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  After the death of a spouse, how long did people wait to get remarried?

  by RubaDub in

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  i was on the phone with a long-time friend from my original congregation north of new york city and she told me that the 'shit hit the fan' when a brother (long-time elder i know well) got remarried about 6 weeks after his wife died.. he was about 60 and his new wife (a pioneer that i also know) was about 50 and had never been married.. it became a huge issue when the co came.

  due to all the talk and chatter in the congregation, he even included in one of his talks without naming names, that marriage is something sacred and that when and how people get married is a personal matter as long as it conforms to bible standards.. anyway, it shut everybody up.

  any similar experiences in your current/former congregations?.

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  tiki

  One I know of....elder...wife suddenly passed in her sleep. He was in early 60's I think.... He latched onto a young woman in her late 20's...divorced with a child. His words and I quote " when your old dog dies, what do you do? You get a nice new puppy". I was appalled. This was maybe 6 months after the death.....

  Two others I know of wasted no time either. One around 80 snapped up a 60ish year old sister who had been taking care of his ailing wife. They "dated" with a chaperone. How sad is that!!

  I was widowed awhile ago and the last thing I want is to remarry. I had the best possible man for me and my marriage to him is forever.
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  A Song to Jehovah's Praise - rejected!

  by Terry in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as an obedient little jw at age 20, i was serving time in federal prison in the late 60's, and the 40 brothers inside seagoville prison decided to stage our own assembly.i was the music servant.

  (we didn't have elders back then.

  )the theme of the assembly mimicked the free world assemblies being held outside.long story short:i composed (what i think and everyone else thought was) a very good song titled:following the fine shepherd as the end draws near.we rehearsed it (bros who had instruments) and the consensus revealed it was a winner._____excerpt:"jehovah god above, we owe you all our love; you are our shepherd and we follow you.though satan demands, that we must compromise; we'd sooner face death than be wrong in your eyes.now and forevermore, we fear not satan's roar;you are our shepherd and we follow you.

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  tiki

  Vietnam was horrible all around....given the mental and emotional status on return of way too many that served there, the incarceration experience may have not been much more hideous a circumstance. Those guys came back with ptsd.....drug and/or alcohol addictions and I know several suicides.

  However, the religions stance and subsequent lack of concern for their faithful young men is incomprehensible. You are a survivor, Terry.
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  A Song to Jehovah's Praise - rejected!

  by Terry in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as an obedient little jw at age 20, i was serving time in federal prison in the late 60's, and the 40 brothers inside seagoville prison decided to stage our own assembly.i was the music servant.

  (we didn't have elders back then.

  )the theme of the assembly mimicked the free world assemblies being held outside.long story short:i composed (what i think and everyone else thought was) a very good song titled:following the fine shepherd as the end draws near.we rehearsed it (bros who had instruments) and the consensus revealed it was a winner._____excerpt:"jehovah god above, we owe you all our love; you are our shepherd and we follow you.though satan demands, that we must compromise; we'd sooner face death than be wrong in your eyes.now and forevermore, we fear not satan's roar;you are our shepherd and we follow you.

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  tiki

  Sad....you guys were faithfully giving heart and soul and were getting stomped on. Back in that day we were idealistic...hopeful....loyal....but we learned reality soon enough. Some sooner than others....me...took a long time.....

  Thankfully it is reduced to reminiscences at this point....
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  Montana News

  by AuntBee in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  https://www.usnews.com/news/best-states/montana/articles/2020-01-08/court-reverses-35m-verdict-against-jehovahs-witnesses.

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  tiki

  Montana needs to revisit mandatory abuse reporting enactments....
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  My Grandmothers Funeral

  by Enrique Tomlinson 1 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  my beloved grandmother has passed away and her funeral is next week at a kingdom hall.

  she was a loyal jw, and unfortunately i am not understanding of the funeral procedures.

  please could you kindly explain what what will happen in the funeral?

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  tiki

  The funeral at the kingdom hall is pretty simple. The speaker typically relates some facts about the deceased, emphasizing their religious preferences and involvement. Then the main topic of resurrection to a paradise earth is presented, with bible verses used. At the end there is a song and prayer. Only the elder speaking is at the podium...no family or friends share in the presentation. Whatever arrangements for burial and/or gathering subsequent are announced. That's it....I wish you peace and a comfortable adjustment to your loss....
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  Oh How Far I've Come

  by pale.emperor in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so this weekend my girlfriend and i will move into our own place together.

  it turns out that “a cord of three strands is stronger” is bullshit and two people in a relationship are perfectly capable of being happy without outside influence.

  what a journey i’ve had since leaving 3 and a half years ago!

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  Awesome and congratulations!!
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  Were / Are the Governing Body "Rock Stars"

  by Number 6 in

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  2. experiences

  in 1976 when i was a young lad of 6, fred franz came to glasgow and gave a talk in govan a suburb on the south side of the city (for those of you who dont know).

  our congregation hired a bus to ferry us all to the hall and it was standing room only.

  being only 6, i have only the vaguest of memories other than an old man shouting and bawling from the stage.

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  tiki

  Yeah... Freddie was the rock star of the day. He used to pass out candy to the kids on his way to the platform. Then his talks...the big high pitched renditions of Isaiah....and the "New light"......the man was entertaining for sure.
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  confused with nowhere to turn

  by Rebecca in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i'm 43 and a divorced mother of 2. in january 2019 i met the man i thought i could spend the rest of my life with.

  we were happy and even though our relationship wasn't perfect (like all relationships) i thought we had a chance and were building a life together with our young kids.

  background on me - i've been divorced since 2012 after 12 years of marriage.

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  tiki

  You say " I have tried to reason with him". There is the first mistake. This cult destroys sanity and locks its participants into a strange place. Do what is best for you. The history that you put out has more than enough red flags even if crazy religion were not in the mix. Think carefully and proceed intelligently.
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  Dating within JW's

  by 720Reddog in

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  2. friends

  how was dating in your congregation?.

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  tiki

  Hah....dating was non existent back in my day....
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  Don Adams has passed away

  by RubaDub in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i received a call from a friend in new york city that don adams passed away late last evening (30 dec 2019).

  many of you bethelites know him and he was the president of the society for a number of years after the gb got out of the corporate structure business.

  from what i understand, he was generally liked by many there.. some in my family knew him.

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  tiki

  Sparky......oh Rudy Sunal...he drove me nuts. I was pioneering and stuck an entire morning door to door with him.. Nothing I said or did was right. Jetha was a character....she would get all these calls when they would serve the cong...these people were totally enamored with her. She would leave the calls for us to follow up and these same people would have no interest whatsoever. Next time around she would expect them to be progressive bible studies....she wouldn't believe they weren't...so back we would go and again she would get them all wired up and drooling with interest. On and on....