Posts by babygirl30

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Leaving the JWs

by Hurting in

i am 32 years and have recently left the organisation.

i got baptised in last feb. please excuse any typing errors i have dyslexia.

it has been so hard this year i have gone through so many ups and downs.

There is a book called Toxic Parents - read it!!!! I swear, that book saved my sanity. Coming from a zealous but fake JW household, with parents who used control, manipulation, verbal and emotional abuse, and withholding affection ( who now shun me because I am DF'd) I know all toi well the pain and hurt you feel now. This site really gives you a means to speak YOUR truth...to vent and be genuine without fear. That is priceless! But I also highly recommend professional therapy. Childhood abuse is hard to overcome without help, as it comes back in others ways to haunt you...been there. I also agree with you writing your fam. I did that years ago and although I never got a response, it gave me the ability to be honest and real. It laid out to my fam that I now KNOW: I know what they did, I know that others know what they did and how they are, I know in their hearts they know they were wrong, and that Im gonna be ok andnhavw been successful in life. In the end I dont care if they are hapoy for me or not, but their abuse has NOT gone unnoticed - which is a win for me.

Your attempts at trying to chsnge their minds about TTATT is a waste of time. People who conditionally love you will onlyvsee your attempts as 'crazy' and mental. Save yourself the trouble and invest your energy into learning YOU and bettering YOU - not saving them. You cant save someone drowning if you cant swim, right?

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Any here who didn't rebel as a teenager and were a goody two shoes instead?

by purrpurr in

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when i was a teenager in the borg i was a dyed in the wool, goody two shoes, squeaky clean,"spiritual " sister.

alot of my peers around me were rebelling and going off the rails but not me.

i was constantly praised for this and even felt a little smug about it ha!.

babygirl30

I was the quintessential "JW girl" when I was a teenager. Never talked back, respected my elders, thumbed my nose UP at the others who were living life outside of the bubble I thought was right. I never got in trouble and always was volunteering to help others in the cong. All association outside of the khall was thwarted by my parents - so to say I even had friends would be a lie. I went to a few JW parties and was disgusted at how these teens were acting...against the JW rules of conduct.

And now...😂😂😂😂😂😂

I am the one having fun - real fun. Whilr they are all married, divorced, df'd, etc. Whatever the case, I was a pleaser back then, wanted to make everyone happy...at the expense of my own sanity.

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What Are the Top JW Issues That Just Burn Your Buns the Most?

by Wild_Thing in

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which ones make you the maddest?

covering up of abuse, shunning, failed end of world predictions?.

my list is long and heavy, but the top 3 that set me off the most are:.

babygirl30

1. Shunning has absolutely NO scriptural basis, but the JWs swear it is legitimate.

2. Dating with chaperones...please! No thanks.

3. Judicial Committees judging you

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Friends of onacruise

by Onacruise2NephewBoogaloo in

i was born into the elastic fact, tract & knock knock club, as it is known to some, but most often you will hear them referred to as "the worst thing i've ever been through.

"i had the typical jw early life of forced compliance by sadistic joy killing narcissists.

i learned early on that 'new light' doesn't come from stifled children and there was no suggestion box at my house.. when i was 6 my parents divorced and my mom quickly remarried and we moved from portland to the oregon coast.

babygirl30

Welcome!

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Another Newbie

by Drifting Away in

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friends

hello, i have been lurking for a while, but discovered ttatt for about 8 months now.

i am trying to fade out, problem is i have a big family i would lose if i got df'ed or da,'ed myself.

my wife knows how i feel, and is not thrilled but i cant hide my feelings.

babygirl30

I agree with you in going through the "range of emotions" - some days I felt like maybe it really is the Truth and I am being swayed by false info....other days, I wanted to stay OUT and run as far away as possible. I would question things, question myself, doubt my own choices. It is hiw we were bred in that religion - so sad. Isnt it?

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Help messy problem

by poopie in

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the problem is i have a baptized witness going out on service door to door giveing comments at kh who for the last 4 years has had sex with at least 10 prostitutes and regularly takes drugs ie speed the cong has no idea he's doing this he says he will never go to elders for fear his family will shun him if df so he continues i know because he tells me everything should i tell the elders or not.

babygirl30

This story sounds so utterly made up, that I am shocked at the serious responses...lol.

Call me a cynic or just a hardcore East Coast chick...but I call BS on this story. FOH!!!!!!

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jws deny shunning, yet lie to not look bad

by Ghiagirl in

i recently decided to take matters into my own hands with my husbands family who have nothing to do with us.

his mom has seen my son twice since he has been born and his dad has never met him.

his family will pop in every few months, on top of that like in my last post ask for for money.

babygirl30

Im so sorry you are going through this, and believe me, I know all too well the pain of shunning. My parents shun me, and make NO attmepts to hide it in public, at family functions, etc. It was last summer at my family reunion that it all came out the LIES my father has been telling everyone as to why he and my mother do not acknowledge my existence!! That broke my heart...these 2 elderly adults vehemently deny that their shunning is religiously based, and instead say that it is ME and how I am pulling the wool over everyones eyes. Their ignoring me is not their choice but mine? That if people want to know why we dont speak, to ask ME?

The thing is, their delusion is so thin, that 99% of rational thinking human beings can see right through it - thankfully. And the lies they tell are ONLY believed by those in the org. Remember, thats what we were always taught...those the get DFd is because they werent repentant, not because 3 untrained men sealed their fate. And they will continue to point blame in your direction, as if their choice to shun was made by you. It is so sad and pathetic that they feel people are that dumb to believe it. Hugs to you and your husband. I would put s hault on any financial assistance to them...especially if they cannot even show respect enougj to you.

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Three reasons why I may have to back.

by Crazyguy in

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i look back over the last two years of my life with all the experiences i have read about here and other places and these are three experiences that stand out to me.

recently in another post a girl relates her experience of being in the borg and her mom literally threw her away by giving her over to the state after she accused an elder of groping her.

two; i met the man that wrote the insight books for the borg and even though he was at the time the brians of the borgs doctines when he faded his family , brother and his kids are shunning him.

babygirl30

Why do you feel YOU have to make such a sacrifice in order to 'help' your family? It doesnt seem as if they are making any compromises on your behalf...

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NOW it's Important

by TheLiberator in

i have spent 45 years of my life sacrificing my soul to the watchtower.

twenty-five of those years as a ms/elder.

i gave every moment to them.

babygirl30

The eternal judgement is what I never understood...everyone ELSE can make a choice on how they want to act or what they want to do - but when YOU make choices, they all of a sudden have so much to say. It is forever frustrating and can make you think you are losing your mind...their 'circular' reasoning.

There was a sister in my cong when I was in who had married a non JW and was Df. She came back, retired, and became a pioneer. Now she would bring her husband around to diff JW parties and all, and he would come to a few mts here and there, but never did more then that. But she was who they used in demos and assemblies to speak against marrying outside the org and she would talk about how hard it was, how she was still trying to get him to come into the 'truth'...blah blah blah. Her husband ends up getting really sick, and I guess that pushes his spirituality into overdrive, cause he starts studying. He eventually gets baptized and they become this 'sooo happy' couple in the cong. So, there is a young pioneer sister who is dating a non-JW in the hall during this time (who is close to the older retired sis) and this older sis and her now baptized hubby have the nerve to TELL the elders about it together. Mind you, they did the same damn thing, but because their situation changed I guess they felt they had the right to speak up since their situation turned over and became RIGHT when the husband got baptized.

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There seems to be many jw's marrying outside of org recently.

by atomant in

l was wondering if others have noticed this or is just my imagination?my sister whom has always been a fine example of a dub just got married to an outsider was a shock to everyone as no one knew she was dating an outsider.she seems happy.the elders are to shit scared of her to approach her about the matter.

babygirl30

A LOT of millenials are openly dating and marrying outside the org. I think it is about time!