And THAT sums up the whole premise of DFing - EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL! Either believe everything and do what you're told or lose everything - including 'Gods love'. UGH!
babygirl30
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ADHD a Protection?
by ClassickConcept inim new but am completly thrilled to find a site like this discussing things i've personally contemplated for years.
in my research and through posts here its come to my attention that the meetings (watchtower study in particular) are designed to hypnotize you(reference charcot) thorough, among other means, soothing song.
they say it relaxes the mind a prepares it for the process.
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ADHD a Protection?
by ClassickConcept inim new but am completly thrilled to find a site like this discussing things i've personally contemplated for years.
in my research and through posts here its come to my attention that the meetings (watchtower study in particular) are designed to hypnotize you(reference charcot) thorough, among other means, soothing song.
they say it relaxes the mind a prepares it for the process.
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babygirl30
I have it! Diagnosed aprx 5yrs ago. Raised a JW and as anyone with ADD knows, the only way we stay 'focused' is on things we ENJOY or are interested in. Guess that's why the mtgs bored me.
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I read CofC this week on holiday...life changing stuff!
by Lozhasleft inhi everyone...thank you for all your well wishes for my scottish hols...it was nice..warm dry weather...lovely scenery...a good rest... what i will remember the most about the holiday is that i read ray franz's book there...in fact i struggled to put it down.
it was so revealing and informative but was also written without bitterness or malice.
it stirred many emotions within me ...too many probably...anger, remorse, indignation, sorrow, heartbreak, frustration, sympathy....you name it.... a big emotional journey for me....thanks to all for the recommend i would hate to have missed it..... loz x.
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babygirl30
That book made me cry...it was SO enlightening!
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Joining JW's using the 'bait - n - switch' method
by babygirl30 ini used to work in advertising, and more specifically, with automotive dealers.
a lot of them are notorious (even though it's illegal) for the 'bait-n-switch' sales tactic: they advertise one loaded model car, customer calls in and is interested in that particular advertised model, the dealer claims to have it and so the customer stops in to drive it, and then bam!
dealers suddenly doesn't have the advertised model but offers the customer another low-end model for apprx the same price.. for some reason that reminds me of how people come into the jw religion.
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The WTS always bets on the convert wanting to save his/her investment into the WTS.
YO! I like that statement a LOT!!! Makes perfect sense...all that time and energy studying and going to mtgs IS an investment.
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Ugly Sisters
by XPeterX ino.k i have noticed that most female jws are ugly.and by ugly i mean ugly.they won't work out,they are fat and won't go on a diet (some female teens won't even shave their legs),they neglect their appearance/body in general.any opinions?.
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p.s many will eventually get fat after marriage.
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babygirl30
Um....sweetheart...I don't know what area YOU come from, but I have never BEEN and never will BE - ugly!
But I did have some associates in the org that were LESS then attractive - by any standards.
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Joining JW's using the 'bait - n - switch' method
by babygirl30 ini used to work in advertising, and more specifically, with automotive dealers.
a lot of them are notorious (even though it's illegal) for the 'bait-n-switch' sales tactic: they advertise one loaded model car, customer calls in and is interested in that particular advertised model, the dealer claims to have it and so the customer stops in to drive it, and then bam!
dealers suddenly doesn't have the advertised model but offers the customer another low-end model for apprx the same price.. for some reason that reminds me of how people come into the jw religion.
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babygirl30
I used to work in Advertising, and more specifically, with Automotive Dealers. A lot of them are notorious (even though it's illegal) for the 'bait-n-switch' sales tactic: they advertise one loaded model car, customer calls in and is interested in THAT particular advertised model, the dealer claims to have it and so the customer stops in to drive it, and then BAM! Dealers suddenly doesn't have the advertised model BUT offers the customer another low-end model for apprx the same price.
FOr some reason that reminds me of how people come into the JW religion. They are 'baited' with all this hope and love, genuine friendship, and Bible knowledge on a surface level. Then the person gets baptized, and the SWITCH happens - they learn that the love is underminded with people who really don't give a rats butt, those friendships are conditional, and that NOW their dedication means they are to cut off ALL others (family, friends, children, associates) that are not part of the faith. It's illegal in the workplace and should be illegal across the board.
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privilleges equals spirituality
by stillin inwhat a sad joke!
posters here talk about the "do more" pushiness in the organization and that is so true!
elders just assume that you want to carry microphones and work your way up the spiritual ladder to that blissful state of total immersion in "kingdom matters.
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A CO gave a talk where he said fron the platform "If a brother can't even hold the mics in the Khall - WHAT makes him a good candidate as someones marriage mate?" I remember wrinkling up my face trying to figure out WHERE in the hell this dude got this instruction...
AFterwards my mother held onto that statement like GOLD! If I met a bros, and he wasn't an MS, she would start trippin with that whole 'remember what the CO said' BS. The weirdest part was that in seeing WHOM got the privilege of holding the mic in the Khall: 1) a developmentally challenged bros who can't live on his own nor hold a FT job, 2) a 65yr old EX elder who was now just an MS, and 3) an MS who is married and who is verbally abusive to his wife and children .... so WHAT kind of example is that?
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Local needs talk this past Tues at my wife's cong
by isaacaustin inon social networking and facebook was specifically mentioned, as well as how 'dangerous' it is..
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babygirl30
Well, I dont need to run away from her, so I sent her another message, thought I would take the time to plant a seed, what do I got to lose? Its been 25 years, so what is another 25 years without her?
Good for you!!!!! I was at the grocery store the other day with my bf, and in the lane right next to me was this JW sister from my cong (when I used to go). She looked me dead in the eye then put her head down. She then looked up again (guess she was confirming it WAS me) and then quickly rung up her groceries. In the meantime my bf says "Do you know her?" and I said YES...she is a JW. So as we're walking out, I made SURE to grab his hand (he kissed me on the cheek) and said "Hi *****" as we were leaving. You said it perfectly with your statement - we don't need to 'run' away anymore. Who are they?????
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babygirl30
HAHAHAHA! I hate that term "get together" or else 'gathering'
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To Those who are DF'd or DA'd: Is there anything that you wish you could have said in your JC?
by african GB Member indo you regret not having said it since you can't be afforded the opportunity now?.
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babygirl30
If I had it to do all over again (heaven forbid) I would've:
1. Demanded more respect in the way they spoke to me
2. NOT had the 2 elders I had ongoing personal issues with previously, ON my JC
3. NEVER told the elders everything as it was frankly none of their business!!
4. Told all 3 of those 'men' what I REALLY thought of them and their twisted jargon about being 'humble' and 'repentant'...
I was bawling through my whole JC (which lasted about an hour) and had just been physically assaulted by my JW fiance, I had visible bruises ALL over, I had recently been laid off from my job, and mentally/emotionally wasn't prepared to deal with any stress beyond what had already been tossed my way - and YET - these 3 elders took the opportunity to tear me up! The experience was liberating in that I didn't feel locked in anymore to those people nor the religion, but it was demeaning to have gone through such a trying time AND get kicked out the door of the ONE place I was always taught would give me peace and love.