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  Not sure how to handle this one

  by Heartbreaker in

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  one of my children was a twin.

  i'm hoping that by stating this, i'm not giving too much of my identity away, but here i go anyway.. one child a twin, only survivor.

  it was always told to this kid that the twin would maybe be met in the "new system".

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  They had no friends their age at the hall. Our family was the only one with young children to speak of, and they often wanted friends from school etc, and now they have all they want. Regular playdates and sports activities to boot.

  I agree about the forced changes, as they didn't decide to leave, we did....but at the same time I'm not ready to sit them down and tell them all the doctrical fallacies etc...they are young. I just cringe hearing them parroting what was so obviously said to them over and over by us, and heard at the hall, and not be faced with the reality that I allowed, even encouraged that. It stings.

  But the twin thing, that was tough. Real tough. I too grieve giving up that dream, honestly, as that was a child of mine too, and a twin connection that was never denied to my surviving child...but for this child of mine, tears in the eyes etc, made it so hard to swallow. I just gave a hug and held tight for a bit and said we still didn't know all the answers, and sometimes that's ok, having thought we had all the answers before, and didn't really. I'd rather be right that we don't know it all, than be wrong and assume we did.

  I hope that you are right about the time passing quickly and things looking up for them. Time will tell...Thanks Robyn :)
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  STOP Talking to Your Family OR ELSE!

  by UnDisfellowshipped in

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  " (the watchtower july 1st 1963 issue, page 411).

  " (the watchtower july 1st 1963 issue, page 413).

  " (the watchtower july 15th 1963 issue, page 446).

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  A warm, warm welcome Oceanblue. You've stated a whole lot there in your first post, and it covered a lot of ground. Now you know. So, go forward, as slow as you need, but hold that TRUTH close to you, and move forward. So happy to hear at the end of your post that things are looking up for you.
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  Not sure how to handle this one

  by Heartbreaker in

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  one of my children was a twin.

  i'm hoping that by stating this, i'm not giving too much of my identity away, but here i go anyway.. one child a twin, only survivor.

  it was always told to this kid that the twin would maybe be met in the "new system".

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  Heartbreaker

  One of my children was a twin. I'm hoping that by stating this, I'm not giving too much of my identity away, but here I go anyway.

  One child a twin, only survivor. It was always told to this kid that the twin would maybe be met in the "new system". It was asked of me tonight now that we don't go to the meetins anymore, how would we ever see the twin. Obviously the child thinks that others will still get the reward, and since we chose holidays and birthdays and freedom on weekends, that they won't get that prize. How sad. I'm just struck over and over again how deeply this religion was engrained in our lives, even for our young children.

  The other thing we hear regularly is "Not as strong/big/high/smart/(etc) as Jehovah!!" By another one of our children. We don't even TALK about Jehovah, God, or religion in our house at all, and it's been 6 months since we've set foot in a Kingdom Hall. This child is younger than school age. It truly makes my heart ache for all the indoctrination I allowed, encouraged, and personally did. Wondering how long it will take before it fades away, and they are free of it, and "normal" kids.

  PS. Also, a lunchbox for our family was found as we were cleaning out a closet, and one kid insisted keeping it, because it was for assemblies of course. SIGH
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  I feel so down :(

  by creativhoney in

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  Hugs to you honey, there are friends here. Anything in particular bothering you?
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  Merry Christmas Everybody!

  by sooner7nc in

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  happy holidays to you all!.

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  Holy Closeup Sooner!! Merry Christmas right back atcha!
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  Thanks to everyone here!!!

  by 2pink in

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  i don't post much, but i read here everyday.

  i just wanted to thank everyone here for always replying to my posts with sincerity and good advice .

  i always feel better after coming here and reading the threads.

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  2pink, you know I love ya. Thanks to you too for being a wonderful support! I know how you feel about the family. It's just so glaringly obvious from the outside looking in how it IS closed off, and it IS judgemental, and it IS NOT loving and kind. That makes me feel better, just thinking that. And also to have friends like you, and those here at this board. I too come here every day.

  So I'll say here what I can't really say on Facebook this year (even though I have pictures of a tree with my kids, and a santa lap sitting lol)

  MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!! enjoy those gingerbread men with your kids....precious times.
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  This one is a doozie............

  by Vachi 8 He Is in

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  a couple weeks ago my outta town dub uncles and aunts came in from philly and of course being that the family is here we all have to go to the we'redumb hall.

  the wt topic was about jealousy, and the good parts and bad parts of it.

  the first thing i thought of is "is god not jealous?

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  But Vachi, don't you feel better for having gone? Spiritually upbuilt?? Brotherly love? Sheparded? ~~Tap tap...is this thing on? ~~~
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  Calling all smart people for help

  by Heartbreaker in

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  my manager expects a business plan tomorrow morning, and of course with all the holiday stuff i totally blew it off until the last minute.

  if it weren't for procrastination, i'd have no plan at all.

  i need to show how i plan to be profitabl, and i am so new to all of this, i have no clue where to start.

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  Thanks Outlaw
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  I just feel like crying... I'm so fed up of the hypocrisy!

  by cattails in

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  i was very disgusted with the wt study for today.. towards the end of the article it refers to matthew 15 (see quoted scripture below).

  this is a beautiful passage where jesus says his followers need to be hospitable, care for sick, hungry and imprisoned brothers.. they turn it around and say that for jw's this means they need to support the "faithful and discreet slave" by going in door-to-door witnessing, making monetary contributions to support the worldwide witnessing work, and following the directions and counsel of congregation elders.. and the worst part of it all is that there were several commenters giving almost word for word answers to that effect, they didn't even seem to listen to previous comments, they just repeated mindlessly what the paragraph said... i was ready to burst.

  mom knew i was about to have a fit right there and then.

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  Cattails, this is precisely how I felt the last few months attending the meetings. I would go back and forth from listening and being furious, and the gazing off in the distance thinking of just about anything other than what was being spoken about.

  I really feel for you, haing to be there with no choice.
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  Calling all smart people for help

  by Heartbreaker in

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  my manager expects a business plan tomorrow morning, and of course with all the holiday stuff i totally blew it off until the last minute.

  if it weren't for procrastination, i'd have no plan at all.

  i need to show how i plan to be profitabl, and i am so new to all of this, i have no clue where to start.

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  of course the formatting didn't look the same, and there are typos, but this is the whole deal. Now, for me??