Posts by dssynergy

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ok, I give up!

by dssynergy in

jw
friends

i have been testing the waters with a fade.

waiting to see the reaction.

my friends and family still talk to me, although i haven't been to meeting since november of last year.

@leavingWT: That is good advice. I have had a lot of family issues this year: my dad died, my grandpa (his dad) died 4 months later, my grandma is sick, my brother tried to kill himself...a lot of crisis. And the truth is - I can't deal with more expectations right now. I am juggling a lot of balls, and I don't find comfort at the KH. I find judgment and criticism, which are not helpful to me.

In the middle of all of this, I'm running my business and working hard at keeping my head on straight.

So, that kind of conversation "I'm depressed/overwhelmed" is not far fetched.

DS

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ok, I give up!

by dssynergy in

jw
friends

i have been testing the waters with a fade.

waiting to see the reaction.

my friends and family still talk to me, although i haven't been to meeting since november of last year.

dssynergy

@Broken Promises: That has sort of been my strategy. I own a business and travel a lot. So, I'm gone a lot too. I went to the district convention some, and saw one of the elders at my hall. I told him I had been listening on the phone because I'm having anxiety issues. (true). He said "thanks for letting me know" and left it at that.

But, how do I keep this going? Do I just skirt the issue?? Also - it be nice at some point to be in a relationship, I'm just trying to figure out how to do that without the DF issue. I love my house, but I stupidly moved to a neighborhood flooded with JWs. In fact, one family lives across the street! UGH. No sneaking in boyfriends for me.

Any ideas about making this work are welcome.

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ok, I give up!

by dssynergy in

jw
friends

i have been testing the waters with a fade.

waiting to see the reaction.

my friends and family still talk to me, although i haven't been to meeting since november of last year.

dssynergy

Bump

Could really use some advice.

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What's Your Attitude Toward Jehovah's Witnesses?

by minimus in

jw
friends

do you hate them?

do you feel bad for them?

do you not give a crap about them anymore??

dssynergy

The only way to take down the organization would be to kill off the entire GB in one fell swoop. Even then, other "anointed" would be recruited to take their place. But if they were all gone at once, it would at the least be disorienting.

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ok, I give up!

by dssynergy in

jw
friends

i have been testing the waters with a fade.

waiting to see the reaction.

my friends and family still talk to me, although i haven't been to meeting since november of last year.

dssynergy

I have been testing the waters with a fade. Waiting to see the reaction. My friends and family still talk to me, although I haven't been to meeting since November of last year. I have been very careful about what I say, if anything and for the most part am not questioned. My mom did talk to me the other day, and just told her I don't feel like I fit in, and never have and that I'm having trouble with crowds in small spaces where I know a lot of people. (anxiety) It is true.

But the other day, my friend made a comment that she was going to get me to go back - no matter what. On the one hand - I don't want to go back, ever. But on the other hand, being "out" as a doubter would cause problems with me and my family I just don't want to risk.

Unless someone has a good strategy for talking my way out of it, I think I'm giving up and just going back. I'm not sure how I can stomach the material because it is so narrow in scope - so any suggestions are welcome.

*sigh*

DS

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Are we in danger WT sept 1,2010

by bobld in

page 11 quote 'humans,were not created with the ability to determine for themselves what is right and what is wrong'.

so i say satan had to tell them what to do..right or wrong.. let me fill in bold some details on the 2nd qoute.

'what a delusion to believe that the right to choose(select) between good(apples) and bad(rotten apples) means the right to determine(decide) what is good (apples) and what is bad(apples).. i believe these writers are a few bricks short of a full load.. b. .

dssynergy

Doesn't that sort of fly in the face of free will, and making us responsible for our actions NOW?

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Can you "fornicate" with your marriage mate? I've heard the WTBTS says that you can. Is this true?

by ultrabimbo in

jw
friends

is it true that the current thinking of jehovah's witnesses is that you can "fornicate" with your marriage mate if you engage in sexual activity that is not approved by the writing department at bethel?

what are some examples?.

ultrabimbo.

dssynergy

This is an interesting topic to me because as I have posted here before - some view the definition of porneia as referring to idolatry, male or female prostitution, sex with slaves or family members - not to sex between unmarried persons.

If porneia was as all encompassing as it is proposed to be then 1 Cor. 6: 9 - 11 would not need to be such a long list and would have been redundant:

"Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, and in the Spirit of our God."

My .02 cents.

PS. I for one would LOVE to be able to just let myself go - I'm still "IN" and celebacy is getting O-L-D.

DS

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