I didn't like the person I was becoming when I was made an elder. The pressure of it all, the lack of time for myself and my family. I think if an elder makes it past the first few years, they and the family just start to accept it as "the way it is" and deal with it however they have to, meaning there could be a lot of double life stuff going on.
I was out within two years of being made an elder, it literally woke me the fuck up.