2) Save your kid. Put your foot down on meeting attendance and indoctrination. Stop it. Use their rules against them. They have to respect you as head of the family, even if you're DA'd or DF'd. So you can prevent your child from being indoctrinated.
Careful....this DOES NOT apply, respect for hS is only given so far as it doesn't interfere with spiritual endangerment, god before husband. If he tries to push it this far she may LEAVE with the little one. The best thing is to be as reasonable as possible...perhaps one week the meeting for her second week FAMILY FUN! Guess which will win over little one?!!
Also another idea is to show that people outside the JWs can FORGIVE! Maybe explain to little one that dubs try to be good because they are scared of punishment...but you are good/ forgive because its the right thing to do! Then ask her...what does she think?!
Edited to say u must be mad as all hell! This is just a general idea to people who find themselves in this position with a family member...I would dream of telling anyone what to do specifically in their situation!