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  Process of Disfellowshipping

  by ZeusRocks in

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  2. beliefs

  i'm unsure if this has actually been discussed before, but i often wondered about the process of disfellowshipping.

  i know a lot here have been affected by it for many different reasons.

  i'm writing this from the perspective that some who read this believe in the bible as gods word and that jesus words and teachings are what they are trying to emulate.. the wts process is primarily to hold a judicial committee overseen by at least 3 elders in a closed room and the final decision is made by them.. matthew 18: 15-17.

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  VERY good post!!!

  What always amazed me was how often JWs use the story of King David and the Prodigal Son...as if both were disfellowshipped from 'the flock' and then returned to God (Jehovah). First of all, King David committed a ton of sins (premeditated murder, lust, adultery, produced an illegitimate child, lying) and NEVER ONCE was denied association nor shunned. He was approached 'informally' by a prophet one-on-one and that motivated him to repent. So using that as an example of "one who left the flock but repented and was returned to God's favor" does NOT suffice as one that I find any solice in?! As for the Prodigal Son...nowhere did I EVER read that he was shunned or banned from his family - he made the CHOICE to leave and live his life. And when he returned, there was no LETTER he had to write...he wasn't required to plead with a JC to be 'accepted' back - his family ran out to meet HIM!

  So a lot of the stories JWs use to try to motivate shame and repentance out of people are blantant fabrications of the facts! Despite it being written clear as day - leave it to a JW to twist it like a Twizzler.
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  I would like to hear your experiences with being SHUNNED

  by jwfacts in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i am going to put together a page of short experiences of how shunning has affected exjws.

  you do not have to be disfellowshipped, even if you were shunned after being marked or after fading.

  all comments are welcome, such as who shunned you, how long since family have spoken to you, what your situation is, why you are being shunned and how it has made you feel.

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  boyzone - WOW! That's all I can say...that letter was so DEEP and full of emotion!!! Beautifully written and truly explains how 'trifflin' shunning really is.
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  This commercial illustrates why I envy those who didn't grow up in a JW household.

  by miseryloveselders in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i don't want to sound like i'm whining and for the record, i'm not mad at my parents at all.

  i love them dearly, and i have many fond memories of my youth despite the jw upbringing.

  at the same time, i often wonder what it would have been like to play sports during my school days.

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  The MOST my parents permitted was me playing instruments (piano and flute)...but NOTHING past that! My father (an athlete himself) FORBID me - his naturally athletic daughter - to play basketball or tennis. No afterschool activities (not even meeting up at a classmates home to work on a project - I always ended up 'inconveniencing' everyone by making them meet at the library cause MOM didn't want 'unnecessary worldly association'). When I hear my BF tell stories of riding his bike with the neighborhood kids, playing football, going to his prom, hanging out at friends houses...and I feel like a retard cause I don't HAVE stories like that!!! My JW family didn't DO those things.

  I give my parents credit for giving me VERY high morals and all, but the method they used (JW religion) gave them an excuse to be hard-nosed! My parents didn't bend - EVER. If ANY brother on the platform said "x is bad and so is y" then my parents took that as the voice of God giving them direction...so that made it difficult as a kid.
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  Fade to white

  by Sojourn in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  ever since i was a kid, i felt so lucky - so lucky (i know, i know) that out of all the religions in the world, i happened to be born into a family that practiced the one true religion in all the universe.

  it seemed much to good to be true, but i always thought it was such a happy coincidence.

  my immediate family and grandparents were jehovah's witnesses.. .

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  I'm hungry...guess that's where that came from! - hehehehe
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  Fade to white

  by Sojourn in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  ever since i was a kid, i felt so lucky - so lucky (i know, i know) that out of all the religions in the world, i happened to be born into a family that practiced the one true religion in all the universe.

  it seemed much to good to be true, but i always thought it was such a happy coincidence.

  my immediate family and grandparents were jehovah's witnesses.. .

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  It's like eating at the same restaurant your entire life...swearing up and down it's the BEST food in town!!! You try to 'sell' the place to everyone you know, convicincing them it's SO good and fresh. You make them promises that the restaurants food is so amazing that they will never leave hungry - and they give you SO much, that it's inevitable they will leave with leftovers. Finally ONE (out of 35) of your friends decides to check the restaurant out. Afterwards they call you and tell you that the restaurant - the one you bragged about being SO good and having the BEST food - is disgusting! They tell you about the bad service, how the place smells like something is rotten, the floors are sticky and full of crumbs, there are rodents running around the place, and the food is burned and far from fresh. then another friend goes and tells you the same thing...then another friend. Now YOU go back to the restaurant and objectively LOOK at the place - and you see it - the place IS nasty!!!!

  It's crazy how when IN the JW bubble, you rarely see things for how they really are. You believe what you want to believe because it's all you've known. But once you step back and really LOOK at the religion, what it teaches, how the people conduct themselves...you get a glimpse into the reality that alluded you for so long. Welcome to the board!!!!!
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  Circuit Overseers, their roles, and their spouses

  by garyneal in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  my wife and i took a trip yesterday to deliver her camera to her mom so she may take it with her as she goes to kentucky where the need is greattm.

  her mom is currently still in virginia staying with some brothers there while she gets schooled in giving talks (at least i think that is what she is doing).

  i met the co's wife at the petersburg kh and after we dropped the camera off, my wife and i went to have dinner before returning home.. i ask about circuit overseers and their role because i was intrigued to learn that the kh we went to had an apartment for the co.. apparently, co's have no job of their own outside the watchtower activities and while my wife insisted that they did not 'take a vow of poverty' like the catholic clergy do, they technically do.

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  I always assumed that since the CO took a 'vow' to serve as a 'slave' in that capacity, that his wife also had to take that vow to live the SAME way and to support her man?! As for having a children, I know of one CO who had kids before getting into the work...but again, always believed that NOT having children was part of the position.
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  JWs advocate for the release of the Yorkshire Ripper

  by brizzzy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1295224/yorkshire-ripper-peter-sutcliffe-spend-rest-life-bars.html.

  check out the blue box.

  of course jehovah's witnesses would adamantly vouch for a serial killer convicted of butchering 13 women.

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  I find it bizarre that my brother elder PO would have no qualms talking to Peter Sutcliffe or Michael Porter - they are his brothers now.

  And yet he shuns me.

  My point EXACTLY! An admitted violent serial killer is now 'rehabilitated' because he studies the NWT with some JWs - so HE is deemed acceptable to associate with. But a DF'd person who has done nothing even CLOSE to that - is to be shunned?! OH...the irony.

  Wait on Jehovah and rely on the men that He has chosen. If dude gets out, the ONLY thing they will be 'waiting' on is how long it takes this nut to kill again. and since these 'chosen men' allowed him into the flock and put the rest of the congregation at risk - that makes THEM bloodguilty!
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  Young Jehovah's Witness commits to Pioneer work

  by brizzzy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  http://blog.al.com/living-times/2010/07/young_jehovahs_witness_commits.html.

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  babygirl30

  That article, although sweet in nature, really only served as propaganda for the young girl, her family, and JWs. What happened to NOT making a specticle of oneself????? The story did nothing more then make her look CRAZY (and her parents to boot for cosigning everything in the background).
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  Today is my 2yr Anniversary of being OUT of JWs - honoring it with a letter! (long)

  by babygirl30 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  today is my 2yr anniversary since being df'd - and my life has changed a lot!!!

  this is a letter i wrote to my parents...i did see/talk to them in feb when i had my surgery, but of course as it goes, now that i'm 'better' - they are back to shunning me.

  so this was sent to them both, so that they understood that despite all the jw bull ish, and how they are treating me now - i'm ok and happy!

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  changeling I have no idea what cognitive-dissonance is? Sorry! I do believe that SOMETHING has to happen to this world/earth as it's getting SO bad that for it to go on THIS way much longer doesn't make sense to me...could be wrong?!
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  Today is my 2yr Anniversary of being OUT of JWs - honoring it with a letter! (long)

  by babygirl30 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  today is my 2yr anniversary since being df'd - and my life has changed a lot!!!

  this is a letter i wrote to my parents...i did see/talk to them in feb when i had my surgery, but of course as it goes, now that i'm 'better' - they are back to shunning me.

  so this was sent to them both, so that they understood that despite all the jw bull ish, and how they are treating me now - i'm ok and happy!

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  snowbird I actually made my own damn self cry writing that!! It's so weird though...it's been 2 whole years that I've been OUT, and I feel BETTER about myself but still sad that my family is NOT actively in my life.

  Soldier77 Thank you!!