so here an update on my current situation, in a nutshell i've been trying to quietly fade for the past 5 months.. well, my mom somehow found out that i am currently fading and that i live with my boyfriend (for more info on this check my previous posts) i told her yes i live with him and yes i no longer want to be a jw.
anyways, yesterday she met my boyfriend.. awkward.
and after lunch she pulled me aside to tell me that the po came up to her (he was part of my jc when i was reproved) he said to her "someone came to me and said - i cannot say who so they will remain anonymous- but that your daughter is living with someone" my mom confirmed and apparently he told her that i have one week to confess this, and if i don't my parents are obligated to tell them everything.. what kind of nonsense is that?
So unfortunately, despite you trying to avoid it, Sh*t just got REAL!
Your mom is technically obligated to 'tell', and believe me, I know how ridiculous it sounds and the reasoning behind it is so convoluted that it's funny. My own father threatened to tell the elders about my 'worldly' boyfriend (back in the day) if I didn't let the man GO...I mean, come on. Do you know how hateful it is to have your own parent try to force you to tell your private business?!
how is everybody doing?.
it's been 8 months since i've been here.. so many newbies!.
lol.. sylvia.
it is strange to read the last week watchtower that encouraging child/teenagers' baptism.
even jesus was baptised as his 30. jws encouraging marriages at an older age.
but why they are encouraging children to get baptised.
I remember being at an assembly where a young girl who was 9 got baptized...of course she had a part in the assembly about how it was HER decision, her dedication, she was SOOOO ready. And now, I smh cause I wonder what ever happened to that girl once her hormones kicked on. Lol!
My biggest argument to my folks when I got df'd and the one thing my mother threw in my face was "you did not live up to your dedication"?! And my response was...
"I got baptized at 14. I wasnt old enough to date, get married, have a ft job, drive a car, have a drink at a bar, or live on my own. BUT Im held to a dedication to a religion I made as at that same age? Back when all I knew was about reading books from black authors, computers, and having crushes on boys? Please!!!"
i found out this morning that my brother died last night, he was also an ex jw, 73 years old and died of heart disease and kidney failure.
it was not totally unexpected, as he had been in poor health, but it's a blow, especially as i just lost another brother two years ago.
there were six of us, now only four.
urghhh... what a disgusting study!7 a conflict of loyalties may arise when a close relative is disfellowshipped.
for example, a sister named anne received a telephone call from her disfellowshipped mother.
the mother wanted to visit anne because she felt pained by her isolation from the family.
Straight absolute malarky...hahaha! I just smh when I read this stuff, cause it is such a lie. When I confessed, I confided in the elders all the nonsense taking place that I was aware of, thinking it would clear MY conscience and help the others who were "sinning". What happened to me? DF'd
What happened to them? NOTHING!! The guy is an elder, his wife (married in the Khall and all) is a reg pioneer, they have 2 kids are are living the full JW life. But when the elders questioned them about all their wrongdoing - which all took place in MY home cause they lived with me as a couple before getting married - they denied it all and called me a liar. The eldees bought it, and that was that.
14 Kindness can help you to deal with aconflict of loyalties. For example, youmay have definite knowledge that a certain fellow believer is guilty of seriousmisconduct. You may feel loyal to him,especially if he is a close friend or a relative. But if you were to cover up thewrongdoing, you would be disloyal toGod. Of course, your loyalty to Jehovahshould come first. So like Nathan, bekind yet firm. Urge your friend or relative to seek the help of the elders. If he or she does not do so within a reasonableperiod of time, loyalty to God shouldmove you to report the matter to the elders. In doing this, you are being loyal to Jehovah and kind to your friend or relative, for Christian elders will try to readjust such an individual with mildness. —Read Leviticus 5:1; Galatians 6:1.
a japanese sister who recently woke up revealed me that she became extremely suspicious about the organization after reading watchtower article .oct.15 2015page31.
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Are they serious????? That is plain black and white - crazy!
Literally crazy propaganda clearly calling all negative information about the organization "lies". How retarded.
i know i have mentioned this on other posts.
as a born-in, i was obsessed with the watchtower.
it was god's organization.
seems as though the number of baptisms even for the young ones is down from what people report here.
at my former hall the young ones are all in totally sheltered even while going to school.
expressing thier desires to pioneer etc.
Actually...Im a Gen Xer, who would rather whoop a couple guys on the basketball court then set foot in a Gamestop ever.
And I use FB...not Twitter. Come on!! 😉
seems as though the number of baptisms even for the young ones is down from what people report here.
at my former hall the young ones are all in totally sheltered even while going to school.
expressing thier desires to pioneer etc.
1. The ease of research on the internet makes it simple to find TTATT
2. Schooling has changed to now encourage college level classes, charter schooling of the arts, etc. All of this shows JW youth that there is more to life and more options for them...more then just pioneering or getting married
3. The general attitude of Gen Xrs and Millenials is 'prove it'. We dont just follow and believe what we are told...so when it comes to everything JWs are taught, the consensus is 'prove it'...show me...why?! And if we cant find it on the internet then it probably doesnt exist.
4. Lastly, these same generations I fall under is more about challenging authority then following it. That can be both good and bad as that tends to cause a lack if respect at times, but we are more about learning and leading then following. The rank & file idea seems outdated, as does a lot of the expectations set out for them.
5. Young people are NOT stupid! - hahaha. They want more: independence, money, fun, freedom. Does the org offer an abundance of that? Hell to the no.
