@R&R,
I think Moshe is right. It does make sense to try and forget the slight but really, personally, to me things like this are like a knife in one's gut.
I'm so sorry you and your family had to put up with this elder's b u ll s h it rules!
Really, they are the WTS rules and the only comfort I can offer is that you s h a r e this with anyone and everyone you have a chance to.
If you expose the insensitivity to others outside the cult you may save someone from falling prey to it.
I understand that to some, who can "rise above it," such slights may not be so important.
But I can empathize with the pain and anguish that the legalistic pharasaic petty rules of elders cause.
And it is so by design. It was designed by the petty and pharisaic minds of people like Fred Franz who didn't seem to give a rat's a s s about anyone else and their feelings.
This mentality is a disease that gets passed on by the studying Watchtower publications with mind controlled Watchtower believers.