But telling the elders about adultery does not necessarily result in trouble for the adulterer.
^^^ This.
In my experience it's the partner who has the best "back up" who wins (ie most influential family).
Make sure, whatever you do, it reflects well on you. Because when you do fall in love again, you don't want to scare her off by being vengeful. You're better off without her if she behaved like that. Get therapy I'd highly recommend it, too, to help deal with the pain and anger.