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  I finally did it

  by doublelife in

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  i told my mom that i'm not going back to the meetings.

  i wasn't planning on telling her that but i've been going through some hard times with my husband and just got fed up with her hounding me.

  so she asked if i'll still consider going back to the meetings and i just flat out told her no and that it wasn't up for discussion.

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  Thanks, peaches.

  Cadellin: clarity, that's the right word. It's becoming easier to breath.
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  If You Weren't In Rapt Attention What Did You Think About During The Meetings?

  by minimus in

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  i used to think of leaving early.

  at the end i started making excuses to leave (supposedly work related) so that i could just get out of there.

  i wanted a drink!.

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  "I rarely paid alot of attention. I had a whole fantasy world going on, usually rated R or higher."

  Same here.
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  I finally did it

  by doublelife in

  1. jw
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  i told my mom that i'm not going back to the meetings.

  i wasn't planning on telling her that but i've been going through some hard times with my husband and just got fed up with her hounding me.

  so she asked if i'll still consider going back to the meetings and i just flat out told her no and that it wasn't up for discussion.

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  Scarred for life: Thanks. I'm excited about pet sitting but nervous at the same time because I'll be running my own business.
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  I finally did it

  by doublelife in

  1. jw
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  i told my mom that i'm not going back to the meetings.

  i wasn't planning on telling her that but i've been going through some hard times with my husband and just got fed up with her hounding me.

  so she asked if i'll still consider going back to the meetings and i just flat out told her no and that it wasn't up for discussion.

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  Roddy: Right now, I live in an apartment where each individual building is gated so the hounders won't be able to get to me. When I'm able to move out on my own I will have someone pretend to be an elder an get my publisher card for me. I might have to ask someone on this board for help with that. Then I won't ever have to worry about visits.

  I quit!: Thanks. That's so true.

  shamus100: Thanks for the advise and enouragment. I'm not looking forward to the rocky patches but I know that it's going to happen. I'm trying to brace myself now so that I can deal with it.

  OTWO: I'm glad things are working out for you and your mom.
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  I finally did it

  by doublelife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i told my mom that i'm not going back to the meetings.

  i wasn't planning on telling her that but i've been going through some hard times with my husband and just got fed up with her hounding me.

  so she asked if i'll still consider going back to the meetings and i just flat out told her no and that it wasn't up for discussion.

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  Mad Sweeney: "What I hate about this stage of fading (we're in fairly similar places, doublelife) is that suddenly all the attention you get from Dubs is based around the fact that you're "spiritually sick" and "need encouragement" when in reality you just want freedom from those sorts of value judgments."

  OMG! You've described what's happening perfectly. I didn't realize it is because of the stage of fading I'm in. And the attention isn't only coming from my family. One of my jw conditional friends sent me a message on facebook saying that she wants to hang out with me. This happened the day after I had this conversation with my mom. Ugh!
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  I finally did it

  by doublelife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i told my mom that i'm not going back to the meetings.

  i wasn't planning on telling her that but i've been going through some hard times with my husband and just got fed up with her hounding me.

  so she asked if i'll still consider going back to the meetings and i just flat out told her no and that it wasn't up for discussion.

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  doublelife

  Thanks everyone for your responses.

  alanv: "You probably feel you would really like to tell the WT to shove it, and disassociate yourself from them"

  I do feel that way. It's weird because I'm past all the anger and resentment stage I went through when I first found out the truth about the "truth." But after the conversation with my mom over the weekend, it all came back.

  teel: I will also refuse to meet with any hounders. As for changing my screen name to singlelife, I'm not exactly to that point yet. I think I will be soon but I don't make enough money to support myself thanks to years of pioneering. That's why I'm starting the pet sitting gig. That, and plus, I really love animals. I should have thought about this job earlier.
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  I finally did it

  by doublelife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i told my mom that i'm not going back to the meetings.

  i wasn't planning on telling her that but i've been going through some hard times with my husband and just got fed up with her hounding me.

  so she asked if i'll still consider going back to the meetings and i just flat out told her no and that it wasn't up for discussion.

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  doublelife

  I told my mom that I'm not going back to the meetings. I wasn't planning on telling her that but I've been going through some hard times with my husband and just got fed up with her hounding me. So she asked if I'll still consider going back to the meetings and I just flat out told her no and that it wasn't up for discussion. She asked if I was looking for another religion and I told her no and that I won't DA so that she doesn't have to worry about shunning me. There wasn't anything she could do except accept it. And now everyone in my family is so worried about me. Oh well. I have other things to stress over. But it does feel good to finally stand up to my mom. I know our relationship will be different now but at least I don't have my double life hanging over my head anymore.

  And I've decided to start pet sitting on the side for a little extra money. I've done it for friends and family in the past and love it so I ordered some business cards today. I'm excited to see what this turns into!
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  RANDY WATTER'S DAD JUST DIED

  by Mary in

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  randy watters, owner of freeminds.org father just died a couple of hours ago from pneumonia and alzheimers.

  he was 86 years old.

  as randy has been tireless in his efforts to help countless people come out of the wts, i would like to express my sincere condolences to him at this time.. .

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  doublelife

  My condolences, Randy.
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  Did leaving the WT build greater appreciation for or kill your reading of the Bible?

  by lepermessiah in

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  i am really on the fence on this issue right now and would love some opinions.. i find that i dont sit down and read the bible for long periods since becoming inactive, but on the other hand, individual scriptures mean much more to me now.. i will sit down and look up some favorite passages from time to time and feel like its the first time i really "got it" - without the jw goggles on.

  i love matthew chapter 23, since i think it describes to a tee the situation in jw congregations.

  i think if jesus returned today, he would blast the elders and "leaders" of the borg in a similar fashion (along with most religious leaders) .matthew 24 is actually more interesting to me now, simply because my whole life was waiting for the 1914 generation to end sometime during the reagan era!

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  "Killed it stone dead. The bible IMO is myths, legends and fables."

  Ditto.
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  My Dad Died Today

  by cantleave in

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  he has been ill for some time, but it was still unexpected.

  he was never a jw and i didn't really have a close relationship with him, since he remarried after my parents divorced.

  i reunited with him in the mid 90's after over 10 years of not seeing him.. .

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  My condolences.