Butterflyleia85

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  I'm back! How is everyone today?!

  by Butterflyleia85 in

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  sd-7, casper, isaacaustin, alltimejeff, bluecanary, chalam, snowbird, flipper, etc.. i haven't been on here for a while and just wanted to say hello.

  share some news.... i'm pregnant with my first baby boy.

  i haven't been going to the meetings very well recently just cause since the baby i hate living a fake life while having the responsibility of being a respectable mother.. my grandmother on my dad's side along with the rest of that side of the family wants nothing to do with me until i am a jw again and i know she still loves me and still thinks of me just has a bad way of showing it because of the shunning rule.. my jw mother and jw grandma on my mom's side are the only ones i will allow to see my baby freely because they know what true love is and still talk to me and treat me normal.. my sister i don't know what to think but i pretend she just lives to far away and has her own life.

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  Butterflyleia85

  sd-7, Hehe they do have cool little clothes and toys for the little ones… I feel like I get to be a kid again when I play toys and video games with my nephews, 4 and 7. And I think you gave good advice, thanks! JAnd I agree it would be a lot of stress on me to try and get back in just because I’m an emotional person anyways. I also have a lot of mixed feelings about my family and what I been taught.

  Congratulations on your anniversary! And sorry you don’t feel good. Hope things get brighter and you feel better for ya! J
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  help please

  by phoebed in

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  hi just a quick question.

  i know some of you here are stil in kingdom hall.

  i am looking for an article in watchtower ( it was a study article) about 5 month ago where they said that we are not to hold hands with our loved ones during prayer time.

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  OMG!! That totally is the most retarted rule or judgemental thing I have ever heard! Would I have said that when I was JW, no, but I would be thinking it!
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  Mental torture

  by stuckinamovement in

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  it is pretty interesting to see the mental, emotional and physical impact that people have when realize the teachings of the org are lies.

  i am not going to name any names or point fingers but i can say i have tremendous empathy for those who are recently aware.. let me splane,.

  now that i know about the lies that i have been taught and subsequently taught people myself, i have become like a lost person.

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  Butterflyleia85

  {hugs}
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  I'm back! How is everyone today?!

  by Butterflyleia85 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  sd-7, casper, isaacaustin, alltimejeff, bluecanary, chalam, snowbird, flipper, etc.. i haven't been on here for a while and just wanted to say hello.

  share some news.... i'm pregnant with my first baby boy.

  i haven't been going to the meetings very well recently just cause since the baby i hate living a fake life while having the responsibility of being a respectable mother.. my grandmother on my dad's side along with the rest of that side of the family wants nothing to do with me until i am a jw again and i know she still loves me and still thinks of me just has a bad way of showing it because of the shunning rule.. my jw mother and jw grandma on my mom's side are the only ones i will allow to see my baby freely because they know what true love is and still talk to me and treat me normal.. my sister i don't know what to think but i pretend she just lives to far away and has her own life.

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  yelp I think it's best for the little one. :)
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  If Worldly people stop donating blood Witnesses wouldn't have any "fractions" to use!

  by Witness 007 in

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  greatest religious hypocracy ever.....witnesses would be disfellowshiped for donating blood.....but can use fractions kindly donated by "worldly" people so witnesses can heal!

  they condemn the blood banks as greedy, corupt, unsafe institutions.....yet they use them!.

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  haha omg you made a great point to to funny!
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  Alot has Changed and I'm going BACK

  by Butterflyleia85 in

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  i bet people has forgotten me but thats ok because i know they have helped me a lot on here.. .

  anyways i think the last time i been on here i mentioned my jw sister not going to my wedding.

  for those that do remember my story, the wedding was beautiful on the beach in key west, fl!

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  that was my plan but I found out I was pregnant... I reconsider it. here is my recent comment on the topic. thanks for the post though...

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/202107/1/Im-back-How-is-everyone-today
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  Why You Loyal Witnesses Should Oppose Disfellowshipping

  by metatron in

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  one night you are driving down a dark road.

  another car swerves into your lane and hits you head on.

  you wake up days later and discover you are paralyzed.

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  My grandma is from Japan I wonder if that is why she is so strict about not even say congradulations on me having a baby... My grandma on my mom side on the other hand came into the truth cause of my grandpa and his sister... I wonder if she had doubts all along and that is why she is so easy going about it.

  The elders are kinda like that I think based on how they were brought up gives them a conscience of weither or not to treat DFment with strictness or with a kinder side. The hall i was brought up in is so stricted and set on sticking with the rules and the hall I was going to saw it more benefial to be more inviting and incouraging on what they were allowed to do... they even gave me their number and said call us if you need anything.
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  I'm back! How is everyone today?!

  by Butterflyleia85 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  sd-7, casper, isaacaustin, alltimejeff, bluecanary, chalam, snowbird, flipper, etc.. i haven't been on here for a while and just wanted to say hello.

  share some news.... i'm pregnant with my first baby boy.

  i haven't been going to the meetings very well recently just cause since the baby i hate living a fake life while having the responsibility of being a respectable mother.. my grandmother on my dad's side along with the rest of that side of the family wants nothing to do with me until i am a jw again and i know she still loves me and still thinks of me just has a bad way of showing it because of the shunning rule.. my jw mother and jw grandma on my mom's side are the only ones i will allow to see my baby freely because they know what true love is and still talk to me and treat me normal.. my sister i don't know what to think but i pretend she just lives to far away and has her own life.

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  Thanks isaacaustin! Your a great person too! Thanks for being there for me and keeping in touch! {hugs}
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  Why You Loyal Witnesses Should Oppose Disfellowshipping

  by metatron in

  1. jw
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  one night you are driving down a dark road.

  another car swerves into your lane and hits you head on.

  you wake up days later and discover you are paralyzed.

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  Mrs. Peck

  As far as a DF'd person in need, I think that any decent Witness would not deny that person help, it may even be arranged by the Elder body who may choose to extend assistance for that person's basic needs. That is just human decency. I would help that person regardless. And the guidelines regarding DFing state to not actively associate with that perso, say recreationally. Also, guidelines state not to discuss "spiritual matters" with that person (unless you are an Elder offering encouragement to that person to come back). There is nothing that I have ever heard of that incinuates not to help a person in need, even if DFd. I seriously doubt that Jehovah God would look down upon providing care to those who need it. If anything, I would think that is what being a true Christian is about.

  That's what I thought too. but it depends on the Elder... It's a whole different story with me and many of my DFed friends how they treat them in each hall.

  palmtree67

  A pastor I know said he felt his calling was to help others have a better relationship with God. Not to dictate and enforce rules.

  If there was a church like I would go...
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  Why You Loyal Witnesses Should Oppose Disfellowshipping

  by metatron in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  one night you are driving down a dark road.

  another car swerves into your lane and hits you head on.

  you wake up days later and discover you are paralyzed.

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  Butterflyleia85

  I accept that punishment for my sins was nessary and in the case of disfellowshipped I deserved it in the eyes of being a JW, but it was my first and I was young. After being DFed and getting back in, I decided it was the worst punishment ever. I never realized how much I needed my family and that I would really be shunned for a year! I was ready by 6 months to get back in... but they refused to let me in and I grow really depressed. Finally it lead to self abuse and to greater sins unimagable. I got back in but it was to late I was now consumed by a whole different problem. And after being in I then felt I was progressing all over again yet they wanted me to alreally have that taken care of before getting in and when I sinned I was caught and DFed once again. This time I decided not to get depressed but see the good in me, that I'm better then how I was treated, and had to leave the thinking of JW before truely healing myself. I needed the pride they striped away from me and I needed to feel ok with my life before I ended it. Meeting my husband, reading self help books, come on here as a support, etc. has helped more then you know. So do I thank the Jehovah's Witnesses who abandoned me because of my sins or for the people who truely saw me as an imperfect human that needed help?!