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  I Got disfellowshiped..wana die!

  by Chichi89 in

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  i jus got dissfellowshiped at th last week..i feel like dying..i attended th meetings yesterday and ita ws jus horrible..came back home in tears....... people i used to cal my friends nw cant look me in the eye..so heartbroken confused and giving up on life !.

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  The purpose of disfellowshipping is to bully you into conforming. They want you to feel bad, humilated and depressed and they bank on holding your family hostage so that you return feeling contrite. Take time to think about what you really want and see this as an opportunity to re-evaluate your life and educate yourself about this organisation. Take a breather from the meetings and give your family some space too. You need to recover emotionally from the trauma and facing the humilation and ostracism will cause you to feel depressed and anxious.

  You are not a bad person, and you know from your own experience that there are loving, supportive people who are not witnesses who can help you. You describe your boyfriend as a loving and good man and hopefully he can help you through this. You can make contact with people who were friends in the past. People are in general more forgiving and accepting than we give them credit for.

  Disfellowshipping gives you a unique opportunity to think for yourself. It is not a bad thing it is a chance to breathe and establish what direction you plan to follow and take control of your life probably for the first time.
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  I have 3 daughters who hate me and 2 grandchilden banned from seeing me. Having a sh*t day now.

  by Amelia Ashton in

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  my youngest who i haven't seen for 6 months came to collect the rest of her stuff from the flat today.. she was cold and indifferent towards me until the dog went for her because she no longer knows her and then she blamed me for everything that has happened.. having trouble keeping it together now..

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  Amelia this is not all down to you. Your daughter made her own choices and made her own mistakes , it is the nature of the young to blame everyone but themselves and sometimes it is in our nature to take responsibility for everything when it is unfair to do so.

  You have cruel family dynamics that have lowered your self esteem and made you feel that you are to blame for all that is wrong. You have been bullied by those who should have loved and protected you from harm but you are not the person they want you to be. You are a dynamic and thoughtful woman who feels pain more deeply than most. You are one of lifes survivors and deserve compassion and support.

  Do not let the out pourings of a teenager define how you see yourself. She is feeling hard done by but that does not give her the right to make you the villan of the piece. Everyone has made mistakes not just you.

  Remember we love you and appreciate you as a person. This is not all your fault I'm happy to come over if you feel the need for comapany.
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  Smiddys Wedding Anniversary Today

  by smiddy in

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  hi all,.

  i just wanted to tell you it`s our 52nd wedding anniversary today ,18/02/2013 ,we were married in a kh - flemington cong.by bro.jock mcbain.the hall was actually in brunswick ,i wonder if it`s still their.. and here i am today a self confessed atheist/agnostic if their is such a thing.i`m one of the lucky ones whose wife is out too.. smiddy.

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  Happy anniversary both of you.
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  When You Were a Visitor at a KH, Did Anyone Come Up and Say Hi?

  by LoisLane looking for Superman in

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  i am kind of like a puppy dog, in the aspect of liking to meet new people.

  they hold out a "wonderment" to me.

  new thought.

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  We have visited a few meetings when on holiday and have noticed varying responses.

  If my husband was the visiting speaker and on his own he was more likely to be invited back for a cup of tea or welcomed at the meeting. If he came with wife and kids we were never invited back and very little welcoming.

  We visited a congregation in the midlands and were welcomed warmly. We visited a congregation in Cornwall and were not welcomed by anyone.

  It does vary from place to place although a muted greeting was always more likely than an effusive one.
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  Letter: 30 hour quota to be extended to additional months

  by 88JM in

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  read out at the service meeting this week.. ===================================.

  january 21, 2013. to all congregations.

  re: thirty-hour quota for auxiliary pioneering.

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  The society have perfected the art of less is more. Less hours means more Aux pioneers, means they can show an increase and say look how Jehovah is speeding it up in his own time.
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  my worst fears were realized

  by magotan in

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  2. experiences

  im on my phone, so im really limited.

  i came out to my family about my doubts and my sexuality.

  shit hit the fan.

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  Don't be made to feel guilty about the choices other people make. If your dad is stepping down as an elder that is his choice. Sexuality is not a choice nor can it be pushed aside by reading a few articles, praying a bit more and going to meetings. Your family has behaved according to cult programming, that is denial of anything that does not fit with their paradigm.

  You have faced your fears Kudos to you. We all hope that our family will be different sadly in the early days they can be all too predictable. Start surrounding yourself with true friends and people who love and accept you for who you are not what you believe. Time changes things for us all.
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  Christopher Dorner Barricaded in Cabin in CA

  by Cagefighter in

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  2. current

  it's looking like the end if near for mr. dorner..... <iframe width="420" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/zdn9y2vtdus" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>.

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  Who is he?
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  Do you believe that God is using the faithful and discreet slave

  by trujw in

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  it seems that this question is used by elder to trap us and close their minds(the jw elder) to thinking.

  if you answer no they wrap up a jc in short order.

  i was wondering if any have tried to use a more pointed question to actually get them to think themselves.

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  Turn it back on them.

  Why are you asking me this question it sounds like you have doubts? I think you should work on your own relationship with Jehovah before seeking clarity from me.
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  New Pope will be named Peter

  by Monsieur in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i remember reading somewhere in regards to a a 'prophet' of sorts who had predicted all the popes that have been chosen.. his 'prophecy' stated that the next pope (since benedict has resigned) would be the last before the 'end' would come.

  his name would be pope peter.. let's see what happens.

  we are suppose to know who the next pope will be before easter..

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  How many end of the worlds have I lived through in the last few years. What with Harold Camping and the Mayans, the JWs the Hale Bop comet and god knows what else I have lost faith in the end of the world. I heard years ago that the last pope would be a pope John. The end of the world is getting old now I sincerely hope someone comes up with something new to predict.
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  Who have you lost?

  by Strawberryfieldsforever in

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  i was just thinking the other day how small our family is now that we aren't jw's.

  we are thankful that we at least have our children!

  my husband lost his mom and dad and only sister and her husband and all their children.

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  I lost my older sister and my niece and nephew. I also have an on off relationship with my mother depending on what rubbish the watchtower has printed this week.

  I have gained a better relationship with my Father and my sister in the US who was never a witness. I have increased my circle of affection to include non conditional friends. I have also gained a happier relationship with my own children. I have gained more than I lost since for years I had lost a real connection with some family members and didn't even realise it.