here the last few months and have been going through the process of researching both sides of the story of jehovahs witnesses.
i was raised in the borg, got married and now have a young child.. my wife is very much dedicated to the organization and will justify anything the "slave" does putting it off on the borgs imperfection.
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Serious Dissent Now Blowing The Roof Off Of Scientology
by mind blown inhttp://blogs.villagevoice.com/runninscared/2012/06/scientology_roanne_leake_ron_miscavige_sr.php.
multiple sources are telling the voice that scientology's international base in california has experienced stunning new defections -- roanne leake, who is l. ron hubbard's granddaughter, has "blown" the base, which was her home for more than 20 years.
but just as shocking, at about the same time, the base was also abandoned by david miscavige's father, ron miscavige sr.. we sent a request for comment to scientology spokeswoman karin pouw, but have not received a reply.
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Cacky
And where's the innocent cat that gets destroyed with the wicked, who looked like normal working folk to me! So, all the other doomsayers are wrong because there is no proof, but they are right!!! Why would they expect a reader to accept their word that all the others are wrong but they aren't?!
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Reasoning From the Scriptures with the Sisters
by MsGrowingGirl20 inimportant announcement!
new publication is now available.
it is entitled reasoning with the sisters.
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Unexpected call from my JW Sister - Unbelievable Hypocrisy!
by chichimama_2 ini posted a long experience earlier today along with an email letter from my sister.
sent to me back in january informing me she was going to be shunning me.. had not heard a word from her for 6 months then.
my sister called out of the blue one evening last month.
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Hospitality after Public Talk - ???
by RubaDub ini see a lot of mentions about hospitality after the public talk and honestly, i guess it is a practice that was not in the ny/ct area i grew up in or here in south florida today.. i grew up with an elder father and grandfather who gave public talks and were generally well-liked.
as a child, i never recall being invited to someone's house after the meeting.
granted, it was rare to travel more than an hour but regardless, it was typical to get in the car and head home after the "amens.
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Cacky
We had them here in the midwest. It seemed always a strain on the elders because no one would sign up. We were in the rurals, and people didn't have a lot of money. A bit closer to the suburbs now, and the Spanish cong. held their weekly bookstudy in one room while we had our Thursday meeting. Once a month they'd have a pot luck, and I mean it was a feast. There were at least six crock pots going, a table absolutely covered in food. Must be a cultural thing. I tried all of their foods, but just couldn't stomach Mexican food. The best I can do is Taco bell, which I know isnt' REAL Mexican. Our old cong. in the rural area stopped the food night for the study held at the hall because someone said they left a mess behind. Of course the complainers weren't the ones who attended that book study. ANd I know we clean up. Loving people there.
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Wondering about this Child abuse thng,How do I file a case?
by aquagirl inkinda wondering about this,because our p.o.used to take me,and probably other young girls out,alone,in field service,and let his penis hang out of his pants.i was so young,that i really wasnt sure what it was.being raised on a farm,and slaughtered many animals,i though it was some sort of entrail'..i know,ignorant country girl.this happened for years tho..another girlfriend had an elder try to touch her on several occasions,and was publicly reproved when she told her mum{a devout jw} about it...not looking for any money,but it would be nice to get all of them.the guy that i had my issues with had an airplane and always counseled others on materialism.my brother got 'counseled'by this clown, because he put an 8track in his car!!
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Canadian Newspaper Willing to Cover Watchtower Child Abuse Issue
by headisspinning ini have been in touch with a canadian reporter for a major newspaper.
she is interested in covering the candace conti story but needs to make it relevant to canadians.
so, she has asked if there is a canadian victim of child abuse who would be willing to speak with her.
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WTS cannot take a "kinder, gentler" stand on GLBT
by irondork inin another thread, socrateswannebe shared district convention notes:.
a kinder, gentler jehovah emerges at the 2012 dc?.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/227660/1/a-kinder-gentler-jehovah-emerges-at-the-2012-dc.
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Artificial Hearts
by LauraMyers1 ini am currently in my first year of sixth form and am completing an extended project on the future of artificial hearts.
a part of this project will include religious and ethical views on the devices.. there are two types of these devices: ones with a constant flow (i.e.
they don't beat or pump as a human heart would), and ones which have a pumping action.. if you have any opinion on this, as in if you would have one if needed as opposed to a transplant or if you think that making something like this is right, i would greatly appreciate your comments, from both a religious and personal point of view.. it would also be of interest if you could state your views on total heart transplants.. thankyou for your help.
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Cacky
I believe, though dont' have documents to prove, (I have left the religion) that they Used to think your heart did have effects on your thinking. The interesting, if I'm correct, is that, havent' they recently come out saying that the heart does contain some neurons, such as are in the brain? Anyway, at present, I don't think jws would be against the artificial or transplanted hearts, as their policies currently stand. Be aware, those can change any day. To be honest, they used to think that your very being of who you are was held in your blood, because of a scripture that says something like, "the life, the soul, is in the blood." Because of this, they actually believed that if your child were forced by court order to receive a blood transfusion to save it's life, then "it wasn't the same child anymore." Some jws have refused to take their children home from the hospital in years past, and even very recent years in Africa, because a blood transfusion was forced on the child and the parent(s) believed it "was no longer their child anymore.) This used to occur in the United States as well. They have changed their teaching on that, now, so you'll only find old timers make comments like I heard about 25 years ago when a couple had to have their child take blood by court oder. The man, an elder, said to his wife, "That's not their child anymore." By this they meant, they thought the child became, or took on the personality of whomever's blood they were given. I suppose in some cases, that might lead to a case of multiple personalities. lol