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  20yr old daughter cant deal with my new self - advice please

  by nearlyfree in

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  2. family

  my eldest daughter is having a hard time dealing with our new family dynamics.

  since my marriage breakup over a year ago, i have finally started to enoy life and fading fast from the jw's , well actually i've done a disappearing act.

  i have not attended a meeting for 4 months now!

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  Calling all Australians

  by Aussie Oz in

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  i'd like to know who you all are on the board.. you dont have to identify yourself personaly as i understand some need to be ingocnito.

  i am also curious to see if any of my old childhood and adult life friends have made it onto here.. me: lived in ballarat 70s, naracoorte in the 80s, adelaide in the 90s.

  traveled to york w.a as a teen and to alice springs and brisbane early twenties.. of course, if you need to be silent, thats fine too!

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  Anyone read/studied Art Costas -Habits of Mind & Edward Debono Six thinking Hat

  by nearlyfree in

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  2. friends

  my daughter has been accepted into a school for gifted and talented kids.

  at this school their aim is to teach kids higher level thinking skills and applications and have extensive exposure to problem solving.

  (sounds great) this will be achieved by teaching specific thinking skills from art costa - habits of mind and edward debonos - six thinking hat.

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  Elders in my cong are unbeleivable!!!

  by nearlyfree in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i havent been to a meeting for over 3 months now, i wanted to do a slow fade, going to a meeting everynow and then just to keep the elders of my back but couldnt face going to another meeting..... anyway my daughter still is attending the meetings, and in that time that i have not been there no one has asked her how i am, until last night at the meeting an elder comes up to her and asks her why i havent been to the meetings, and if he and a new elder in the cong can come over tonight and talk to me!!!!!

  i couldnt believe it when she told me!!!!!

  !how sneaky are they to try and organize through my daughter to come and see me, you would think that they would ring me and talk directly to me, i was so mad, that i felt like ringing up the elder and telling him exactly what i thought of him, but decided it was not a good idea incase i started going on about "apostate stuff" i tend to get bit carried away when i am angry........ .

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  How Many Here Actually "Studied" The Publications?

  by minimus in

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  when i was a teenager i extensively studied nearly every publication.

  i especially enjoyed looking up the root words meanings in the hebrew and greek of the bible language.

  it gave me the flavor of a word and its origins.

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  Do you regret confessing your sins to the elders?

  by asilentone in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  yes, i do!

  i did it 20 years ago, but the elders still remember what i did, sometimes i wish they never knew about it.

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  wife took it pretty well i guess...it's over...

  by oompa in

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  2. friends

  i guess it only took three years, but they were hell in so many ways for both of us...she was not happy and lived in denial as much as possible...i was not happy and lived in a bottle as much as possible and glad that is over for me....but it was one of the saddest things i have ever experienced in my life....as was the visit to my parents before i told her....but yes...she said she kind of expected it...was thinking something was going to happen soon as she noticed i had more and more trouble saying i love you back to her when she said it on the phone at the end of goodbyes...and when i was leaving the house...i had noticed it for over a year and it was killing me..... i told her how sorry i was for changing so much again....and that she still walks on water...and is a great person and so pretty....and that she will be ok because she was happy single before me for many years and had all she needs for that again...her closeness to jehovah and her freinds in the congregation...she is very close to both and will be ok i hope...it was very surreal....very calm...very sad.

  my bitterness and disdain for wt rules came through when talking to my parents and i was very open about how i feel as to their upcoming shunning of me, and how it feels to my son since he was just 17....and how the fear of losing them had kept me trying in my marriage for the past few years...dad was firm in his position of future action....mom said they will still always love me...and will still talk to me until i get dfd.....oh how this hurts.....dad said there is a name for people who only live for themselves and deny god but could not think of what it was....i told him i was not living just for myself...that i am a good person and there are values from him and the bible i hope i always have....i cry so hard as i type this and tell you just so you can know how painful this is....i told him i so loved the rule of treating others how you want to be treated and have always done that...even allowing myself to be wronged on so many occasions to keep peace....... he said that was a good rule....i agreed and said it was a big one too....and that while i could do it...treat him the way i would like to be treated...he would not be able to!.......left as i became emotional...big hug from mom, but i just barely put an arm on dad............oompa.

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  According to bookstudy, it's ok to beat wife.....occassionally

  by JWinprotest in

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  i apologize if this has been mentioned, but i don't have the time to come on here as often.

  yesterday's bookstudy on divorce got my shorts in a bit of a knot.

  apparently, according to the god's love book, a wife could consider legal separation from her husband if she is physically abused, but (get this) only in the case of extreme physical abuse, and if the wife's life is in danger.

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  Hi - new kid on th block

  by nearlyfree in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have been looking at this website for about 2 months now and feel i am now ready to say hi and intoduce myself.i dont want to give out too much info at this point in time as i still am in the org, but have only been to 2 meetings since the district convention in august and last time i went out on service was in march.

  i was basically raised in the truth as my parents became jw when i was 2. i was married in my late teens and after 21 years of being married to a total control freak he left me (yay).

  anyway since me ex left, i had been doing a lot of thinking about being a witness, and i wasnt really going to a lot of meetings - just didnt feel like it.

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  I stumbled upon this anagrams website....

  by lisavegas420 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i typed in:.

  jehovah's witnesses .

  and it came back:.

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