Dealing with JW relatives is always difficult. It is even harder when they play by their own rules. In this situation trying to second guess them is hard since they blow hot and cold depending on who is around. The important thing is your husband is happier and more relaxed. If you wish to maintain contact then the craziness will be part of your life.
Posts by nugget
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3Annual family reunion
by troubled mind inevery july my husbands mothers side of the family has a reunion .
this year his sister and brother in law attended from across the country ,she has only been back maybe three times in thirty years !
this is the first time we have met her new husband .
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Punk got shunned HURRAH!!!!
by punkofnice inso i was da'd last september as a 'mentally diseased apostate'(tm) that the 'jehu elders'(tm) should 'slaughter'(tm) if the law of the land allows it.. i now get shunned in the street and i think it's so childish of the dubs to do so.
one family that shunned me was a family i bent over backwards to help them when they had to move house.
their loss...i won't help them again!.
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nugget
They serve to make themselves ridiculous through this stupid practice. It just reinforces to me that if I had never been part of this stupid cult then I would never have known these people and they would never have known me. It just is reseting the clock to where it should be. To suggest that by bullying another human being they will want to return to the congregation is a nonsense. arrogance and self righteousness have never been attractive qualities.
We love you, and having met you in person I can say it is their loss.
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I'm coming out...
by loosie inof anonymous status.
my friends are out so i am ready to reveal who i am inacase anyone here knows me, you can pm me.
my name is luci spencer or you may have known me by luci davenport.
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nugget
congratulations you are truly out.
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District Convention Points Saturday 21-07-2012 New Light? Governing Body Is Our Mother?
by Bubblegum Apotheosis ini have been trying to wrap my head around the talk that introduced the slave as our mother?
the brothers at bethel are worried that we are not treating our spiritual mother with respect.
jehovah is our father, the faithful slave (the governing body) is our spiritual mammy.
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The relationship constantly changes to suit themselves. Making the GB the spiritual mother is another travesty. Don't they have enough adoration that they feel that they deserve this too?
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I think we are being shunned
by hoser init seems like lately we have been missing out on a lot of invites to congregation gatherings and our field service group has gatherings but we never seem to get invited.
btw this is not a bad thing.
hoser.
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nugget
The loving judgement of the congregation continues. If you think you are being shunned you probably are and if you are being excluded from group gatherings then I would say that you definitely are persona non grata.
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Disfellowshipped for Being Raped!
by UnDisfellowshipped inmarch 8th 1974 issue, pages 13-16:.
"scream!
scream!
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nugget
Shocking articles. Fear can have a paralysing affect meaning that you do not scream. There have also been cases where resistance led to the woman being stabbed and killed as well as cases where resistance proved effective.
Rape is an act of violence against women to suggest that the woman tries to reach out to their humanity whilst at the same time scream and resist is a nonsense. Again we see poorly researched articles by people without a clue. To escape Df'ing the woman would then have to convince the elders she was sorry for ALLOWING her violation and then spend years dealing with the guilt.
Appalling.
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Disfellowshipped for Being Raped!
by UnDisfellowshipped inmarch 8th 1974 issue, pages 13-16:.
"scream!
scream!
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Shocking articles. Fear can have a paralysing affect meaning that you do not scream. There have also been cases where resistance led to the woman being stabbed and killed as well as cases where resistance proved effective.
Rape is an act of violence against women to suggest that the woman tries to reach out to their humanity whilst at the same time scream and resist is a nonsense. Again we see poorly researched articles by people without a clue. To escape Df'ing the woman would then have to convince the elders she was sorry for ALLOWING her violation and then spend years dealing with the guilt.
Appalling.
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Candace Conti v. Watchtower Society - Closing Argument by WTBTS Attorney
by jwleaks injane doe v. watchtower bible and tract society of new york, inc.. .
jury trial - june 14, 2012 - day 10. .
mr. schnack: ladies and gentlemen of the jury, the judge has instructed you that it is your choice to award or not to award punitive damages.
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nugget
The lawyers closing arguments did the best he could to say the organisation were innocent. However the jury probably were unimpressed with the reitteration that the policies are sound and therefore the society has been punished enough.
He highlighted that elders should protect the child from further abuse and they need to assess whether the person is a danger to others. What the lawyer failed to appreciate is that it is not the job of the elders to assess whether someone is a danger to children nor to monitor him, that is the job of the authorities who are qualified to do this. To speak of this as if it is an internal congregation matter like any sin is the failing.
The suspect should be questioned and the child should not be present UNLESS another adult is present. This again highlights the problem with unqualified men dealing with a sensitive matter. The child should not be in the presence of their abuser regardless of how many adults are present. The child has been traumatised enough surely without the added trauma of being questioned about it by men with no idea how to talk to victims of child abuse and in the presence of a man who abused them. He probably told the child no one would believe them and the elders enforcing a 2 witness rule would be reinforcing this idea. Authorities would approach the child far more sensitively and use forensics to establish facts.
The final straw to suggest that they are not like the catholics was arrogant and duplicitous. Some of the jury may well have been catholics. This was the first case where the society was held accountable but it certainly wasn't the first witness child abuser to be prosecuted. Nor did he mention the other cases with gagging orders that never made it to court.
Lies, double talk and arrogance it is small wonder they weren't fined for every penny they had.
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Meal with my father
by Gorbatchov intoday i had a nice experience: an evening meal with my father, a former elder and secretary.
he stepped down a few years ago but remained a "stable" congregational member, and performing the ministerial servent job.. tonight the conversation went on the candace conti cage.
we are north western europeans but he read about it in a newspaper.
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nugget
it sounds as though you made a very real connection.
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nugget
How to succeed in school
Don't be brought up in a cult with parents who do not value education. Simples