If the JW's are one extreme, it seems to me that so many former JW's on this thread have gone to the other extreme.
Based on some things you have read on this online forum, you may feel that you can make that assumption.
But the fact is you haven't personally gotten to know all of the ex-JW out there. EX-JWs cannot be neatly classified as a bunch of immoral/drug addicted/dishonest people ----as the WTS would portray "worldly poeople."
People here represent any diverse group you might find in any segment of society. Some ex-JWs do have very strict values and standards that they live by and others might offend you by what they do or say.
Begin by posting discussions about your interests--spiritual and otherwise and see who else has these interests in common with you.
You'll soon find that many here enjoy hearing from you and have many of the same intrests you do.
YC