my wife called and told me she was going to a book study but my daughter did not want to go.
could i come pick her up my wife asked me.
sure, i went over as soon as i could.. when i got there, they were discussing encouragement and building others up.
I then asked him why blood transfusions are used in Jewish hospitals to save lives- wouldn't the Jews avoid them if they violated their OT laws?
Touche, Moshe! Of all the points made against the WT blood policy, this shreds it like no other.
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Balsam, I am sorry to hear how you lost your son. It sickens me that the HL knew the NC law, but didn't say a word about it at the first hospital. They deliberately withheld information from you when it could have made a difference.
GLT
so i have been a jw for yyeeaarrrrs :o(.
but it just hit me tonight during the prayer.
all you ever hear during the prayer is,.
Yes, the Ex always found the dark side of everything. She couldn't be happy about anything that didn't meet with the approval of the Watchtower. That doesn't leave much besides service, meetings, and complaining about everything outside the organization (including yours truly not being a member, let alone the Elder she wanted to be married to). Why couldn't you be happy, my dear? Give yourself permission to be human again!
background to the conversation:.
i called my parents excited to be having them come out for thanksgiving break.
in the conversation my dad (not a jw) brought up that michael jackson's glove just sold for $300,000 while a recently found first edition copy of darwin's on the origin of species sold for only $100,000.
"Yeah! I hope it was in there being used for what it should be used for -toilet paper!"
Yet another reason I kept my copy where the Ex wouldn't see it. When she took "vacations" at assemblies and conventions, I kept Darwin on the night stand for bedtime reading. When she was due back, the book went back to the bottom of the box of College texts. It worked, I still have it! Now that her name is "Ex", Darwin can stay in the bookshelf where it belongs.
i never did post this here.
i am posting it now for posterity's sake.
its been a few years, but, its good food for thought.
Well done, Jeff! It takes great courage to stick your neck out the way you did.
first off lmao, i was just joking by my title guys.
im only 24yrs old and i like to have fun!
anyway, this is my very first post on this wonderful site.
DubR, Welcome!
You did your wife a huge favor by not dragging her in, and yourself a favor by not taking Watchtower teachings at face value.
Always remember, the fault lies not with the individual Witnesses (victims) but rather with the organization's leadership who exploit the rank-and-file. Never stop loving your Witness relatives for their beliefs, always be there for them unconditionally. It can be hard to do that when the congregation is giving you the cold shoulder, but if you don't you're still playing the Watchtower's game by their rules. This is the way to break the control those teachings have on your psyche even after you leave the organization.
GLT
ps: Technically, I'm not a JW apostate--because I never joined. I'm an unbelieving ex-spouse.
i love christmas time and decorating.
so sad it took me 25years to actually get to celebrate it!.
my son is already making his list.
I wanted my freedom--this year I received my gift long before December 25--I hope you all get what you most want, too!
GLT
so i got a call from my ex tonight and she wants to pull my daughter out of school and home-school her.
she thinks that the schools are getting so bad(in a small town of 15,000...?).
my daughter loves school she doing great in school.
Great list, Christopher! A few things I would add:
Do study the home school laws in Illinois. I suspect that with a week's research, you'll know more about than as she does. That way she can't baffle you with BS.
Above all, remember that what matters is doing what's best for your daughter. Not what's convenient for your ex, not what you prefer. Put your child's future first!
Good luck to you,
GLT
i was in a congregation once which had a large number of desperately poor people in it.
there was an elderly sister, she lived near me, a sweet woman, who became homeless because her ramshackled old house caught fire.
around that same time one of the overseers (imagine that using a slavery term), i forget if it was district or circuit overseer, came to town wanting a new rv/truck combo.
Way to go, Happyguy! It took a lot of heart to say that in front of the congregation. I'm reminded of Mattew 21:12-13.
GLT
so i got a call from my ex tonight and she wants to pull my daughter out of school and home-school her.
she thinks that the schools are getting so bad(in a small town of 15,000...?).
my daughter loves school she doing great in school.
I have joint custody, but she is the primary. Do anyone know...Do I have a legal right to say "no" to home-schooling?
That depends on your local laws and the separation agreement. Get that advice from an attorney, this is serious business.
Personally, I have no issue with home schooling as such. It worked well for our kids, but it took much hard work. We set high standards, used good curriculum, and had assistance from certified teachers through accredited "virtual academies". It wasn't a case of just throwing some workbooks at the kids and saying "Here, work on these".
The problem comes with parents who use home schooling to avoid a real education, to stay away from topics such as evolution, sex education, civics, etc. that conflict with their beliefs or that they consider "too hard" (literature, math and science). Another problem is parents who don't take the time and effort committment for home schooling seriously. We knew several families like that, including some of my ex-in-laws. I suspect my Ex would have done likewise, if I hadn't been around (I agreed to home schooling because I think the public schools in our town are too easy!).
Is your ex really capable of dedicating the time that home-schooling requires? If she is working and a single parent, I don't think it's possible. We could barely keep up with two parents involved, with my Ex being a stay-at-home and me having the evening shift.
Another concern is will she use the days with your daughter for things "more important" than education: going out in "service"? After all, why bother with worldly education when "so little time remains"?
So my advice is to get a professional opinion on how much say you have in the home-schooling decision, and no matter which way that turns out to be as much involved with your daughter's education as you possiibly can be. If your Ex is serious about home schooling, she should appreciate the help and support. If she isn't, your involvement will be unpleasant for her (and in that case she deserves it, so too bad for her!).
Good luck, and keep us informed on how it works out.
GLT
i just noticed i've lost about 15 pounds and so i thought maybe now i'll actually try to lose the rest of this weight.
i have about 20 or 25 to get to where i was when i got married.
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How did you do it?
Since getting divorced, I've been eating my own cooking (lower fat, smaller portions). It's taken off 25 pounds so far, 10 more and I'm back to my bachelor weight. I do much less "stress eating" these days!
