Thank you Bonsai for your comment! Yes take it slow is my plan. And so neat to hear about butterflies. I'm glad people are doing something about helping protect the little creatures of this plant. Our honey bees also are in trouble I been reading.
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My sister is on Public Reproof... Will she fade (our relationship grow) or will she go back...
by Butterflyleia85 inodds are in my favor but i been so heart broken i don't even want to be optimistic about it.. so a few weeks ago my sister has opened up our relationship.
she hasn't had much contact with me for 5 years because of my disfellowshipment.
i did post in the past on this site a few points that showed we had bad breaking because of my disfellowshipment.
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My sister is on Public Reproof... Will she fade (our relationship grow) or will she go back...
by Butterflyleia85 inodds are in my favor but i been so heart broken i don't even want to be optimistic about it.. so a few weeks ago my sister has opened up our relationship.
she hasn't had much contact with me for 5 years because of my disfellowshipment.
i did post in the past on this site a few points that showed we had bad breaking because of my disfellowshipment.
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Odds are in my favor but I been so heart broken I don't even want to be optimistic about it.
So a few weeks ago my sister has opened up our relationship. She hasn't had much contact with me for 5 years because of my disfellowshipment. I did post in the past on this site a few points that showed we had bad breaking because of my disfellowshipment. We were very close growing up so this was devastating. As an older sister I wanted to protect her and I also blamed alot of what happened on myself. So the space was good for her to grow and she has, well we both have. She's at the early stage of the mental toll that Jehovah's Witness mentality brings (she's doing the flighty phase I went through... which as an older sister I warned her about), the stage where she will have to decide will this brake her or make her stronger. She is mentally still in, meaning she believes in Jehovah and the organization. She made it clear that she believes in Jehovah and she wishes that we don't discuss religion... (Than she ended up bring it up when she visited second time, me keeping my part but her open, my husband told me to stand up for myself by cutting her off and reminding her of our bondaries... part of me says yes but the other part of me says this is how she can connect and I gain her trust... if I can just hold back from commenting). She is finding that the reasoning isn't matching up with her desire so she's struggling in what she calls "finding herself". Her husband wasn't supportive (got the elders to side with him). They are split so now it's our mom that's helping her emotionally through this.
While my mom still seems to be a mystery to me, because she gives the gifts on the holidays and is supportive she doesn't want to celebrate herself and still believes in Jehovah (this may be a front because she still wants to keep the trust between my sister and me), she has fully left and dates men outside the organization. She hasn't gone to the halls for 5 years. She has been to the memorials with my sister but I doubt she will if my sister doesn't go. I'm very happy to gain a sister but very emotionally anxious... The books are working that I have been reading. Emotionally Intelligence by Daniel Goleman is one I'm on now. It's making sense why I have less coping skills then my husband or any other person that face struggle.
I do have my guard up (weither that be the truama and all the mental work it took to "let go") but then again I can't be afraid to reach out (she is my sister). This is me going to have to reach out of my comfort zone (self help books in practise) and make sure to keep close to those who have established trust and reliable, shown unconditional love.
If you have any wise words, prayers, experiences, anything... much appreciation.
Thank you for reading.
And just wanted to say how honored and proud I am of my sister. She is in nonprofit organizations to help those that's been sexually abused. She wants to go back to school to become therapist and help women with confidence. Right now a strong lady, business manager, and independent.
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Buddhism Anyone?
by LaurenM inso, i have recently been delving in buddhism and i must say it all makes sense!
like, the philosophies and ideas are what i've always believed but could never put a name to.
for example, they don't believe in god, they teach acceptance of all faiths, that peace can be achieved - not by changing other people - but by changing yourself, that everyone has goodness in themselves, that happiness can be gained internally (not externally as a gift from god), and that life is temporary so we should enjoy it!
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Yes I favor Buddhism too. :) it does make sense. I love hearing inspiration words from them. The belief of inter enlightenment resonates with me so much. Higher conscience and the greater good. :) -
Wisdom in age, gratitude, and strength... Helping others and giving back!
by Butterflyleia85 ini have reached my thirties now age of wisdom and self development i feel.
been married for five years and have a son, age 4, and a daughter, age 2 the greatest teachers in my life.
their joy in small moments, ability to forgive and move on, and to laugh in simple things.
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I have reached my thirties now age of wisdom and self development I feel. Been married for five years and have a son, age 4, and a daughter, age 2 the greatest teachers in my life. Their joy in small moments, ability to forgive and move on, and to laugh in simple things. It's different world when your small.
I'm blessed I can protect my family I'm raising at this moment when I see the hardships others have faced and the trauma and self abuse I witnessed. How we handle things has a great deal of impact on others I never even realized.
Words also need to be used mindfully.
With that said all I want to do now I spread love. I'm so very very grateful for this site to give me a place to be open and authentic. I said some words that had a lot more expression and feeling behind the computer screen I wish I could have expressed. Writing is defiantly not my talent.
I'm very deep thinker but communicate so small minded-ly when I'm over whelmed with emotion. I also want to say as a disfellowshipped feelings of never really being able of reaching our full potential will surface but we get a second chance through others, like our children, the youth of our nation. We can raise up and help others and therefore we benefit. We can use our talents and abilities to do good.
Life is beautiful and amazing journey!
Each moment brings so many life lessons we just have to be awaken to it.
I want to make things right, I want to keep growing and learning, and I want to be connected to the ppl who were there for me.
I want to bring happiness to others and well I found that it started with me and looking at my flaws... I'm nobody but I'm worthy of love just like everyone else.
I hope everyone finds positive influence and wise mentors in their life to guide them in the light we all can live in harmony with.
Bless this site! Jehovah-witness.net for the people it attracted and what everyone shares here. It's brought hope and great connections to amazing people I will never forget! This is 6 years from when they first awaken my eyes! I still come back as a reminder of all I learned, the gratitude, and friends I made. Thank you! I am involved now in a support group here in Indiana for exJehovah Witnesses in what they call Religious Recovery meetup.com.
Thanks again!!
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Want to join a Fitness Challenge Group? As a exJW we can concur as a team and live happy healthy lives!!
by Butterflyleia85 inas a team beachbody coach i will commit to helping you lose weight, gain weight, or challenge yourself to reach your fitness goals!.
you can join this accountablity group for support and motivation to be healthy!.
it's been my passion with all the help i recieved on this site.
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As a Team Beachbody Coach I will commit to helping you lose weight, gain weight, or challenge yourself to reach your fitness goals!
You can join this accountablity group for support and motivation to be healthy!
It's been my passion with all the help I recieved on this site. I want to give back! I'm good at being a coach and at fitness so I want to use my gifts for good. If you want to just follow my page to see what it's all about
My Facebook Beachbody Challenge Group test page is: https://www.facebook.com/McCandlessChallenge
If your ready for the CHALLENGE (start a fitness program) starting December 29th 2014 let me know on Facebook!
Best wishes everyone! And please keep positive and healthy during the holiday season! I know sometimes thinking about family can be hard but your not alone! Support is here on Jehovahs-Witness.net. I haven't been on here in a while and just wanted to tell everyone have Happy Holiday! And thank you for giving me freedom with all the knowledge and incouragement I recieved on here!
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Are my children in danger of being indoctrinated if I let them spend the night with their JW family?
by Butterflyleia85 inso... i'm writing because i have mixed feelings.
keeping my kids safe is my goal... until they are old enough to understand and reason on their own.
my mother gave me the tapes (that i gave her back in december) of combating mind control by steven hassan, saying that she didn't have a tape player... reminded me of three years ago when i gave her crisis of conscience by ray franz and she said it's to big book to read and she's not a reader.
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Wow such awesome advices!! Love you guys!
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Are my children in danger of being indoctrinated if I let them spend the night with their JW family?
by Butterflyleia85 inso... i'm writing because i have mixed feelings.
keeping my kids safe is my goal... until they are old enough to understand and reason on their own.
my mother gave me the tapes (that i gave her back in december) of combating mind control by steven hassan, saying that she didn't have a tape player... reminded me of three years ago when i gave her crisis of conscience by ray franz and she said it's to big book to read and she's not a reader.
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Yes I do need to go to bed myself. I just got done watching this which was encouraging http://www.freedomofmind.com/Media/video.php?id=23 . I still have time my kids are 3 and 1. They won't retain to much of what she may say to them. And I still have hope in my mother. I just have to ask the right questions I beleive. As far as my grandma... I think I will leave it at what it is now our short small visits.
Thank you everyone for your advice and help. I do think I will be more careful I don't want them to create phobias in my children. I've seen pictures in the past where my pioneer sister and her husband came over to visit at my moms while my kids were there and they were reading bible story book.
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Are my children in danger of being indoctrinated if I let them spend the night with their JW family?
by Butterflyleia85 inso... i'm writing because i have mixed feelings.
keeping my kids safe is my goal... until they are old enough to understand and reason on their own.
my mother gave me the tapes (that i gave her back in december) of combating mind control by steven hassan, saying that she didn't have a tape player... reminded me of three years ago when i gave her crisis of conscience by ray franz and she said it's to big book to read and she's not a reader.
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So... I'm writing because I have mixed feelings. Keeping my kids safe is my goal... until they are old enough to understand and reason on their own. My mother gave me the tapes (that I gave her back in December) of Combating Mind Control by Steven Hassan, saying that she didn't have a tape player... reminded me of three years ago when I gave her Crisis of Conscience by Ray Franz and she said it's to big book to read and she's not a reader. Betting around the bush so they won' ... t hurt my feelings. My grandma gave me back the bible (through my mom) with a note "My dear [granddaugher], Thank you for the picture of [your daugher]. She is so pretty. I want you to know I appreciate the bible but it would not be right of me to keep it, as the print is to small and also I feel it's hard to read. Also, this bible does not help anyone to know God. God has a name and his name should be there 7,000 places and Jesus said he made his father's name known and he wants us all to know it and sanctify it. That would mean we would do all we can to show we love our creator and make his name known. Always enjoyed you and hope and pray we can be there when grandpa is brought to life here on the earth. He was so faithful. Love Grandma." It Brought me to tears because I love my grandma and my mother... I wish I could show them all that I have learned but there is to much and I know it would never go over well. I want to just leave it all be and just enjoy our little visits... hope that they won't shut me out completely. My tears won't stop. I fear the worst that all my family will completely shut me out. They done it before what is to stop them later. My mom says when she goes back she wants the big print from the watchtower. I just nodded my head and smiled. My kids are over my mom's and all I can think is, is it safe when they are older to let them spend the night? .... Will she go back and read my children JW literature? I worry all the time.
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I spent Hubby's money to help support JWN
by KariOtt ini was in the market for a new down comforter and after pricing several companies on line i saw an ad here for the pacific feather co. even though they were slightly higher in price i decided to buy from them.
i just had to since hubby is jw and i'm not.
this allowed me to use his money to help support this site.
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Hahaha Love it!!
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Elders receive a report that I am openly displaying false religious symbol
by confusedandalone inwhen you look at the image above what do you see?
a sneaker or an outward display that i am now following after another religious group?.
well yesterday i had a 10 minute conversation with an elder who finally got the balls to call me.
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Wow! What burden they have over the Jehovah's Witnesses!! That's so sad! Well if it gets Jehovah's Witnesses fed up!! Wahoo!! Can't wait to see my Jehovah's Witness family soooon!! lol (I was disfellowshipped about 4 years ago and learned about Grace! Now I never wanna go back to Jehovah's Witnesses)