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  A woman's Heartfelt message to the Governing Body

  by UnshackleTheChains in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i just watched this lovely lady's heartfelt message to the governing body.

  i hope that the men she named and all lurkers who have some clout at bethel listen to this message and stop this cruel and divisive shunning policy that has ruined so many family's around the world.

  this is just one voice of many many people who feel this way about your (governing body) destructive policy.

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  babygirl30

  Powerful.
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  Stephen Lett looks like a crazed maniac in the March JW broadcast

  by jambon1 in

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  are people taking this man seriously?

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  he looks genuinely mentally ill. .

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  He just LOOKS like that pervy grandpa that always wants kids to sit on his lap...while he tells a story! lol
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  Single Sisters Over A Certain Age Group Getting A Bad Rap

  by HiddlesWife in

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  2. relationships

  i'm new here; one of my relatives was a member on this forum a few years ago and told me about it.

  anyways, as a sister who has been in the org since childhood and now in her late 40's (plus as a woman of color), i have noticed that a number of brothers have an ageist attitude.

  they are very accepting of young women under 26 and rejecting women over that age, particularly those in their 30's and over.. is this an unspoken mindset from wthq (specifically from bethel), or is it that quite a number of males (sorry, i'm not sexist here) have this type of mentality?

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  I clearly remember being 18 and having brothers in their late 30s coming at me and expressing interest. A family I was close to tried very hard to hook me up with a 45yr old man when I was 21...and I was so disgusted. At 20-something, all I wanted was to travel and have fun, not settle down with this 'old man' who had already been divorced (wife cheated on him and left).

  By the time I reached my 30s, dating brothers, having Bethelites come to my hall to 'meet me', and never having any issue meeting men at all - I had already made it yp in my mind that I was NOT interested in any JW brother. I wanted ambition, a real life, and good sex...lol...things I felt no brother could give me. And the rest is history! (Happily). But too many gf's of mine in the org were in a hurry to get married, and most did marry the first brother that came along. As a woman of color also, I had the opposite scenario, even in my 30s. Thirsty and weird brothers that wanted so badly to be married that basically threw themselves at me...but thank God I knew my worth and that I could do better!

  The org really is male dominated, and the chances of a sister getting married after 30 is slim. Khalls are full of 30, 40, and 50yr women, single, no kids...still holding out for God to send them a good man. SMDH.
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  Happy Birthday to Me!

  by Iown Mylife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  there's a beautiful sky this morning.

  it's my birthday, today i'm 64 and look every inch of it, but i appreciate my life and feel fortunate to be cult-free.

  also very fortunate to have a purposeful and entertaining existence here in gorgeous north georgia (in the usa).

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  babygirl30

  Happy birthday!
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  Does enforced shunning violate free will?

  by poopie in

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  Does everyone remember the scene in V for Vendetta when after all the torture, Evie is suddenly told she is free to go...

  As she walks out the door of her cell she noticed all the fake guards, toy guns, and empty cells she walked past EVERYDAY when she believed she was a prisoner - and never noticed it was all smoke and mirrors. THAT is JW free will...
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  I feel like I'm losing my religion/faith

  by christina1111 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i'm a baptized jw...been baptized for 8 years...and throughout the years i've been baptized i see "hypocrisy" so to speak in the religion...when you're new and not baptized that's when the jws want to invite you to every gathering they have, they want to appear like they're your best friend...they want to help you out when needed and so forth...however, once you're baptized you go to the elders for help they don't help you....all they do is gather you around the office...have bibles in hand and so forth...they give you articles as well, instead of physically helping you out....but yet when you weren't baptized they would physically help you out and not throw scriptures and articles in your face.

  also when you ask for help and so forth with the bros/sisters they want to throw the "each one must carry his/her own load" scripture at you.....but yet what happened to the scripture of taking care of widows and people who are orphans?.

  it's not just one congregation...throughout the 8 years i've been baptized i've been through many kingdom halls...many towns...many states...when i was inactive for awhile i even pretended to not be baptized and just play dumb when the witnesses came to my door...they're much nicer to you when you're not baptized then when you are baptized...why is that?.

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  Sadly I am guilty of this...love bombing. I was a born in JW, and I remember this young girl in my old cong who was a little younger than me (I was 20, she was about 16). This girl started studying with a Bible thumper in my hall (P.O.s daughter). Got baptized in 6 mos, and had a part IN the assembly the day she got baptized! I mean everyone fell for this girl...and she really liked the attention. LIFE hit, she started missing meetings, but wgen she did come, we all were cold. I smh now in regret...as I too participated ib making this girl feel 'less then'. Eventually she stopped coming at all...and in time, was DFd. I would love to run into her now and apologize, as I was such a cold bitch her the minute she stopped coming to the hall...yet was one of thr first ones smiling in her face, offering her assistance, etc when she was 1st coming to meeting and before she got baptized.

  It is all a TRAP! A sad trap...that newcomers fall into. You never see past thr love and support - until it isnt there anymore.
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  February 13, 2017 BOE Re: Memorial and Special Talk

  by wifibandit in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  february 13, 2017 to all bodies of elders re: memorial and special talk.

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  I just threw up in my mouth...
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  What has been your own personal experience of shunning?

  by UnshackleTheChains in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i am interested in finding out on a small scale the extent of which shunning has impacted on you personally.. my own experience is that when i faded about 12 years ago.

  the woman whose house the book study was held at (and who was virtually a neighbour) walked right past me in my own street.

  i remember it so well.

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  scratchme10103 days ago

  So what's your experience?
  

  My family missed:

  • My marriage
  • My failed relationships
  • My successful relationships
    
  • Helping me when going to college
  • My in-laws
  • My career path
  • My travels
  • My creative projects
  • When i was given an award
  • Being there for me
  • Having me being there for them
    
  • My home
  • My hospitality
  • My cooking
  • My birthdays
  • My Christmas
  • My Graduations
  • My promotions
  • My husband
  • My successes
  • My failures
  • My illnesses
  • My health
    
  • Pretty much my entire life.

  AMEN!! Everything that my parents said I would FAIL at - I have succeeded in. EVERYTHING. And as stated above, my growth as an adult and how I've matured, the responsible lady I've become - all 'missed' because my parents believe shunning is the way to go! So much so that they have walked right by me and literally acted like I do not exist. It's really pathetic...
  
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  HULU's - The Path

  by babygirl30 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  this show is a.m.a.z.i.n.g!!!!.

  ...anyone that has been in a strict religion.

  ...anyone that has been in a high control cult or movement/organization.

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  This show is A.M.A.Z.I.N.G!!!!

  ...anyone that has been in a strict religion

  ...anyone that has been in a high control cult or movement/organization

  ...anyone who understands the power of cognitive dissonance

  ...anyone who knows how it feels to live with manipulation, guilt, and a sense of obligation TO a religion

  This is for YOU! Watch it. HULU has a hit with this. Binge watched this yesterday, and found myself FEELING what the characters feel, because it is truly the life of a JW...

  
  
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  I am glad to have found the true religion

  by A Believer in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  it really is great.

  i remember browsing this forum the day after i had joined it, and their was a knock on the door.

  i thought it was one of my package from ups but instead it was two sisters.

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  babygirl30

  Please explain to me WHY this "A Believer" has changed their profile pic 3x in a month or so, continues to knowingly troll (I mean post) anti ex-JW things on an ex-JW site, and people STILL engage?? It makes NO sense to me. Obviously this person wants attention - thats a given. But why GIVE it to them? 😝