Posts by dssynergy

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Is there a such thing as a perfect weekend when you're a Jehovah's Witness?

by miseryloveselders in

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i'm venting a little bit, just a smidgen anyway.

i might not remember this thread tommorrow, as i just popped the ambien, and i'm waiting for it kick in so i can hit the sack.

i wanted to post this before my brain goes haywire.

dssynergy

I could help you have a perfect weekend....

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Anyone else feel stir crazy??

by dssynergy in

so, now that i haven't been to meetings for over a year and i've told my mom and my friends that i'm taking a break i'm feeling a little....stir crazy.

is that normal?

i think i read somewhere on this board someone mention they sort of went wild for about 6 months, got it out of their system and then were better.

dssynergy

You are right, this got posted in the WRONG place. This is not for the suggestion box. how do I get it moved??

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Anyone else feel stir crazy??

by dssynergy in

so, now that i haven't been to meetings for over a year and i've told my mom and my friends that i'm taking a break i'm feeling a little....stir crazy.

is that normal?

i think i read somewhere on this board someone mention they sort of went wild for about 6 months, got it out of their system and then were better.

Anyone else feel stir crazy??

by dssynergy in

so, now that i haven't been to meetings for over a year and i've told my mom and my friends that i'm taking a break i'm feeling a little....stir crazy.

is that normal?

i think i read somewhere on this board someone mention they sort of went wild for about 6 months, got it out of their system and then were better.

I'm not necessarily trying to be an "expert". I just want to be comfortable. After so many years of repressing, it is uncomfortable to just "be" - and this isn't just sexually, it is in every way. So although I'm generally feeling better (less pressure) it is in many ways very unfamiliar and uncomfortable.

Suggestions on how to make the adjustment easier, anyone??

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Anyone else feel stir crazy??

by dssynergy in

so, now that i haven't been to meetings for over a year and i've told my mom and my friends that i'm taking a break i'm feeling a little....stir crazy.

is that normal?

i think i read somewhere on this board someone mention they sort of went wild for about 6 months, got it out of their system and then were better.

dssynergy

So, now that I haven't been to meetings for over a year and I've told my mom and my friends that I'm taking a break I'm feeling a little....stir crazy. Is that normal? I think I read somewhere on this board someone mention they sort of went wild for about 6 months, got it out of their system and then were better. Is that normal?? Especially sexually, I feel like I have a lot of catching up to do - I'm a 39 year old born in. So the only sex I've had is when I had left before and was bar hoping. Not the best experiences and I can count them on one hand. I feel like I'm socially behind. I haven't done the experimentation that most people do in their teens and 20s - so if I get into a relationship I feel like I'm going to be a big disappointment they'll leave. I'm considering working with a "tutor" of sorts to catch me up.

Am I thinking about this all wrong? Anyone have any thoughts or suggestions?

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fornication in marriage?????

by BlackTwisted in

here is my view on what wt thinks about bedroom laws.....i think of them as bullsh*t!!!

i am sorry, but how the heck can married couples be fornicatiing?????

i mean, anal, i can understand but condemning oral?????

dssynergy

I don't think they call it fornicating unless it is outside marriage. But they have condemned those practices even within marriage. And you are right, NONE of their business.

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Newbies or folks who have Been Here the last 2 years - How is your Fade Going?

by flipper in

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dssynergy

I think I'm doing well. I haven't really been to a meeting for over a year - one here or there, but not a regular attender for many months. I was listening on the phone for a while, but I've stopped that too. I recently told my mom and one of my close friends who are concerned about me that I'm taking a break. I'm actually going through a pretty severe depression, so I used that as my reason for not going. They are both very concerned (without malice) but are supportive and accepting of my choice right now. How long this will stick, I'm not sure.

Even though I travel a lot, and have not attended meetings in many months, my congregation group leader still sends me my study WT and KM. I find it odd, and wonder how long that will continue.

I don't feel a need to declare my stance to anyone or make any grand exit. I still have family in that I care about - particularly a nephew who is young and living with crazy people. I'm sticking around for him. So, I still ask people what is going on in their congregation, and am generally supportive when they talk about how things are going for them if it something they feel is important. I'm respectful of their view, even if I disagree with it - just as I am with anyone else.

I guess to JWs on the inside, I'm living something of a double life. There are certainly things I have done or am doing that could get me disfellowshipped if anyone knew about them. But, they are things that are on the down-low. I'm very careful. And, I don't feel guilty and I'm not going to "confess".

I would say, that over all, now that I have told my mom and my friend that I'm taking a break, I feel better. I think getting baptised at 16 due to pressure from my mom is the root of my depression any way. There is no downer quite like feeling trapped. Bleh.

Here's to fresh starts!

Thanks for asking Flipper. Always nice to know someone cares.

DS

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I can either go back to the "truth" or stay out and raise a milion questions

by serenitynow! in

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i received this message from a jw on jwc@fe, after i asked some simple questions:"miss jada, every sentence or phrase in the bible can very easily be turned into a question.

it doesnt take much to raise questions.

even jesus himself left some questions unanswered.

dssynergy

Similar response I got from my mom when at 16 I started asking questions...."why are you asking questions? Do you want to do something wrong?? Sometimes people start asking questions when they want to do something wrong..." Needless to say, that was the end of my questioning her - but they have never gone away. I did get baptised (big mistake) and am now trying to make my way out. I have come to the conclusion that my baptism was the trigger for my adulthood depression - I have felt trapped ever since.

I've come and gone as a JW; the questions may have been suppressed, but have never really gone away. I guess "hiding what you are can go both ways" - hiding the fact that I just don't believe enough - I believe the Bible, but I'm stumbled by the JWs.

I haven't attended a meeting in over a year - here and there perhaps, but not really. My recent conversation with my mom was "I'm too depressed to go to meeting. I just don't care." Which seemed to work out ok. It will last for a while. Then my next line from here on out will be: I'm depressed and I'm stumbled. Because, to tell you the truth, I am.

Don't ask no questions....it might make them have to think.

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No Sex In the New System - It's Impossible

by mentallyfree31 in

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fyi:.

if you think through the jw belief system, we would have to renounce sexual relations forever to get into the new system.

jw's believe that those coming back in a resurrection will not be married or given in marriage.

dssynergy

"The deceased one has no strings attached to him, for the deceased one cannot give the surviving one the marriage dues during the interim between now and the resurrection of the dead. God makes no exceptions with regard to this law that dissolves marriage by the death of one of the marriage mates. He would be doing so if he allowed for former marriage mates to be reunited as man and wife by means of the resurrection and to take part with Armageddon survivors in fulfilling the procreation mandate."

If single people can marry, why not those who have lost their mate in death? I have a friend who lost her husband, and she is waiting for him. If they got remarried, how would that be violating the law that dissolves marriage by death? It was dissolved, now it's not. Problem solved.

I've always believed the "no marriage" mandate was talking about spiritual beings - just read the context. DUH.

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Suggest a coffee maker, please

by cameo-d in

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i can expect my coffee pots to malfunction usually about the time the year warranty runs out.

i have gotton the coffeemakers at jip*lmart for the last 10 years or more; none have lasted much longer than a year..ok maybe 18 months at the most.. anyway, since it stopped brewing, i have just been pouring hot water from stovetop over the coffee grinds....sort of the melita way, but it doesn't exactly f l o w like a melita.. i would like to have something non-electric like melita, but i hate that name now because it reminds me of jacarass's ill tempered wife.. can anyone recommend a good coffee maker?.

also, do you find any difference in the quality of a name brand product when it's sold at jip*mart as opposed to a place more upscale?.

dssynergy

You can buy a small french press for pretty cheap. they have them at starbucks for not very much.