Ninja - u r funny!! My niece loved me (when I was allowed around her) and would cry when I would leave...I believe because she KNEW that things between her mom and me were not 'ok' and that I probably would NOT see her regularly. NOT of my own choice - but that of her mothers. LONG story, but most BPD's use their children as 'leverage' to get what they want...or else they prevent the kids from being involved with the family until things go THEIR way. Hard to explain unless you've been there.
Lola28 - for the record, never EVER have I ever said such cruel things TO my sister. Not that kind of person to verbally attack someone (even though that is my sisters favorite thing to do to others)...I simply was venting my frustration and anger HERE online. At no time have I or would I - cause a 'scene' in front of my lil niece!! That is childish and would make ME just as bad as my sis. Lil one is innocent in this...her mother has used HER as bargaining piece, and it's sad that in the end, my niece misses out. So there is nothing awful about me at all. As I stated twice in this posting, that I was only venting...and felt comfortable enough to do so HERE on this board, because the reason my sister shuns me is due to the religious aspect. I may not be a JW anymore, but I still believe in "return evil for evil to no one" and continue to live that way. Until dealing with someone who is mentally ill and chooses YOU as their repeated target - then you really cannot label ME as "mean spirited and downright awful"...now can you?