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  hall crash

  by intrigue169 in

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  i live in the des moines iowa area , i would be interested in doing a kingdom hall crash after watching some on youtube, i would love to do that with a group of people.

  i haven't meet any other ex jw around here.

  i was never baptized, i always knew i could never live up to jehovah's standard so i never did even consider baptizing.

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  babygirl30

  So JW's always described apostates/ex-JW as 'mentally deranged" or whatever...and that they were the ones doing crazy things (picketing outside district assemblies, jumping up and shouting at meetings, etc). And most of us have seen that at least once in our lives, right?

  Even today...if I were st work and someone jumped up and started yelling, or came in the building and made a scene - I'd label them crazy! Understand that doing the same thing in a Khall will not put seeds of doubt in anyones mind...but will make them discuss your crazy actions (instead of your intended message).
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  On this Fathers Day...

  by babygirl30 in

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  i have never really spoken on social media about my jw family shunning me.

  i didnt even discuss or answer any questions about why they didnt come to my wedding, my birthday parties, why there are never any pics of them with me/us together.

  until today.... today i woke up and had this insane desire to be open.

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  babygirl30

  People do care, and not just us as exjws, but people in general don't know about what they do in destroying families.
  

  What's crazy is that it has taken me YEARS to understand that - that people do really care. As JWs it was so engrained in us that if you get DFd no one cares about you, no one will love you, you will fail without the org, and you are 'dead' to everyone. 🙄😏. And ironically I learned the true meaning of unconditional love AFTER I was DFd from non-JWs who care about me and my heartache of not having my families support. Those people are the ones giving a "good witness" if you ask me!
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  On this Fathers Day...

  by babygirl30 in

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  i have never really spoken on social media about my jw family shunning me.

  i didnt even discuss or answer any questions about why they didnt come to my wedding, my birthday parties, why there are never any pics of them with me/us together.

  until today.... today i woke up and had this insane desire to be open.

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  babygirl30

  The shunning has been going on for 10yrs as of next month (wow time flies)! And I'm used to it, which is so horrible to even say out loud - "I'm used to my parents ignoring me". Smh. For years I've had to lie when people ask me "oh how is your mom..how is your dad doing?" Because I truly have NO idea. Any info I get comes from my aunts and uncles 2nd hand. And after 10yrs of pretending my family is "ok", after 10yrs of taking the brunt while my parents play victims in this DF path I've chosen, today, I told the truth. Finally. And based on the responses I've gotten (almost 75)...a conversation has ensued and the exposure has begun. 😊
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  A&E - Cults and Extreme Belief - Jehovah's Witnesses

  by Incognito in

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  i haven't seen this posted.. tuesday may 29, 2018 @ 10pm (new york time zone).

  cults and extreme belief - jehovah's witnesses.

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  babygirl30

  I have to agree with THIS part...at no time would any CEO or company head of a massive corp be readily available just to chat with a walk-in without a formal appt. To me that came across as a little unstable. I'm sorry. Mail your letter and move on. But I guess they wanted to sensationalize the story by adding the headquarters visit.

  Going to HQ was a little overdone. What large organization could you go to, and drop in on the CEO or someone from the Board of Directors without an appointment of some kind??
  
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  If shunning was not a tool used by jw what would happen

  by poopie in

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  to organization.

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  babygirl30

  It would cause a domino effect: the membership would slowly drop because the fear would be gone. People could research in the open, talk and deal with Df family members without repercussions, and the conditional bonds would be broken...then the finances would begin to fall due to less members...then the society would also have a falling out
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  On this Fathers Day...

  by babygirl30 in

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  i have never really spoken on social media about my jw family shunning me.

  i didnt even discuss or answer any questions about why they didnt come to my wedding, my birthday parties, why there are never any pics of them with me/us together.

  until today.... today i woke up and had this insane desire to be open.

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  babygirl30

  I have never really spoken on social media about my JW family shunning me. I didnt even discuss or answer any questions about why they didnt come to my wedding, my birthday parties, why there are never any pics of them with me/us together. Until TODAY...

  TODAY I woke up and had this insane desire to be open. To tell people the truth about it all and to put it out there why on Fathers Day 2018, my father isnt in my life. Below is what I wrote...and let me say that although I have been crying most of today reading and re-reading my post. It is the the support I have gotten from everyone OUTSIDE my immediate family that resonates with me - through and through. Just wanted to show that I'm proud of my damn self today! #yayme
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  How long has it been since you have seen your family?

  by Christian Gutierrez in

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  howdy guys!

  so how long has it been since you have seen your jw family or friends?

  or do you even care to have them in your life anymore?

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  babygirl30

  Almost 2yrs...last saw that at my annual family reunion, where they would walk right by me and not say 1 word - in front of everyone. 😥
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  #1 ANSWER THIS: Why would an omnibenevolent and omniscient god put us through tests of faith?

  by EdenOne in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i'll be starting a series "answer this:" with thought-provoking questions for debate.

  your arguments for and against are most welcome.. i'll start with this: .

  why would an omnibenevolent and omniscient god put us through tests of faith?.

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  babygirl30

  I often questioned this myself...

  1. If God knows all, why would he create humans he KNEW were going to 'ruin things' for everyone after?

  2. Why would God just not kick Adam and Eve to the curb, create new humans, and let us all have a fighting chance?

  3. What kind of God knowing sits back and watches people suffer - all to prove a POINT to a bad angel HE created (and could've destroyed)?

  4. Didnt God KNOW all the crazy crap that was going to take place beforehand...so why didnt he intervene? And why were the Israelites of old times 'good enough' for miracles and saving from harm/starvation/death right on the spot...yet WE today arent?

  5. Why did God allow Satan to even BE in Eden and taunt Adam and Eve? Isnt that playing games with people? And after they sinned, why not just erase their memory and start over? Why allow 1 mistake by 2 dummies cause such a ripple effect?

  I have always been curious about those things - because outside of the surface reasoning the JWs provide, there never was any clear answer.
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  Something in the air this season...

  by babygirl30 in

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  i have had some ultra weird exchanges with some existing jws these past 2 months that have me caught off guard (which is rare for me) - but overall just odd.. 1. i was out at a happy hour with some coworkers, and a woman whom i used to be friends with in another congregation came in with her husband.

  background: her kids, myself, and her best friends son - were all close friends!

  so we all were around this woman and her bff on a regular basis.

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  babygirl30

  but once they find the right person and get married, then all of a sudden they are diehard JWs who toe the line and rebuke anyone who questions anything or doesn't live up to those standards.

  That is exactly my point! When they were down and out...or in need of some sexual healing (hahaha) their choices were fine at the time. But now that they seem to have found what they want, and PERCEPTION has them looking like 'model JWs' because they are married/dating - they have the gall to become the judge and jury.
  
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  Hello

  by googleTTATT in

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  2. friends

  i am new hear to the board.

  i want to share my story to you all.. i was a born-in jw, baptized at a very young age, pioneered, woke up three years ago, disassociated last year, i am twenty years of age now.

  shunned by all my friends in the org.. please show me some love and share some of your experiences with me.

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  babygirl30

  Welcome to your real LIFE!