Posts by babygirl30

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New CO 70 yrs old, "youre not doing enough" school. Sigh

by monkeyman in

got our new co. old school guy, 70 yrs old.

mo is "youre all not doing enough".

sigh.. three yrs of this asshole..

babygirl30

Oh my God..70yrs old? Did you get Bro Burdine???? That's the oldest one my old cong ever had. Dude had some 40yr old wife though (and she was NOT very warm or friendly).

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did/do you you belive the examples in the yearbooks?

by highdose in

the ones where the witch doctor surcomes to his own spell that he put on the brothers, or when the 5 drs physicaly force the sister to have the blood transplant?

etc etc where the person was praying and ... ding dong!

there appear the jw's..... can we belive it??

babygirl30

In all my 30yrs of being a JW (raised in) NOT ONCE did I ever read a Yearbook. Had no desire to!

And NO....did not believe the stories in there. I used to call the book "Aesop's Fables Part 2" whenever the latest copy came out - because in my mind, the stories were always too far fetched to be real.

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A CO's diagnosis and counsel

by ldrnomo in

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some time back when i was an elder and expressed my concerns about the blood doctrine to another elder (in confidence) the news got back to the whole body of elders and the co who i will just call (bro.

smith) .

after speaking to me for some time and determining that i did not believe in the wt blood doctrine.

babygirl30

Hi ldrnon

You were 'sick' to that CO (and the org) because you THOUGHT....you used your own reasoning and QUESTIONED things....you had the balls to disagree with the org!! How sad that for thinking/reasoning human beings that God created - we are taught that the very God we worship WANTS us to be ignorant and follow without question.

Then again, I was abused by my ex-fiance (a JW) and when I told the C.O. I was angry and upset about what he did, I was told that i was 'spiritually weak' and that I needed to humble myself and strengthen my relationship with Jehovah. So in all cases, there is never a clear an concise answer - everything falls back on YOU and your relationship with God.

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The show must go on..

by outofthebox in

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i was reading in the spanish forum (http://www.extj.com/foro/showthread.php?t=15396) that an old sister died from a heart atack during the memorial, but that didn't stop the ritual.

i remember a lonley very sick sister calling for help to the kh during an emergency, and the elders told her, they were busy in an elder's meeting.

she almost died and was rushed into the hospital by 'worldy' people.

babygirl30

I just remember all the D.A.'s at the Vet Stadium in Philadelphia, PA - and how people would literally pass out in their chairs and in the hallways. I recall one year where it was hot as HADES!!!!!!! They continually made the announcement to 'stay out of the hallways as it's a safety hazard' and the brothers would police people who would flat out SIT along the wall in the hallway because at least there was a breeze going through. i vividly remember people just fallin out over the extreme heat...of course nothing stopped and even when ambulances were called in to assist those that were suffering -

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Who officiates JW weddings?

by greenie in

if two jws were in great standing and getting married in a kingdom hall, who would officiate their wedding?

could an elder do the whole thing, or would a justice of the peace have to do part with the talk from the elder?.

babygirl30

Usually a plumber or a window washer.

Now THAT was funny!!!! (because it's soooo true)

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To tell my parents or not to tell my parents...unfortunately that is a question

by feenx in

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i could use some perspective on something i'm struggling with.

first off, a little background info.

i am an only child and my parents, in addition to quite difficult circumstances we've all experienced, both personally and as a family while i was growing up, remain devout.

babygirl30

I agree with what everyone here has said - invite your parents and let the cards fall where they may!! I firmly believe that the BEST way to show these JW's that life outside the org is not going to kill you...is to be HAPPY! You're getting married, you found someone you love and adore, you are goign to start a family - show your parents that no matter what they say or how their shunning has affected you - you are 'ok' and that your life is happy without the org behind you. Better yet, stick a pic of the 2 of you IN their invitation....so they can SEE your happiness.

On another note...your parents sound similar to mine. About 3 mos ago, after having dealings with me for 10mos straight, my parents forbid me to come to their home any longer, took back my key, and told me NOT to call unless it's a life or death matter. apparently both of them going into the hospital (my dad for a mini stroke and my mom for knee surgery) was not important enough for them to contact me and let me KNOW...guess they figure that it would go against their 'shunning' policy. But I know my parents, they are the most UNHAPPY people I've ever met - and what's ironic is that despite being DF'd and NOT having family support or association - I am STILL happy!

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Did You WANT To Talk To Disfellowshipped People?

by minimus in

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did you at least want to say "hi"?

or did you avoid them like the plague?.

babygirl30

Sadly, I used to IGNORE people that were DF'd and I was very haughty about it too! Like someone else said - I would figure to myself "Well THEY obviously had a bad attitude and were unrepentant - so they brought it on themselves!" Huh.........................such a ridiculous frame of mind I was in!! Cause after my own DFing i now understand that it's not always 'by choice' that the decision is made.

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I met the perfect man.....

by dearone in

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but he was worldly.

i am 38 and single because i was waiting on jehovah to provide a husband for me.

a few years ago i met the man of my dreams.

babygirl30

dearone

My mother used to tell me this saying that burned in my HEAD and to this day still haunts me - she would say "Satan will give you your hearts desire for 1 act of worship". Now she would say that because I would always tell her that I would NEVER leave Jehovah's org, and that the only way that would happen is if I snagged an 'athlete' and was set for life! -hahahahaha.

I've never had an issue meeting JW brothers, but they were NEVER really what I wanted...they were either boring, or mamma's boys, or way too straight laced for me, or just NOT my type physically. In amongst my 'career' as a JW I have dated 2 non-JWS, and to this day I regret how I treated them and how things ended. Neither one of these men EVER hurt me - neither one ever disrespected me, never treated me as a 'lesser vessel', never made me feel as if I was spiritually weak for being independent. One of those guys I fell madly in love with...and thankfully he and I are together today (reunited AFTER I was DF'd but remained friends throughout my years of being a JW).

My point is that you cannot change the past - you did what you did (letting the non JW go) because THAT was what you believed back then! That's what you were supposed to do...so you shouldn't be upset over that. I think it's really cruel that we have it burned in our heads that if we just PRAY and ask Jehovah for a mate, he will bless us with one - because I've seen sisters get married without effort while others prayed and traveled all over the place looking for Mr Right in the org. So you're telling me that Jehovah chose HER over YOU to get a mate? Do you really believe that?

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