Can I just say I am related to someone ( nephew in-law) who has BPD and Ive been in clinics with people diagnosed with it so I DO know what it’s like to be around them but I can’t imagine the hell you must feel being the one they’re obsessed with. I know that fear, though, since my hubby has been that person. I absolutely feel for you.
I think perhaps you need to try and be there for your poor niece who is the one who is going to really suffer in all this. It’s seems that poor little girl as used as a pawn.
Your sister had a very real and very debilitating illness....apart from schizophrenia perhaps the MOST debilitating. Your parents took advantage of that fact and I’m afraid it’s they that have done the most damage to you.
is there any chance you and your husband would be willing to fight for that little girl?
PS I’m very sorry such a very young lady and mother has lost her life :(
edit: raising that child away from the cult would be the ultimate fitting tribute to the woman YOUR SISTER SHOULD HAVE BEEN. Even if you fought for access it would be worth it. Perhaps you will fill that gaping hole with the relationship with your sisters child ❤️❤️