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  Are the Family of a Disfellowshipped Person Told in Advance?

  by Eustace in

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  in another thread a comment by mamochan13 related this experience:.

  of course, after i was df'd my perspective changed.

  one meeting a couple of months into it they announced that a young girl, about 17, had been df'd.

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  It is another cruelty in a way that you have the onus to let family know since if they are not in your congregation they may not be aware of the anouncement.

  I told my family in another city since I felt that it was better they heard from me directly foolishly thinking I would be able to explain. I was wrong to expect some love and understanding from my older sister who did not want to know and treated me as scum as soon as she heard I was probably going to be Df'd. She would rather believe her concept of a corrupt faith than listen to any facts which was sad. She has barely spoken to me since and treats me as if I am invisible.

  This is a religion with no compassion and no quality.
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  Not sure what to do next

  by magotan in

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  i'm 19, and i'm still currently a jw.

  i guess i'm a born-in, or whatever you guys call it.

  i've had some serious issues with the faith at the moment, and sexuality is a huge part.

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  Being gay is what you are it is not a lifestyle choice it is what makes you you. You deserve to be happy and to be able to find someone who loves you for who you are not what you believe.

  In the JWs life has to be lived within very narrow parameters and they ask all of members to make huge sacrifices for the organisation to remain part of it. In order to make these demands then the organisation needs to be worthy of you not you them. This should be where you start. If they themselves are whiter than white and if what they offer is valid then sacrifices may be justified but if they themselves are lacking they have no right to impose their morality on you or anyone else.

  You are still young but are in the dreadful position of having family held hostage to the organisation. However if you have not been baptised then do not make any moves towards being so and walk away.
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  Do me a favor please

  by Roberta804 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  could all of you please visit my mother's funeral tribute page and say something genaricly nice with perhaps a reference to how happy you are that she found christ.

  say nothing about the jws, but something that referernces that she accepted christ in the last two years.

  the website is:.

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  Done
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  my elderly JW dad--continued

  by bigmac in

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  some readers may recall a thread about my old dad coming to live with me.. after a short time he had to be hospitalised--and now he is in a care home.

  ive taken over all his financial affairs--including selling his house.. ive been clearing out the house--and--needless to say--came across tons of wt books--years of old magazines--1000's of them--plus bound volumes going back to the year dot.

  i asked him what he wanted me to do with them--and he said dispose of them!.

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  You did the right thing. They were your father's and he asked you to dispose of them. He didn't ask for them to be sold or given away so you complied with his wishes.

  As regards congregation records moist of it is meaningless names and numbers I suppose most of it faked at the time and all of it worthless. The dump was probably a fitting end.
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  John Cedars Starting A Cult-Free Europe Radio?

  by Scott77 in

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  2. friends

  most of us know that mad sweeney's cult free radio started in the united states has been a resounding success judging by listenship.

  my question is,can mr cedars replicate this success with a cult-free radio europe?

  any chances of success?

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  I think there is room for everyone. I definitely think Mad Sweeny should be encouraged to pick up his broadcasts I miss his interview style and insightful broadcasts. I also think that there is an audience in the UK and many stories and information that needs to get out there. With the time difference between the UK and the States there is no conflict with time slots etc. I also feel that Cedars moving into radio is a logical step. I will start looking into how we can all move this on.
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  New Member...

  by sosoconfused in

  1. jw
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  hello everyone, just wanted to say hi and introduce myself.. i am a mid 30's just stepped aside elder, who just couldn't handle it anymore.. i am a 3rd generation born-in and former pioneer and bethelite.

  it has been a log somewhat confusing ride for me, but i am finally settling in to realizing that i need to really look at what me and my family are doing.. .

  its funny though what really got me here... it wasn't the 40 year old men telling me they were looking at boobies on the computer and hoping not to get in trouble, it wasn't the watching young people bail left and right, it wasn't the ever changing new light etc... but a simple thought.. .

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  welcome. This board it an invaluable source of experience. I remember feeling sick when I read CofC. I hope we can help you think things through and find a source of peace.
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  How long did it take you to prepare for talks or parts in the KM school?

  by OneDayillBeFree in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  several years ago, whenever i got a talk slip i would get really nervous but accept it and work on it almost immediately.

  of course that was way back when i still believed it all.. now they gave me a #3 talk out of the blue about a month ago and i had forgotten all about it till the meeting night.

  i really thought about not showing up at all but at the last minute, i decided to go.. so when i got there the meeting had already started and so i just stayed in the back looked at the info, found 2 scriptures and then without any notes i went up and gave the stupid talk!.

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  The weekend before I would prepare the talk and rehearse until I knew it off by heart. This was a habit formed as a child because my mother was usually my householder and she was always going off script. She would say things like "that's nice but what I really wanted to know was..." I found by knowing the material I could easily bring us back on topic and wouldn't have lost my place in my notes.
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  Another sad non jw falling for a baptised jw girl story

  by spirituk in

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  2. relationships

  ok ,so this is my story , this jw girl came on vacation in my country as a friend of my girl-cousin who is not a jw but were classmates at uni .

  my cousin introduced her to me but she didnt tell me that she was a jw from the very first moment we flirt each other.we went on beach ,on bars ,cafes etc and she acted so wordly ,in fact i thought she could be a good one night stand with her behaviour .never saw anything weird about her that could lead me to question something, with the peak in the club where we danced together while hugging very passionatly .

  i tried to kiss her that night but she kept her distance , i didnt notice any bad on that.anyway, next day we flirt again at the the beach and at night too .

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  I am sorry to say that she does not love you as much as you love her. Her religion does not allow her to date non JWs or marry non JWs or have casual sex or French Kiss. You are a problem in her life and a source of guilt. When she was on holiday and there was no chance of being spotted by any JWs who knew her she could be more relaxed. You were a gulity pleasure and a holiday romance. When you threatened her status quo by actually going to see her then you became a huge problem.

  She has different ideas about dating, sex and marriage and you threaten those ideas. Do noit underestimnate the level of guilt and manipulation the religion applies to young people.
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  John Cedars Starting A Cult-Free Europe Radio?

  by Scott77 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  most of us know that mad sweeney's cult free radio started in the united states has been a resounding success judging by listenship.

  my question is,can mr cedars replicate this success with a cult-free radio europe?

  any chances of success?

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  I certainly have a face for radio and enjoy Mad Sweeny's broadcasts immensely. It would be a shame to loose cult free radio and it is worth expanding.
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  My Mother Passed

  by Roberta804 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  thank you for all of your support durning the two difficult weeks my mother was on her death bed.

  last night at 10:30pm she breath her last with my sister and i by her side.

  this is a real end of an era for me as i have known little these past 8 years other than taking care of my parents.

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  So sorry for your loss. She passed with those that loved her no one can ask for more.