Posts by babygirl30

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Happy Birthday to Me!

by Iown Mylife in

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there's a beautiful sky this morning.

it's my birthday, today i'm 64 and look every inch of it, but i appreciate my life and feel fortunate to be cult-free.

also very fortunate to have a purposeful and entertaining existence here in gorgeous north georgia (in the usa).

Does enforced shunning violate free will?

by poopie in

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and ..

babygirl30

Does everyone remember the scene in V for Vendetta when after all the torture, Evie is suddenly told she is free to go...

As she walks out the door of her cell she noticed all the fake guards, toy guns, and empty cells she walked past EVERYDAY when she believed she was a prisoner - and never noticed it was all smoke and mirrors. THAT is JW free will...

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I feel like I'm losing my religion/faith

by christina1111 in

i'm a baptized jw...been baptized for 8 years...and throughout the years i've been baptized i see "hypocrisy" so to speak in the religion...when you're new and not baptized that's when the jws want to invite you to every gathering they have, they want to appear like they're your best friend...they want to help you out when needed and so forth...however, once you're baptized you go to the elders for help they don't help you....all they do is gather you around the office...have bibles in hand and so forth...they give you articles as well, instead of physically helping you out....but yet when you weren't baptized they would physically help you out and not throw scriptures and articles in your face.

also when you ask for help and so forth with the bros/sisters they want to throw the "each one must carry his/her own load" scripture at you.....but yet what happened to the scripture of taking care of widows and people who are orphans?.

it's not just one congregation...throughout the 8 years i've been baptized i've been through many kingdom halls...many towns...many states...when i was inactive for awhile i even pretended to not be baptized and just play dumb when the witnesses came to my door...they're much nicer to you when you're not baptized then when you are baptized...why is that?.

babygirl30

Sadly I am guilty of this...love bombing. I was a born in JW, and I remember this young girl in my old cong who was a little younger than me (I was 20, she was about 16). This girl started studying with a Bible thumper in my hall (P.O.s daughter). Got baptized in 6 mos, and had a part IN the assembly the day she got baptized! I mean everyone fell for this girl...and she really liked the attention. LIFE hit, she started missing meetings, but wgen she did come, we all were cold. I smh now in regret...as I too participated ib making this girl feel 'less then'. Eventually she stopped coming at all...and in time, was DFd. I would love to run into her now and apologize, as I was such a cold bitch her the minute she stopped coming to the hall...yet was one of thr first ones smiling in her face, offering her assistance, etc when she was 1st coming to meeting and before she got baptized.

It is all a TRAP! A sad trap...that newcomers fall into. You never see past thr love and support - until it isnt there anymore.

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February 13, 2017 BOE Re: Memorial and Special Talk

by wifibandit in

february 13, 2017 to all bodies of elders re: memorial and special talk.

babygirl30

I just threw up in my mouth...

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What has been your own personal experience of shunning?

by UnshackleTheChains in

i am interested in finding out on a small scale the extent of which shunning has impacted on you personally.. my own experience is that when i faded about 12 years ago.

the woman whose house the book study was held at (and who was virtually a neighbour) walked right past me in my own street.

i remember it so well.

babygirl30

scratchme10103 days ago
So what's your experience?
My family missed:
My marriage
My failed relationships
My successful relationships
Helping me when going to college
My in-laws
My career path
My travels
My creative projects
When i was given an award
Being there for me
Having me being there for them
My home
My hospitality
My cooking
My birthdays
My Christmas
My Graduations
My promotions
My husband
My successes
My failures
My illnesses
My health
Pretty much my entire life.

AMEN!! Everything that my parents said I would FAIL at - I have succeeded in. EVERYTHING. And as stated above, my growth as an adult and how I've matured, the responsible lady I've become - all 'missed' because my parents believe shunning is the way to go! So much so that they have walked right by me and literally acted like I do not exist. It's really pathetic...

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HULU's - The Path

by babygirl30 in

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this show is a.m.a.z.i.n.g!!!!.

...anyone that has been in a strict religion.

...anyone that has been in a high control cult or movement/organization.

babygirl30

This show is A.M.A.Z.I.N.G!!!!

...anyone that has been in a strict religion

...anyone that has been in a high control cult or movement/organization

...anyone who understands the power of cognitive dissonance

...anyone who knows how it feels to live with manipulation, guilt, and a sense of obligation TO a religion

This is for YOU! Watch it. HULU has a hit with this. Binge watched this yesterday, and found myself FEELING what the characters feel, because it is truly the life of a JW...

Image result for the path

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I am glad to have found the true religion

by A Believer in

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it really is great.

i remember browsing this forum the day after i had joined it, and their was a knock on the door.

i thought it was one of my package from ups but instead it was two sisters.

babygirl30

Please explain to me WHY this "A Believer" has changed their profile pic 3x in a month or so, continues to knowingly troll (I mean post) anti ex-JW things on an ex-JW site, and people STILL engage?? It makes NO sense to me. Obviously this person wants attention - thats a given. But why GIVE it to them? 😝

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Pioneer Elder Still in Jail (follow up report)

by James Jack in

confirmed by a family friend and elder who lives in the area!

he was a pioneer elder in a port st lucie (river view congregation) fl, convention and assembly speaker, a"shining star" of the circuit and had served at bethel for several years.

was sexually abusing his step daughter from age 8 to 12. his wife has divorced him and moved back to tennessee.

babygirl30

And yet...JWs STILL like to claim that elders are 'appointed by Jesus'! I have a hard time believing this gross looking man was able to inappropriately treat his child, yet, probably made JC decisions on others, gave talks from the platform, marked and DF'd others.

#hypocrit

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Girls are unpredictable, materialist, and use us, men, as a toy - Part 2

by will-be-apostate in

well here am i, a couple of years passed since my original post (link here), somewhat less mysoginistic, more open to relationships, heartbroken again.

this is an official "fuck my life" thread.. being chased by the elders makes one arrive at the conclusion that there is nothing better than not being chased by the elders.

i had a pre-jc meeting a week ago.

babygirl30

Aw geez is this "official (only) fuck (I will ever have in) my life" thread still going

Sparrowdown...you made me laugh! But I agree...

I do not understand how it is so friggin difficult for people to get laid, to understand what 'casual sex' means, and for men to believe that women don't just have sex to hurt your feelings, or because they want to be in a relationship with you...sometimes (deal with it) we just love SEX. Geez! :-P

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Girls are unpredictable, materialist, and use us, men, as a toy - Part 2

by will-be-apostate in

well here am i, a couple of years passed since my original post (link here), somewhat less mysoginistic, more open to relationships, heartbroken again.

this is an official "fuck my life" thread.. being chased by the elders makes one arrive at the conclusion that there is nothing better than not being chased by the elders.

i had a pre-jc meeting a week ago.

babygirl30

And babygirl, will you marry me? It's true love - not that superficial stuff that I'm known for. Plus, I saw your picture on Flipper's post a picture thread and you have great boobs. So it's definitely worth the risk!!

AAAWWW...so you ONLY want me for my tits, huh? I'm hurt - hahahahaha. BUT, I'm already getting married this summer, so thanks for the offer.

But that still doesn't nullify the fact that there is smart sexual human behavior and stupid problematic sexual human behavior, that goes for both sexes.

I completely agree with this! Too many people are out there just 'smashing' without any thought to who they are doing it with. One night stands are fine IF both parties are consenting and understand the arrangement. Unfortunately in the OP's case, he didn't 'get it' at all...and already had a full blow relationship built in his head. That is not normal at all, I'm sorry. So for someone who obviously cannot handle 'unattached sex' - then he needs to either take some time to find himself, or get over it and hop on another female! - lol. But going in with his eyes OPEN...