Posts by YoursChelbie

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I have a friend in a tough situation

by YoursChelbie in

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i have a friend who just got married by the courthouse.

her husband and her were to have a church wedding but the very day before the wedding she tells me he begins to behave in odd ways.

first she sees he has strange marks on his back but he cannot explain how they got there.

I have a friend in a tough situation

by YoursChelbie in

jw
friends

i have a friend who just got married by the courthouse.

her husband and her were to have a church wedding but the very day before the wedding she tells me he begins to behave in odd ways.

first she sees he has strange marks on his back but he cannot explain how they got there.

Thanks for your comments Aude and Lois. She lives in southern united states. Another sad part is when he decided to call off the wedding the day before the wedding, all of his relatives were arriving in town for the wedding. He took to spending all the following days with them, abandoning her and spreading every negative comment to them about her to support why he was calling off the wedding with such short notice. They pretty much took his side and view her in a negative light. Unlike him, she doesn't have family to turn to and is an only child, both parents are gone due to health issues. I'm wondering what she should do because she also has a school age child from a previous relationship. Why would a man do this and turn angry so suddenly. I met him a few times and always he appeared attentive and nice to her, it's like some sort of personality issue. The day of the wedding he supposedly even went to pick up his tux from the cleaners. So in that same day, this person's feeling about having a wedding went from day to night. How can someone change so suddenly? I'm at a loss and I feel for her. I know she is going thru depression and sadness. Not sure what to do or say to her.

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I have a friend in a tough situation

by YoursChelbie in

jw
friends

i have a friend who just got married by the courthouse.

her husband and her were to have a church wedding but the very day before the wedding she tells me he begins to behave in odd ways.

first she sees he has strange marks on his back but he cannot explain how they got there.

YoursChelbie

I have a friend who just got married by the courthouse. Her husband and her were to have a church wedding but the very day before the wedding she tells me he begins to behave in odd ways. First she sees he has strange marks on his back but he cannot explain how they got there. She said he basically lost his temper when she began to question and yelled at her. She asked him to apologyze for yelling but he accused her of doubting his fidelity and became cold and angry towards her. One thing led to another so after their long argument that day he decides to go the church and talk to the preacher who was to marry them the following day. He ends up canceling the wedding. I have no idea how to comfort my friend. The preacher told her unless they both come in for counseling, he can't talk to her alone. Basically her husband (since they had gone to the justice of the peace several weeks prior) cancels their wedding the day prior! I couldn't believe it. She basically told me they had a few other arguments but that he blew this one out of proportion. He also has teenage sons who live with their mother. They have never seen him drink beer which he does on occasion. She said once she asked what would happen if his sons found out he keeps a six pack of beer in fridge. That was another argument because he doesn't want his kids to know he drinks even thought it's not a bad thing in my opinion.
Now it looks like he wants to divorce her. She told me he hasn't spoken to her in a week and has only made a brief mention that he will get his things in the next few days from the house they were renting. I'm sad for her. Don't know what to make of it. She doesn't work and he said even though she is in college full time he will not pay alimony. I fear she may have to drop out of college to get a ful time job. Anything helpful will be much appreaciated.

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Sunday June 20th is Father's Day: Where will you Be?

by YoursChelbie in

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i hope all the great dads out there have an awesome father's day this sunday!.

whether you are a dad or not you're welcome to hang out with some of us from jwd.

we're having a gathering here in north texas!

YoursChelbie

Hi Blondie :)

Are you doing OK?

I sent you a pm.

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Sunday June 20th is Father's Day: Where will you Be?

by YoursChelbie in

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i hope all the great dads out there have an awesome father's day this sunday!.

whether you are a dad or not you're welcome to hang out with some of us from jwd.

we're having a gathering here in north texas!

YoursChelbie

Hi everyone, hope you are having a good Thursday!

Three more days, so BTTT

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Sunday June 20th is Father's Day: Where will you Be?

by YoursChelbie in

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friends

i hope all the great dads out there have an awesome father's day this sunday!.

whether you are a dad or not you're welcome to hang out with some of us from jwd.

we're having a gathering here in north texas!

YoursChelbie

Changeling--Brunch with dad sounds very nice, enjoy!

garyneal-- Yeah, it's too bad the JW's dads can't even appreciate when they are being appreciated. Oh well.

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Sunday June 20th is Father's Day: Where will you Be?

by YoursChelbie in

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friends

i hope all the great dads out there have an awesome father's day this sunday!.

whether you are a dad or not you're welcome to hang out with some of us from jwd.

we're having a gathering here in north texas!

YoursChelbie

I hope all the great dads out there have an Awesome Father's Day this Sunday!

Whether you are a dad or not you're welcome to hang out with some of us from JWD.

We're having a gathering here in North Texas! Come and meet some new faces or get re-acquainted with others

I'll be arriving at 5:00 pm and if you haven't met me, I'll be the petite brunette wearing a black dress and silver heels.

(I will stand out, I hope LOL) Location:

TGI Friday's in PLano, Texas

2444 PRESTON RD
PLANO, TX 75093

See the TGI Friday's websitehttp://www.tgifridays.com/home/welcome.aspx

for interactive map and directions.)

Sunday June 20th . (this is a change because some people couldn't make it Saturday.)

I hope everyone who can, will be there for a great time.

The more the merrier!

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I hope I'm not the ONLY one...

by YoursChelbie in

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is there anyone besides me who would like to get a group together for dinner, maybe at a local tgi fridays?.

there's some faces i would really like to meet again.. i don't think that here in the dallas/north texas area, we've had a gathering in a while.. so if you have any suggestions for a particular day?

we could see when it would be convenient for most people.

YoursChelbie

Hi all!

I have been made aware that several peeps would prefer to have the gathering Suday, June 20th because they

cannot make it Saturday. I've updated the info for the gathering in a new thread under "apostafests."

http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/members/meetups/194031/1/Dallas-DFW-gathering-TGI-Fridays-for-June-19th

YC

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Anyone get divorced because of differing beliefs?

by NiceDream in

lately my husband has been miserable, but isn't talking.

he is really upset that he is "stuck with me" now that he knows i question my beliefs.

i thought we could explore the bible together and i hoped he would come to the same conclusion as me, but he won't do that.

YoursChelbie

I was married to a jdub when I was a jdub.

We had the traditional KH wedding etc. but the marriage began to fall apart when his obsession over "reaching out" increased and I began to read the truth about the "truff."

Had he been "inactive" things may have worked out. But no reasoning on my part would work and his greatest fear was me getting caught celebrating Christmas with my normal family.

After many years of marriage I had to get out for the sake of the children. They needed a normal life, and the meetings were getting to be a chore as they got older and had homework. How could I make them stay in a boring meeting every Thursday from 7 to 9 pm? We deserved better and I moved along. Do it now that the children are little. They will be better off. Just make sure you have a support system and good day care so you can go to work. You can do it! As the children get older they will thank you.

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Since millions now living will sometime retire.....

by YoursChelbie in

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if you bought into the lie that "millions now living will never die," has the.

realization that you will very likely reach retirement age, settled in your mind just yet?.

for instance, i never looked to see if there was a 401k plan when i was in the jw cult.

YoursChelbie

If you bought into the lie that "millions now living will never die," has the

realization that you will very likely reach retirement age, settled in your mind just yet?

For instance, I never looked to see if there was a 401K plan when I was in the JW cult.

Why save money when Paradise will give everybody all they need and no one will

ever get old or get sick?

At my job, we have open enrollment next month so that means we can select

the percentage of our paycheck that goes into our 401K, as well as select health

coverage for our dependents.

Are you well on your way in preparing for your golden years? Financially and emotionally?

By emotionally, I mean do you have a significat other or grown children who will

keep you company and look after you as you get older?

These are the things I ponder about --sometimes-- because when I was

in the JW brainwashed mind-set, I never gave these things a second thought.