Posts by GLTirebiter

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My First Christmas

by excito-are in

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friends

hey everyone.

i have decieded to celebrate my first christmas this year.

i was a born in jw and now aged 32 and having not been to a meeting in a year this is a big step for me.

GLTirebiter

It won't be my "first Christmas", but it is the first since the Ex Mrs. Tirebiter said "Adios, I hired a lawyer!".

All my old decorations are long gone, so I'm starting over from scratch. My budget isn't big, and I'll be a household of one, so I'm planning on modest outdoor decorations--lights on the house and the big evergreen tree out front. Probably no indoor tree this year, that will wait till next time. I will send Christmas cards, I already bought those. Several distant friends from the old days will be pleasantly surprised to get one from me again after all these years.

I'm still considering what to do for my kids, who remain very much part of the Organization. I don't want to insult them, but I certainly won't ignore them either. It's a Catch-22: if I get them presents then I'm participating in a pagan Christian holiday, but if I don't then "He doesn't really love you!". I was thinking of one nice keepsake gift for each, and maybe an afternoon of ice skating.

As for what you should do, Excito: what you do doesn't matter nearly as much as doing it with your partner. Talk it over with your wife, plan it together, do it together, and begin your own family traditions. Better seven years late than never! You'll be building on those memories for years to come. Be sure to help her with the Christmas dinner for you and your guests, especially the big clean-up afterwards. Finally, while being Mrs. Excito's partner in your first real Christmas together is a wonderful present for her, do be sure to get her something nice to go with it. Good luck to you both!

GLT

11

...The Husband Store...

by OUTLAW in

floor 3 - these men have jobs, love kids, and are extremely good looking.... .

she goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads: .

there are no men on this floor.

GLTirebiter

Outlaw, where is that wives store? I'm lonely, broke, and thirsty!

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Diary of a fornicaterin' slow fade...kinda long

by jesussaves in

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summer of 1992 - all is well, graduated from high school as the salutatorian.

one would think i had college dreams, but alas i did not.

i was planning to take my data information processing certificate and get a part-time job while i pioneered!

GLTirebiter

Tiffany, that sample of your book is great! Thank you for letting us see it. I hope it sells well this coming Spring.

22

"I don't want to be a...

by mrsjones5 in

f***ing jehovah's witness you a**hole!

i just came home from picking up my youngest son and heard my next door neighbor say that.

this morning i thought i had seen a pair of jws walk by my door twice and i think they left something at her door.

GLTirebiter

I don't want to be a JW, and I really don't want to be an elder like my Ex thought I should be. Come on, honey, you of all people know I can't lie with a straight face!

I guess the jws have literature to "burn" by leaving it at not-at-homes.

I always thought that was to get rid of all those out-of-date issues cluttering up the car.

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Crudely animated JW Debate...

by Tuesday in

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friends

hey everyone, i posted a video form of a comment debate on my channel.

the jw was really arrogant and i figured i should bring it to everyone's attention that he did horrible in the debate lol.

it's crudely animated, it's funny due to a chipmunk voice, but people have said they can learn from the technique i used in disarming every one of the usual jw techniques for "winning" biblical debates.

GLTirebiter

Good job, I enjoyed it! Thanks for posting your videos.

110

wife took it pretty well i guess...it's over...

by oompa in

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friends

i guess it only took three years, but they were hell in so many ways for both of us...she was not happy and lived in denial as much as possible...i was not happy and lived in a bottle as much as possible and glad that is over for me....but it was one of the saddest things i have ever experienced in my life....as was the visit to my parents before i told her....but yes...she said she kind of expected it...was thinking something was going to happen soon as she noticed i had more and more trouble saying i love you back to her when she said it on the phone at the end of goodbyes...and when i was leaving the house...i had noticed it for over a year and it was killing me..... i told her how sorry i was for changing so much again....and that she still walks on water...and is a great person and so pretty....and that she will be ok because she was happy single before me for many years and had all she needs for that again...her closeness to jehovah and her freinds in the congregation...she is very close to both and will be ok i hope...it was very surreal....very calm...very sad.

my bitterness and disdain for wt rules came through when talking to my parents and i was very open about how i feel as to their upcoming shunning of me, and how it feels to my son since he was just 17....and how the fear of losing them had kept me trying in my marriage for the past few years...dad was firm in his position of future action....mom said they will still always love me...and will still talk to me until i get dfd.....oh how this hurts.....dad said there is a name for people who only live for themselves and deny god but could not think of what it was....i told him i was not living just for myself...that i am a good person and there are values from him and the bible i hope i always have....i cry so hard as i type this and tell you just so you can know how painful this is....i told him i so loved the rule of treating others how you want to be treated and have always done that...even allowing myself to be wronged on so many occasions to keep peace....... he said that was a good rule....i agreed and said it was a big one too....and that while i could do it...treat him the way i would like to be treated...he would not be able to!.......left as i became emotional...big hug from mom, but i just barely put an arm on dad............oompa.

GLTirebiter

Oompa, I'm sorry it came to that for you, but I'm glad you're finding your way out. Three years of living that way is tough! Live through the emotional part a day at a time, lean on your supporters when you need us, and walk the road to recovery. Rely on us, not the bottle.

...she agreed since she would only want a worshiper of jehovah...

Well, admitting that is a big step. It can help bring things to a conclusion sooner and with less drama than when one person is in denial. It sounds like you're both ready to move on.

Godspeed, Oompah!

GLT

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How do you release the grudge?

by brainwashed-from-birth in

i have got a huge grudge against jehovah and his "organization".

i feel like it has ruined my life and any chance of a relationship with god..(if there is one.

) my immediate family has disowned me along with everyone i was comfortable with my whole life.

GLTirebiter

My posts are one way I deal with the pain of the Watchtower organization's family-shattering teachings. Posting on this forum not only gives me a safe place to vent what I'm feeling, but also is how I set and affirm an agenda for coping with my own situtation. In other words, many of my posts (this one included) are written to myself just as much as to the person I'm replying to. It helps me set expectations for myself, encouraging me to "practice what I preach", as it were.

Getting up the courage to make the first post is the first step on the journey, and a big one. We aren't a subsitute for professional counseling, just a group of kindred souls to talk to. Listen to the others and share your support and encouragement. That's why we come here. It's one big support group, full of people who have lived through the same experiences.

Welcome!

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I helped save someone's life today.

by QuestioningEverything in

jw
friends

while at work today, a man in the office next to me had a heart attack.

the office staff were yelling for someone who knew cpr.

i thought to myself,' i know cpr'.

GLTirebiter

Good going! It's wonderful to hear that you saved a life with CPR training. I took the class at work long ago, wondering if I'd ever use it. You're inspiring me to take a refresher so my card will be "current" again.

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A sad call from an older brother

by life is to short in

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friends

we got a call a couple of days ago from this older brother in the hall.

he is a great guy who is in his eighties.

he has a very hard time walking and just getting around because of old age but he is the kindest man.

GLTirebiter

Who do you approach in order to accomplish what you just stated? The man or the W.T.S.?

In this case, probably the WTS first-i.e. the congregation's Body of Elders, who should then counsel the elderly gentleman. But I think this case is too far along for any meaningful change. You're not going to reverse decades of indoctrination quickly nor easily, especially when the same language continues to appear in every Watchtower magazine and is preached at every assembly. The feelings of guilt are too deeply ingrained, and it takes years to heal that. Years that this gentleman probably cannot wait for.

GOD would tell you to worship in spirit and truth and not follow any organization.

Yes, but I don't think that's realistic for the elderly gentleman in question. From the original post, it sounds like he is too deeply attached to the organization for that to be an option. The organization's lack of compassion for people in his situation is why I feel compelled to criticize the organization's collective behavior. Show him some mercy, please!

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I need answers to so MANY questions.....

by Confuzzled in

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GLTirebiter

Wow, that article on dating a lasped JW was helpful.

I'm glad it did. I am among the many here who were or are in Witness/non-Witness marriages. Remember that you are not alone!

GLT