Heck mate ..... that is one hell of a burden to be carrying ...... I am so sorry to hear that.
Wish I could give you both a hug and make it all go away but we know that things don't happen that way.
Mate, when your good lady has come past the surgery, and is physically recovered enough to travel, you just yell if you would like a holiday in the sun. I would be happy to have you stay and know others up here who would love to share with you and let you relax on our beaches, enjoy our tropical rain forests and melt in our tropical heat without it costing you a small fortune
Pick a flower for us and give it to her with our love and best wishes will you .....
JanG