Posts by babygirl30

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This may sound kinda stupid to some...

by babygirl30 in

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...but i miss my kitties and i miss my lil niece!

once i decided not to 'return' to the org, and let my parents know - they began to shun me.

broke my heart at first, but it is what it is.

babygirl30

It hurts a lot,especially when they tell you that it ws "your choice"to be df'd..Awful..Shame on the JW's. My parents still talked to me when I was df'd tho,albeit not as much as before.I think its up to their "personal conscience.

I know what you mean here...my parents STILL make it seem like I sat there and ASKED to be DF'd!!! It wasn't MY choice and it wasn't MY doing - 3 uneducated, narcissistic, arrogant MEN chose my fate. My parents DID continue to associate with me, as long as I went to Khall and it looked like I was coming back. But when I stopped, and stood UP for myself, they cut me off. My mom, who is the die-hard JW, has cracked here and there and contacted me sparingly. My dad though, the JW that lives his life 'on the fence' (double-life) has taken the HARD CORE stance of fully shunning me, to the surprise of a lot of people - as they KNOw how my dad is...but I guess he has his reasons.

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This may sound kinda stupid to some...

by babygirl30 in

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friends

...but i miss my kitties and i miss my lil niece!

once i decided not to 'return' to the org, and let my parents know - they began to shun me.

broke my heart at first, but it is what it is.

babygirl30

...but I miss my kitties and I miss my lil niece! Once I decided NOT to 'return' to the org, and let my parents KNOW - they began to shun me. Broke my heart at first, but it is what it is. I've slowly gotten used to them not calling to see how I am, or not being able to just stop by (I pass their house on a regular basis doing errands). Saw my father taking a walk the other day, and BF wanted to pull over and say hi, and I got this WEIRD feeling like "I don't know that man" as I looked right at my dad. He didn't see me, but it's hard to explain...as if in my mind I know that he is my dad, but I don't FEEL like it - make sense????

So it's now July, and this is officialy 2yrs since I was DF'd: 1yr since I was last in my parents home, 1yr since I last hugged/held my niece (whom I love dearly), and 1yr since I got to hug and pet my loveable kitties (that are at my parents home). I'm sorry if that soundbs completely immature and ridiculous, but I just have this desire to hug up with my kitties...I sincerely miss them. They always calmed me, and were 'family' in my eyes. As for my niece, I find myself wondering what she's doing, how well she talks now that she's 4yrs old, what she looks like, if she remembers me.

Now the anger of my situation is setting in...being that I have changed and grown over the past 2yrs since being OUT of the JW religion, I know for a fact I'm more well-rounded, and I'm happy! But I can't have the 'small' comforts of my past life because a RELIGION says so!!!

Thanks for letting me vent!

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Convention Starts Today for My Little JW Daughter

by snowbird in

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she's going to leave before the session ends in order to get to work.. that's a first for her!.

one step at a time .... syl.

babygirl30

OOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHH! The days of getting excited about the upcoming assembly - NOT cause of the program but because of goign to get NEW outfits to prance around Philly in lookin CUTE and possibly find a mate (fingers crossed) - hahahahahahaha. UGH!

The last assembly, my mom was on my case about 'being humble' and going...I made it 1/2 a day, and at lunch, RAN outta there. It was just uncomfortable, boring, and so FAKE to me at that point...but then again, I had been DF'd and out the 'loop' for a good 6 mos at the time. I pray for all those GOING to the assembly, because the expense of traveling/eating, and the rhetoric they FEED everyone...it's enough to make me throw up.

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Free to remarry?

by Earnest in

i wonder if anyone can help with this information?

i seem to recall that if a husband or wife commits adultery and is divorced, is it necessary for the innocent party to agree before that one can be reinstated?

regardless of that answer if the person is reinstated and wishes to remarry do they need the agreement of the innocent party before they can remarry if they wish to maintain a good standing in the congregation?.

babygirl30

Yes and NO...

Doesn't help - I know! But it all depends on the 'elders' in your cong what is acceptable and what isn't. I know a couple in one cong where the wife cheated, she and the husband got divorced, and the wife went to get reinstated and the elders rejected her reuqest until she 'made ammends' with her ex - namely, and apology. She did. Then she went to get remarried to a brother, and the elders said NO - they would not perform the ceremony until her ex gave his thumbs up.

I also know of a sister whose husband cheated on her, got DF'd, and within in a year he was reinstated and remarried (to the girl he cheated with) - and the elders NEVER said one word! Nobody asked the exwife if she was 'ok' and nobody checked if she ever received an apology or if he had tried to make ammends. So in that instance, she was never consulted at all. TO this day she is still hurt by that...that he bascially got reinstated and married and NOBODY spoke to her at all.

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Frugal Ideas for a Beautiful but Inexpensive Wedding!

by StAnn in

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as i've proclaimed so loudly, my oldest son is getting married next year.

we have a small budget (about $5k) and they want a wedding with three bridesmaids, three groomsmen, and a catered reception.

thus far, my son is going to load his ipod with music.

babygirl30

1. Wedding dress = ebay (custom dress from China $170)

2. Suits = the groomsmen can all wear a black suit

3. Dresses = Target has very 'cute' satin dresses for $30 and under

4. Flowers = grocery store floral dept or a farmers market

5. Photographer = check your local college, craigslist (under events), or art school for a photography 'student'...they will work for FREE or a discounted rate

6. Catering = check local college 'culinary' dept to see what they can offer, or else open it up to a pot luck...

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Memorial Service at Khall - would you go (even as a DF'd exJW)?

by babygirl30 in

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i ask because a friend of mine (who stays in touch once in awhile) had made it clear to me about 6 mos ago that he didn't care if i was df'd or not - that he still would speak to me and check up on me.

well his parents are both disabled, and his father recently died in the house!

so he sends me a text telling his father passed - and i told him i would call him.

babygirl30

I ask because a friend of mine (who stays in touch once in awhile) had made it clear to me about 6 mos ago that he didn't care if i was DF'd or not - that he STILL would speak to me and check up on me. Well his parents are both disabled, and his father recently died IN the house! So he sends me a text telling his father passed - and I told him I would call him. 2 days later I call, and we end up talking for awhile about 'friends' (term used loosely) I USED to associate with in his area, his father, etc. So he tells me that the memorial is at his Khall this Sat (6/12) and that he doesn't want me to feel 'awkward' about coming because HE would not act 'off' around me and he would acknowledge me IN FRONT of everyone. He said "I think in this circumstance - your being DF'd should be excluded". Now the dilemma - do I go or not? He's a good friend, and used to be pretty close. He has an older sister who is also DF'd that he keeps in contact with despite, and he is one of the few that kept in touch with me...

...on the other hand, this Khall is in the area that I used to chill in ALL the time! This cong has a lot of my old associates (when I was a JW), and this memorial will be full of people that I know - possibly including the family of my abusive ex-fiance (whom I have a PFA against).

What should I do? Do I suck it up and go to support my friend despite my 'fear' of seeing all these old acquaintances AND the family that basically f*cked up my LIFE - and still call themselves JWs????!!!!

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Did your congregation have "Talent" Shows?

by lepermessiah in

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i saw this video on youtube and didnt know if i should laugh or crawl into the fetal position.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=abm0t-qhllc&feature=related.

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we had several "talent" shows over the years in my original congregation - it was the only annual gathering more nauseating that the meetings.. my friend and i would always bring our walkmans and blare heavy metal in the back - hoping to block out the embarassing crap on the stage.you always had a few older ones get up on stage and slaughter a kingdumb song.

babygirl30

Talent Show? HAHAHAHAHA...if that's what you call some sister who everyone TOLD had the 'voice of an angel' and who always managed to sing Monica's "For You I Will" at weddings and all - then I guess so.

Mind you this chick couldn't sing a bee out it's HIVE! But in JWland...she had talent.

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Sex,Porneia & Sin

by dssynergy in

does porneia, frequently translated "fornication" refer to sex before marriage?

catholic theologan that i know says it does not.

any thoughts?.

babygirl30

Screw being celibate! I remember a comedienne saying: "I told my date that I am celibate - I sell-a-bit here and sell-a-bit there!" hahahah! As that pervert R Kelly put it OH so eliquently:

"I don't see nuthin wrong...with a lil bump n grind!"

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Here is the Letter I am thinking of sending ,give me your input

by troubled mind in

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attention to the elder body of the *******congregation of jehovahs witnesses .

criminal harassment is defined as "engag(ing) in intentional conduct which the actor [harasser] knows or has reason to know would cause the victim, under the circumstances, to feel frightened, threatened, oppressed, persecuted, or intimidated; and causes this reaction on the part of the victim.

609.749, subd.

babygirl30

GOOD revisition! Wish I had had the gutts back then to do the same...

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Sex,Porneia & Sin

by dssynergy in

does porneia, frequently translated "fornication" refer to sex before marriage?

catholic theologan that i know says it does not.

any thoughts?.

babygirl30

I have no idea - to be honest with you. Still boggles the mind how JWs can breakdown fornication/porneia into either category of immorality or loose conduct. I swear, if someone feels your boob - it could be classified as 10 different 'infractions' under JW standards!!!