Posts by miseryloveselders

Women's intuition is rarely wrong. I'm single, so I can't speak from the relationship perspective, but I work with a bunch of women and its close enough. Some days you have to tune them out. If I lived with one of them, I'd have to form some kind of mental resistance. I love women, believe me I really do. Somedays though I don't want to hear that stuff, and when you're not used to dealing with women's emotions and their need to communicate incessantly, you're tempted to tell them to STFU. All day long, their husband or boyfriend didn't do this, or their kids this or that, or the resteraunt messed up their order, or its the teacher's fault, blah blah blah......so as a man, one has to develope a defense mechanism. Kind of like a mental force field. Every now and then they get mad at me here at work because I tune them out. I wouldn't call it ignoring them as much as its filtering what they have to say. Me personally, my brain is always dealing with something. I'm struggling with anxiety because I can't stop thinking about things. My mind just keeps racing, and I believe plenty of guys are the same way.

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I love Christmas!

by Newborn in

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friends

this will be my third christmas and i love it!!!

i love buying gifts to my friends and family (those who are out) .

and best of all, this year i've got a boyfriend.

miseryloveselders

I am still having a hard time separating the Christ from the Christmas. As of now I am not celebrating it until I can get over that hump.

-Sab

Elaborate on that Sab, I'm not completely understanding where you're coming from.

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Why I think Jesus spoke against Organized Religion

by sabastious in

this is going to be a short essay on a point i have been thinking about for a while now.. jesus explicitly stated in the gospels not to judge.

i think this a grossly overlooked statement from jesus from the witnesses and a lot of christian denominations.. judging could be defined as figuring out what's right or wrong for another person.

it's a pretty simple concept really, and jesus warned against it.. organized religion by definition creates doctrine and policy, some enforce them more than others (like the witnesses).. to create (or interpret) doctrine and initialize policy is to judge others.

miseryloveselders

Excellant thread.

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I love Christmas!

by Newborn in

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friends

this will be my third christmas and i love it!!!

i love buying gifts to my friends and family (those who are out) .

and best of all, this year i've got a boyfriend.

miseryloveselders

Misery, I think you might have to have kids to really get into the fun of it. But on the whole, I think people are generally nicer during the Christmas season. They're more conscious of doing something nice for someone else, and more conscious of giving. That 'spirit' is what makes Christmas good, I think. Plus, it gives some people a break from the daily routine.

Tammy

You're probably right. I do like the fact that people are generally in a happier mood during the holidays. I'm just a grumpy bastard by nature, can't help but view the glass as half empty during holiday season. I just don't get the whole Christmas thing. To me staying home and frying wings, or cooking a steak and watching whoever is playing that day far exceeds hanging out with family and singing silly songs, dressing in sweaters and turtlenecks, buying people gifts that will lose their value in a matter of months. It just all seems like a hey to do over nothing. Not to mention its cold outside, we have to shovel, people slipping and falling, the workload resulting from being off of work for a couple days. Argghh, the thought of it all just has me irritated.

But you're right Tammy, it is nice seeing people happier during the holiday season.

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New paper article on JW's Neighbor.... to funny

by Peaches1978 in

http://tinypic.com/r/21azhgw/7.

good morning everyone,.

i just thought i would share a good morning laugh, this was an article in city paper here in philadelphia in the love & hate section, and this is what made my morning laugh harder then ever.. i thought i would share it with ou guys.. .

miseryloveselders

Isn't BabyGirl from Philly? She hasn't posted in a while........if she's lurking and reading this.......

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Jehovahs Witness Spouses

by Spade in

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i seriously doubt there's anyone with a spouse that's a jehovah's witness here.

but if so, how do you absorb all the hateful rhetoric disseminated here without spitting it back in your spouses face?.

miseryloveselders

IsaacAustin, you've been long overdue for going into troll exterminator mode. I miss the days when you used to call Spike Tassel, "boy."

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I love Christmas!

by Newborn in

jw
friends

this will be my third christmas and i love it!!!

i love buying gifts to my friends and family (those who are out) .

and best of all, this year i've got a boyfriend.

miseryloveselders

Every pro-Christmas thread needs a Grinch, and I aim to fill that void.

What's so great about Christmas? You sing crappy songs, watch crappy Holiday movies that are shown every year such as that kid getting his tongue stuck on the pole and getting a BB Gun. Grown men wearing Cosby sweaters and turtlenecks. You have to spend time with relatives, ughhh. Need I go on? I mean seriously, whats the big deal? Other than a day off from work, I don't see it.

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Is there a such thing as a perfect weekend when you're a Jehovah's Witness?

by miseryloveselders in

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friends

i'm venting a little bit, just a smidgen anyway.

i might not remember this thread tommorrow, as i just popped the ambien, and i'm waiting for it kick in so i can hit the sack.

i wanted to post this before my brain goes haywire.

miseryloveselders

Misery, that Giants-Eagles game was awesome, true. Just food for thought. Being a JW, we've been trained and drilled into believing violence=bad & boxing=violence. But ask yourself, is watching a night of MMA with three 1-9 minute fights between two trained professionals any more violent than a pro football game? Some of those hits last night were VICIOUS! But both sports are not wanton violence. They are calculated acts of athletes that get paid millions to voluntarily practice their craft. Also, JW's will never officially come down on hockey, but they have bare-fisted fighting as well. These minor pharasaical application of the general principle of "not being violent" is just crazy in my mind. Ok, just my thought for the day... hope that Hobbs kid is alright.

Hey Simon, good post! Good perspective. I've noticed the refs during all the games I watched yesterday and last night, were flagging all the hard hits. Some of the calls were questionable too. They're sending a message. They reported after the game that Hobbs walked out of the testing room on his own with a neck brace. He said he'll be back too. I'm glad for him, I hate to see anybody laying flat out like that and fearing he may or may not walk again. Its enough to give a penguin the chills.

Has the WT ever said anything about Hockey, ever? I live in a die hard hockey town too. I'm not much of a hockey fan, only until the playoffs will I get into it. But the far majority of brothers in positions and their families are die hard hockey fans where I live. I imagine its the same in other major cities too. Hockey is brutal with not just the fighting as you mentioned, but the checking too.

Ya know something else. The WT loves criticizing violence in entertainment, but at the same time, they seem like they're getting off on the violence in the Bible. When I read about violent acounts in the scriptures, I try looking for whatever practical value can be gleemed. The WT writers seem to be giddy off of violent stories in the bible though. Even when they have articles on Armageddon, you can tell they have a real hatred toward people in general. At the meeting on Sunday, during the WT study I was in the lobby, and this visiting woman with her two little adorable kids were running back and forth, and they were so cute. I just wanted to give em both the biggest hugs. The little girl kept running up to me and grabbing my leg. Or she'd hide from her brother behind my leg. Kids make you feel good, and you can't help but smile at their innocence. Later on, I had to stop at the grocery store to get a couple things, and I saw little kids with their parents, all so cute and innocent. It hit me, the Writing Department wants to see all those kids destroyed in the most graphic of ways. I don't know how anybody can reason like that and yet live with themselves. Then they have the nerve to print anti-sports article based off a so called violence.

But yeah, overall in hindsight, this weekend wasn't so bad. I would have liked getting right with a woman. But I aint the only one spending Saturdays alone. One thing I have to mention, call me crazy, but I hate apathy in field service more than belligerance. At least with hostile householders, we get some action. It makes for a good laugh later on in the day. Otherwise we're just moping up one side of the street, and then moping back down the other side of the street. Going on RVs where people are simply too nice to tell us that they never were interested in the first place. Its sad how weekends are in the truth.

Answering the original posted question, yes, there's such a thing as a perfect weekend when you're a JW.

Actually, a "perfect weekend" happens to anyone as it is relative to the person's expectations and state of mind.

As an actual JW in pretty good standing at the time, I make sure that just about every weekend is perfect according to my expectations: I fit in a bit of sleeping in late, because most days I wake up around 5:30 a.m., weekends is between 7:30 and 8:30; leisurely wake up, enjoy coffee breakfast, then fit in my field service time; come home, enjoy lunch a nap, then do a bit of chores and later on fit in shopping, dinner out or hanging out with other JW pals in leisure activities. The next day I fit in my meeting, then enjoy hanging out for lunch some place in the City, then whatever other relaxing activity fit for a Sunday afternoon, like playing sports with other JWs at some park.

And there it is... A perfect weekend!

Remember that it's all about expectations and state of mind.

DY

Hey DY, from one JW in good standing to another in good standing, to a degree I can see where you're coming from. The one point of dispute I have with you, and it may have just been a slip of words on your part. But as JWs in good standing, we dont "fit in our meetings." We fit everything else around our theocratic schedule. Thats what makes weekends somewhat tragic for JWs. Between field service, and meetings, and elder meetings, shepharding calls, study and preperation for all of the previous mentioned, it all gets pretty mundane. I'm glad you've found some JW Pals. Me personally, I don't believe in friendships with JWs any longer. Too many politics, too much potential for a friend to get disfellowshipped and then you're no longer allowed to consider him a friend. But hey if it works for you, awesome. Thanks for your post too. Its nice to hear the other side of the coin.

I agree too, it is all about the expectations and state of mind. I guess my problem is when it comes to the social aspect of being a JW In Good Standing, I have very low expectations when it comes to a satisfying weekend.