Please donāt take it personally Rules. You have a full and busy life. A beautiful life. Rich is empty. Heās dying and he knows it. No family of his own, few friends (I imagine) and, to be frank, heās needy and heās becoming bitter. Basically heās acting like heās in a co dependent relationship with you. Except you donāt seem to be co dependent with him!!!!! Good! Now I think itās about time your brother knew about his friends condition. Too bad if he doesnāt want your brother to know. He shouldnāt have told you if he didnāt want him to know!!! Heās playing a mean game whereby heās hoping your brother will find out when Itās too late and be wracked with guilt.
All this makes him sound like a royal pain in the ass, right? But he must have been fun once upon a time, yes? I really think you should wait a bit, calm down and if and when he apologizes to you accept the apology and make it a condition that he tells your brother, tries to make up with him and starts to take a long hard look at himself and where heās going. Maybe get therapy? Get some professional care so he doesnāt have to rely on one person....otherwise heāll die alone, and he doesnāt really want that.
I think heās very, very frightened Rules. Heās pushing everyone away. Iāve seen it before and itās very sad.
PS youāre a good manš