Sadly, I used to IGNORE people that were DF'd and I was very haughty about it too! Like someone else said - I would figure to myself "Well THEY obviously had a bad attitude and were unrepentant - so they brought it on themselves!" Huh.........................such a ridiculous frame of mind I was in!! Cause after my own DFing i now understand that it's not always 'by choice' that the decision is made.
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Did You WANT To Talk To Disfellowshipped People?
by minimus indid you at least want to say "hi"?
or did you avoid them like the plague?.
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I met the perfect man.....
by dearone inbut he was worldly.
i am 38 and single because i was waiting on jehovah to provide a husband for me.
a few years ago i met the man of my dreams.
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babygirl30
dearone
My mother used to tell me this saying that burned in my HEAD and to this day still haunts me - she would say "Satan will give you your hearts desire for 1 act of worship". Now she would say that because I would always tell her that I would NEVER leave Jehovah's org, and that the only way that would happen is if I snagged an 'athlete' and was set for life! -hahahahaha.
I've never had an issue meeting JW brothers, but they were NEVER really what I wanted...they were either boring, or mamma's boys, or way too straight laced for me, or just NOT my type physically. In amongst my 'career' as a JW I have dated 2 non-JWS, and to this day I regret how I treated them and how things ended. Neither one of these men EVER hurt me - neither one ever disrespected me, never treated me as a 'lesser vessel', never made me feel as if I was spiritually weak for being independent. One of those guys I fell madly in love with...and thankfully he and I are together today (reunited AFTER I was DF'd but remained friends throughout my years of being a JW).
My point is that you cannot change the past - you did what you did (letting the non JW go) because THAT was what you believed back then! That's what you were supposed to do...so you shouldn't be upset over that. I think it's really cruel that we have it burned in our heads that if we just PRAY and ask Jehovah for a mate, he will bless us with one - because I've seen sisters get married without effort while others prayed and traveled all over the place looking for Mr Right in the org. So you're telling me that Jehovah chose HER over YOU to get a mate? Do you really believe that?
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I have decided to let the world know my real name - With Pics
by Elsewhere inpresident dwayne elizondo mountain dew herbert camacho, porn super-star.
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You been to Philly??? That looks like a PHILLY laced-wig! -hahahahahaha.
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Do you like unexpected visitors?
by highdose ini fall into the sad bracket of not likiing them.
sorry but i spend my whole working day being unrelentingly polite and charming ... when i get home i want to switch off and slob out.
i do not want the doorbell to ring and have to play host!
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Friends and family I don't mind...the elders just 'popping' by to see what I'm up to, well that's HELL NO!
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Did you ever think you would end up here?
by highdose inmeaning... on this website, no longer a jw or at least no longer beliving anymore?
i never did, even 18 months ago it would have seemed impossible, unthinkable.
even though looking back the seeds of doubt had been sown for some time, i just never allowed myself to think about them... vvv dangerous thing to do!.
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babygirl30
I agree with everyone else...I felt SO guilty about coming to this site. But after my last mtg with the C.O. and a nitwit elder, I just couldn't HELP but start trying to understand WHY the treatment I received was ok...whether other JWs had dealt with it before...and so I fell onto this site. All I did was read for awhile because I was too frightened to post, thinking that I was becoming the ULTIMATE 'apostate' by saying anything on here - but have now come to understand the real deal of JW org.
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I'm already starting to feel normal
by doublelife infor the first time today, when my boss asked what i'm going to be doing for thanksgiving, i didn't have to go into this awkward explaination of why i don't celebrate it.
i simply said that i'm going over my aunt's.
it may sound trivial but it feels great!
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babygirl30
Today was my 1st time EVER saying
HAPPY THANKSGIVING!
That is a small step, but it just makes me feel like I'm OK...not getting struck by lightening or anything. -hahahaha
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What are you Thankful for this year?
by lovelylil2 inin the spirit of thanksgiving, thought i ask what everyone is thankful for.. i am thankful for my family's good health and happiness, for the great friends i have, for my job that i absolutely love, for celebrating my 7th year of freedom this month from the wt publishing cult.. anyone else?.
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I am thankful that I found the strength to say 'enough' and RUN away from that abusive, self righteous, can't hold a job, living with his parents in the attic at 31, never had any money, blew what lil money he DID have on E&J VSOP, didn't realize what he had in 'me' - NUT that I almost married.
I'm thankful - NOT for being DF'd - but for what being DF'd woke up IN me...cause it gave me the sense to start researching JWs and opening my eyes to how things are done (right or wrong). Finally started seeing the org for what it is.
Thankful for the REAL friends that I have made and the opportunity to get to know my non-JW family closer then ever before. Their support has gotten me through a year that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.
I'm grateful that I have a good job that allows me to support myself comfortably and not depend on anyone!
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Pieces fitting together... and crying after hearing Edward Dunlap tape
by Butterflyleia85 incrying out of joy and sadness... wow it was like he was telling me a secret about bethel, i never even knew!!.
i am so emotional right now!!
it's rediculous!.
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I'm gonna listen to this now...thanks for posting it!
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Moses's mistake
by highdose inok heres another thing that always worried and puzzled me... moses made great sacrifices to lead the isrealites and endured great hardship to do so... but he makes one mistake and suddenly all that counts for nothing and he gets no rewards for his pains at all!????!.
this has never seemed fair to me.
basicly what is seems to be saying is that you can lead a exemplary life at great cost to your self, but if you make one mistake... thats it youv'e blown it!.
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I am crackin UP over ur post....that was friggin hilarious!!!!!!! Especially the 'loving' ending of the conversation with a - take that biotch! -hahahaha
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Ms. Bohms first post
by bohm inhey, im bohms girlfriend.. i have been arguing alot with bohm himself about the huge amount of time he spends in here:-) now i've decidet to look it out my self.. about me: i have growen up in the socalled "truth".
i was baptised when i was 18 - because of an earlier boyfriend, who wouldnt be with me when i was not.
now i really hate him for it... it would have been so much easier if ive never got baptised.
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babygirl30
Welcome to the board?