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  Your Personal Top Ten Movies

  by KingDavidwasframed in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  "the oracle's" last comment on my shawshank thread inspired this.

  so what is your all time top ten.

  for ease, if you like a whole series (like godfather 1-3), count them as one.

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  The Greenmile

  In no particular order

  The Shawshank Redemption

  Back to the Future (all of them)

  The Full Monty

  Billy Elliott

  Inside Im Dancing

  A Beautiful Mind

  Goodnight Mr Tom

  One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest

  Pirates of the Carribean (all of them)
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  Hi, Im newly out

  by carpediem in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  nice to be here and look forward to meeting you all.

  i made a very sudden exit from 'the lie' approx 5 months ago.

  was going to try and slowly fade but couldnt do it.

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  2pink - I totally agree about finding out what TGIF is all about. When one had to spend the entire weekend either knocking on strangers doors or listening to rubbish at the KH, all one could say was S-H-I-T - Sure happy its Thursday
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  Hi, Im newly out

  by carpediem in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  nice to be here and look forward to meeting you all.

  i made a very sudden exit from 'the lie' approx 5 months ago.

  was going to try and slowly fade but couldnt do it.

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  MidwichCuckoo

  Yes we are indeed neighbours - I am in Nottinghamshire. A few miles North of you. Hope it isn't too windy where you live. A little blustery here, but not too bad considering the forcast.
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  Hi, Im newly out

  by carpediem in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  nice to be here and look forward to meeting you all.

  i made a very sudden exit from 'the lie' approx 5 months ago.

  was going to try and slowly fade but couldnt do it.

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  carpediem

  Goldensky

  Hola, ?es usted Espanol? Estoy Aprendiendo Espanol.

  Just in case - En Ingles - are you Spanish? I'm learning Spanish.
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  Did you Exit the Witnesses Gradually - Or Exit Suddenly - Your Reasons ?

  by flipper in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i thought it would be good to discuss it to understand what caused some of us to exit suddenly, or some to exit gradually .. myself , i had been in 44 years , had mentally had doubts for years before exiting - but injustices by the elders and my doubts about the " generation " doctrine led me to exit suddenly one night before a meeting.

  the elders pissed me off , i went to my seat, picked my books up and walked out - never going back.

  so what is your story and reasons ?

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  Suddenly. I had been deliberating how to leave and planned a gradual fade. I was a reg pioneer to boot, so decided it was best to do it gradually, saying I was stressed and needed time out. However, I became ill in the summer and missed a couple of weeks of meetings. The relief of not going was immense and I felt so peaceful and happy. When I felt better I got ready to go to a meeting with hubby. I stood looking in the mirror at myself in my meeting clothes, looking all witnessy, and thought 'I cant face this anymore'. I got changed into my casual gear, went downstairs and told my husband I could do it anymore. I havent been back since. I never want to go back again.
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  Hi, Im newly out

  by carpediem in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  nice to be here and look forward to meeting you all.

  i made a very sudden exit from 'the lie' approx 5 months ago.

  was going to try and slowly fade but couldnt do it.

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  Thanks so much for the very warm welcome. It is nice to know there are so many in the same situation as me. In my KH I didnt know anybody with doubts, let alone wanting to leave. It is so refreshing to meet some like minded folk.

  Jonathan Dough - Hi. If you believe in the Bible and an intelligent creator, all well and good. I dont. I need proof. I dont get the absent Father and cloak and dagger act. If he was there surely he would make sure we absolutely knew that and werent left guessing. His silence speaks volumes. As for being wrong, none of us can say for certain that anyone is wrong. We can only say we think they are because of the opinions we have formed, based on the way we interpret the evidence (or lack of).
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  What Happens After You Leave?

  by Cold Steel in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i'm not a witness, but i have to ask..... what happens after you leave?

  do you turn against all religion or do you find another?

  people say they're happy when they leave...that they feel free, but i'd hate to think that people give up on everything religious.. if you do stay religious, how many doctrines of the jws do you retain?

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  You start to live now, instead of chasing the carrot dangled by religion that there is a better life to come. Perhaps there is. If I miss it then so be it. I would rather enjoy what I have....a bird in the hand and all that. A quote from a source I cant remember....I would rather live one day as a Lion than forever as a lamb.

  I think you will find that we all have very different views after we leave.
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  Hi, Im newly out

  by carpediem in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  nice to be here and look forward to meeting you all.

  i made a very sudden exit from 'the lie' approx 5 months ago.

  was going to try and slowly fade but couldnt do it.

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  Hi Creavtivhoney

  I am from the midlands in England.

  Jonathan Dough - actually its the Bible I have a problem with, which led to my exit. I don't believe it is inspired of God, just written by man. Too many things don't add up. Also, I haven't believed in God for a long time. Just gone through the motions. I have seriously wanted to believe, but cannot accept a loving God would leave us with nothing more than a book about how to live the right way. I mean, a real father, one that really cared, would not be an absent father. He wouldnt leave us in any doubt about his existence, leaving those who do believe in him squabbling and quarreling over whose translation of a certain scripture is right or wrong. He would be in our lives, we would know he existed and could make a choice to serve him based on fact not faith. Thats what a real father would be like, in my view.
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  Hi, Im newly out

  by carpediem in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  nice to be here and look forward to meeting you all.

  i made a very sudden exit from 'the lie' approx 5 months ago.

  was going to try and slowly fade but couldnt do it.

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  carpediem

  Thanks for your warm and very quick welcome! Its nice to be on board, sitting here reading through some of your posts, with a glass of Baileys, knowing there is no field service for me tomorrow, or the next Saturday or the next or the next....
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  Hi, Im newly out

  by carpediem in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  nice to be here and look forward to meeting you all.

  i made a very sudden exit from 'the lie' approx 5 months ago.

  was going to try and slowly fade but couldnt do it.

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  carpediem

  Nice to be here and look forward to meeting you all. I made a very sudden exit from 'the lie' approx 5 months ago. Was going to try and slowly fade but couldnt do it. I just couldnt keep going, giving up my valuable time to listen to such drivel. So I just stopped. Still having the shepherding calls - yawn. I only have two regrets so far. My husband who is still in. My best friend who I dont want to lose. I am working on both. In the meantime, I love the weekends now and all this lovely stuff called time! Life is better on the outside, no doubt about it.

  carpe diem