Posts by nearlyfree

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What Color Are Your Eyes?

by snowbird in

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mine are brown.. syl.

o.k i have noticed that most female jws are ugly.and by ugly i mean ugly.they won't work out,they are fat and won't go on a diet (some female teens won't even shave their legs),they neglect their appearance/body in general.any opinions?.

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p.s many will eventually get fat after marriage.

nearlyfree

Hey i am in agreement with babygirl 30

I don't know what area YOU come from, but I have never BEEN and never will BE - ugly!

Even when i was a modest dressing JW, my ex used to think i was having it off with the bro's in the cong!!

As if.... all the bro's in my cong were UGLY....

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What year Did you Stop Attending Meetings - How Long were you a JW ?

by flipper in

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i'm trying to compare some statistics and figures on this to share later in the thread to see if more long-time witnesses are exiting- or are newer witnesses exiting after a shorter period of time.

and - are more people exiting in the last 10 to 15 years than before.

so your answers would be helpful in looking into this .

nearlyfree

was 2 when my parents became JW - baptized at 18 and attended my last meeting in August 2009 at 41. Attended the memorial this

year only to please family... Never going back... ever!

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What would you do if this site was shut down?

by dissed in

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although, unlikely, but what if jwn was shut down?

you came here and you got a message like....."the wts has seized this site".

where would you go for solid jw information and support?.

nearlyfree

I know if would definatley be bored at work. I dont post much here, paranoid about my ex finding me on here and reporting me to the elders - He would love it if i got DF'd, but I do spend a bit of time here when im at work!

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Missing meetings due to the weather, and then attending meetings is making me Bipolar I think.

by miseryloveselders in

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without divulging too much information about myself, i'm on the east coast, up north.

we've been hammered by snow storms, and from what i hear we've got another one on the way tommorrow night.

this month, i've missed 4 meetings total.

nearlyfree

I havent been to a meeting now for about 6 months and just at the thought of going to one starts stressing me out. The last time

i went to a meeting i got so stressed just from getting ready, that by the time I got there i was a mess, and only lasted for the

first half. As soon as i left, i felt so much better. I have decided to go to the Memorial, so as not to

raise any red flags with the elders - and even though its a month away, i'm already feeling totaly stressed about it. ( i think i will have to drink a lot of red wine before i go!! )

Going to the meetings is definately bad for my physical and mental health..... I have never felt so happy about my life, since i stopped going.

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Getting Your "Time" in On Time

by OnTheWayOut in

i spoke with a fellow ex-jw whose wife is still a jw.

she was missing some meetings, but had to get to her first meeting of the month.

she needed to turn her "time" in.

nearlyfree

The feild service overseer of our hall would ring me up every month - If i had no time to report he would say what about the time spent talking to my kids about Jah. I then started reporting 1 hour, though i didnt like doing that. Last time I spoke to him I said "Dont ring me - I will ring You if i have any time to report" I havent heard from him for 2 months!!!

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20yr old daughter cant deal with my new self - advice please

by nearlyfree in

my eldest daughter is having a hard time dealing with our new family dynamics.

since my marriage breakup over a year ago, i have finally started to enoy life and fading fast from the jw's , well actually i've done a disappearing act.

i have not attended a meeting for 4 months now!

nearlyfree

dig692 - I thinks there may be a bit of jealousy there, but i dont think that is the major reason. She has relative freedom, in that she has worldly friends, goes clubbing, birthday parties, christmas parties etc..... and still hangs out with JW friends....I think she still sees me as her mum who should be sitting at home knitting, feet in slippers and drinking tea!!! not that i have ever knitted or worn slippers!!!!!!!

Billy - Your comment made me laugh, especailly about her pioneering. I dont think my daugher would ever auxillary pioneer - she hates witnessing - has only gone out twice this year in FS but reports about 10-15 hours every month!!! I think the problem is that she doesnt see me as an individual person - just as her mum.

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20yr old daughter cant deal with my new self - advice please

by nearlyfree in

my eldest daughter is having a hard time dealing with our new family dynamics.

since my marriage breakup over a year ago, i have finally started to enoy life and fading fast from the jw's , well actually i've done a disappearing act.

i have not attended a meeting for 4 months now!

nearlyfree

HI Aussie,

I know what you mean. After 20 years of being in Marriage prison and 40 Years in JW Prison, i am starting to have fun. I will not allow anyone (even my daughter) to make me feel bad or guilty for enjoying myself and the decisions i make in life. Her friends have even asked her, if i can go out with them, but she has not told me this ....... I found this out last week from her fiancee, and told him that next time they go out for a night out on the town, im coming.........

I guess i just want to know the best way to deal with her feelings, and get her to accept me for who I am now.

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20yr old daughter cant deal with my new self - advice please

by nearlyfree in

my eldest daughter is having a hard time dealing with our new family dynamics.

since my marriage breakup over a year ago, i have finally started to enoy life and fading fast from the jw's , well actually i've done a disappearing act.

i have not attended a meeting for 4 months now!

nearlyfree

Hi Satanus

Yeah she is a JW, but is only going to the meetings because she is engaged to a JW. She told me the other day, that she didnt want to be a witness anymore but was only doing it for her fiancee. He has no idea about her feelings, he just thinks she is spiritually weak.

. I dont think that she is really dependant on me, she is a very independant person herself. I think she doesnt think my behaviour is appropriate for a mother!!! Its not as if i go out partying everynight!!!

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20yr old daughter cant deal with my new self - advice please

by nearlyfree in

my eldest daughter is having a hard time dealing with our new family dynamics.

since my marriage breakup over a year ago, i have finally started to enoy life and fading fast from the jw's , well actually i've done a disappearing act.

i have not attended a meeting for 4 months now!

nearlyfree

my eldest daughter is having a hard time dealing with our new family dynamics. Since my marriage breakup over a year ago, i have finally started to enoy life and fading fast from the Jw's , well actually I've done a disappearing act. I have not attended a meeting for 4 months now! She is having a hard time dealing with the fact that I am no longer the same person I was when I was married, ( a mindless drone ) she has told me I dont act like her mum, but act like a teenager. I am starting to go out with some friends from work,joined a tennis club and am having a good time. She cant seem to get over the fact that family life is not the same as it was. I am not being neglectful of my parental responsibilites, but work hard to be a good mum. My youngest is 12 and she is totally okay with how i am, she often tells me that she likes me so much more now, and that i am heaps more fun to be around.

Jus wondering if anyone else had similar experiences and how they dealt with it.