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  Who is Gregory S. Love & Sue Proctor?

  by JenGill97 in

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  i was contacted today by a sue proctor for this attorney gregory love.

  who are they and are they legit?

  she said it was concerning possible litigation against the jw's.

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  I was contacted today by a Sue Proctor for this attorney Gregory Love. Who are they and are they legit? She said it was concerning possible litigation against the JW's. Any help would be nice.

  Jen :)
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  Facing some answers

  by JenGill97 in

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  i have not been in contact with my father in quite some time and i need to call him.

  you see he has the answers to some questions i need to know.

  for example, when he found out about my child abuse, did he report it to the elders?

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  I got an email with some questions that maybe I should clarify. My father knew of the abuse because I told him. And I was not alone. Two other family members also told (for a total of 3 young women in the same circle of family molested by this man.) He had direct knowledge - his choice was to do nothing. I think this is the nature of his family: Just don't talk about it again and it will go away.

  Unfortunately, it won't go away. It will never go away. But I will learn from it, heal and take with it the knowledge that it stops with me. My hands are tied in some sense becasue I can't do anything legally. I have filed a police report of my on in the county where the incident took place. Nothing happened. I called Children't Services and their response was "Why are you doing something now? It's kind of late isn't it?" IDIOTS... !

  Needless to say, I keep hitting walls. This confrontation with my father is something I just keep putting off because I know my heart will be broken. Who wants to knowingly let their father break their heart. I'm not stupid. I know it will hurt. But I also know that the information is necessary for me to find closure: it's my last unaswered question. The only other thing I could do is confront my abuser. I refuse to put myself through that - he will deny and he will lie.

  I gain strength daily from the support of my husband and children. I will survive - I have survived.

  Jen :)
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  Facing some answers

  by JenGill97 in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  i have not been in contact with my father in quite some time and i need to call him.

  you see he has the answers to some questions i need to know.

  for example, when he found out about my child abuse, did he report it to the elders?

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  My father is not shunning me because of the Borg - he is disfellowshipped. He is not choosing to be a part of me and my family's life because he is ashamed of cheating on my mother when they were married. He can't get over his shame and face his children.

  He was also a victim of abuse and I too have wondered what I would have done were I in the same situation and it was a sibling that had abused one of my own children. I would confront my sibling, but only after extensive couseling with a professional and that professional would be required by law to report it. Takes it out of my hands, but that is a good way to handle it with family. I know that if it were true, my immediate family is more important to me than my extended family. I have to, I am required to protect my children ---FROM ANYONE! even family.

  It is pretty cut and dry for me - and this is something positive that has come out of this healing process: I know what I would do if this situation arose (God forbid!) and I was faced with this decision. It is my responsibility as a parent to protect my children and I will do it with every breath in my body.

  Jen :)
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  Facing some answers

  by JenGill97 in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  i have not been in contact with my father in quite some time and i need to call him.

  you see he has the answers to some questions i need to know.

  for example, when he found out about my child abuse, did he report it to the elders?

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  Thank you all very much for the kind words. I was ten when the abuse occurred by an uncle while on a camping trip. Both families were involved in the Borg.

  You are right and I just didn't think of it this way: My dad already failed me. And because I am a parent now myself, I think this is the most disappointed I am in both of my parents. It should be noted it was his brother that did the abusing. My mom was in the picture, but mostly only physically. She sustained tremendous sexual child abuse at the hands of an elder and as a result suffers from multiple personalities. Unfortunatly this didn't surface for many years after my abuse. She tells me the personality who was living her life at the time chose to let my dad handle things because her personality "Patsy" is the good JW wife and always took second to my father and whatever he decided is what they did. And obviously he decided to do nothing.

  It is upsetting when you find as an adult that your parents failed you as a child. I have forgiven my mother but because my father chooses to not to be a part of my life, I haven't had the opportunity to forgive him. Maybe in the future I can, but not now. I have really been thinking of writing him a letter. I think I may do that.

  I asked my husband not to long ago, what if someone did to our daughter what my uncle did to me, what would you do. He said probably be brought up on murder charges. I love my husband.

  Jen :)
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  Facing some answers

  by JenGill97 in

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  2. child-abuse

  i have not been in contact with my father in quite some time and i need to call him.

  you see he has the answers to some questions i need to know.

  for example, when he found out about my child abuse, did he report it to the elders?

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  I have not been in contact with my father in quite some time and I need to call him. You see he has the answers to some questions I need to know. For example, when he found out about my child abuse, did he report it to the elders? I went through a summer of counceling and it came down to this. Since then, I have needed to call and talk to my father but I am terrified of his answer. You see, if he didn't call them, that means he did nothing when he found out his daughter had been molested. He will have failed as my father. I don't know if I could handle that kind of disappointment. However, I am hiding from him by not calling.

  I don't know what to do.

  Jen :(
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  Teen Near Death After Receiving Organs With Wrong Blood Type

  by betweenworlds in

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  well this is just plain depressing :( can't believe stuff like this still happens..

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  I just read an article on the internet that said her brain had stopped receiving blood and they declared her brain dead. I'll attatch a copy of the article below.

  Jen :)

  Feb 23, 12:16 AM (ET) By EMERY P. DALESIO

  (AP) Kurt Dixon, attorney for the family of Jesica Santillan, left, who recieved her second heart-lung... Full Image

  DURHAM, N.C. (AP) - Jesica Santillan, the teenager who survived a botched heart-lung transplant long enough to get an odds-shattering second set of donated organs, died Saturday, two days after the second transplant.

  Doctors declared her brain dead at 1:25 p.m., said Duke University Medical Center spokesman Richard Puff.

  She was kept on life support through the afternoon so family and friends could say goodbye, the hospital said in a statement. Medication to keep her heart going was discontinued at 5 p.m.; her heart stopped seven minutes later and a ventilator was then turned off.

  Renee McCormick, a spokeswoman for a charity created to pay Jesica's medical bills, said the Santillan family didn't know until then that doctors were taking her off life support.

  "They were hysterical," McCormick said. "The family's been treated so poorly. They're very hurt. These are human beings."

  A family lawyer said earlier they didn't want to remove Jesica from life support until an outside doctor verified she was brain dead. He could not be reached later Saturday.

  Jesica, 17, whose own heart had a deformity that kept her lungs from getting oxygen into her blood, received a heart-lung transplant Feb. 7. But because of human error, the organs were of a different blood type, and her body rejected them.

  She was near death by the time the second set was placed in her body early Thursday. By early Friday, the newest organs were performing well but Jesica's brain was swelled and bleeding.

  In the first operation, Dr. James Jaggers implanted organs from a donor with type A blood, rather than Jesica's O-positive. In a letter to the United Network for Organ Sharing, which matches patients with donated organs, Duke officials said Jaggers and Carolina Donor Services, a procurement agency, failed to share information about her blood type.

  (AP) Kurt Dixon, attorney for the family of Jesica Santillan, who recieved her second heart-lung... Full Image

  Jaggers, in his first public remarks, said Saturday he had hoped Jesica would be "one of those lucky few" awaiting heart-lung transplants who actually receive the surgery and do well.

  "Unfortunately, in this case, human errors were made during the process" to match the organs with the patient, he said in a taped statement released by Duke.

  "I hope that we, and others, can learn from this tragic mistake and move forward to make the process safer and available to more of those in need. To do otherwise would fail to properly honor Jesica and her memory."

  Family lawyer Kurt Dixon said Jesica's parents and supporters, who had remained with her through her hospitalization, would not be available for comment.

  "All of us at Duke University Hospital are deeply saddened by this," Dr. William Fulkerson, the hospital's chief executive officer, said Saturday. "We want Jesica's family and supporters to know that we share their loss and their grief. We very much regret these tragic circumstances."

  (AP) Kurt Dixon, attorney for the family of Jesica Santillan, middle, who recieved her second heart-lung... Full Image

  Relatives have said her family paid a smuggler to bring them from their small town near Guadalajara, Mexico, to the United States so she could get medical care.

  Less than two weeks after the botched operation, a second set of organs was located - amazingly fast in comparison to the three years Jesica spent on a waiting list before her first operation. Eighty percent of patients awaiting transplants die before organs can be found.

  Dr. Karen Frush, the hospital's medical director of children's services, has there was no sure way to tell when the brain damage occurred. But Mack Mahoney, a family friend and Jesica's chief benefactor, said doctors told the family it was due to the time Jesica was connected to life support.

  "Life support ruins kidneys, it ruins brains, it ruins all the organs of the body," he said.

  The Santillan family declined to donate any organs from Jesica's body, Puff said.

  (AP) Kurt Dixon, attorney for the family of Jesica Santillan, who recieved her second heart-lung... Full Image

  Jesica's place on the transplant list was determined by several factors, including the severity of her illness and her age.

  Her immigration status played no role because hospitals may place non-U.S. citizens on their waiting lists and must give them the same priority as citizens, said Anne Paschke, spokeswoman for the organ network. But they cannot perform more than 5 percent of their transplants on non-citizens.

  Heart and lung transplants are rare for teenagers: In the first 11 months of 2002, there were four nationwide for children between the ages of 11 and 17, UNOS' records show. The previous year, there were four.

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  On the Net:

  Jesica's Hope Chest: http://www.4jhc.org

  Duke University Medical Center: http://www.mc.duke.edu

  United Network for Organ Sharing: http://www.unos.org

  Carolina Donor Services: http://www.carolinadonorservices.org
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  Anyone know LAWRENCE "LARRY" DIAMOND?

  by JenGill97 in

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  if anyone knows this man please post your story here.

  jen edited by - jengill97 on 5 january 2003 15:45:28.

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  no, no relation
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  Anyone know LAWRENCE "LARRY" DIAMOND?

  by JenGill97 in

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  if anyone knows this man please post your story here.

  jen edited by - jengill97 on 5 january 2003 15:45:28.

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  No, unfortunately that is not him. I don't think they ever lived in Ore.

  He currently lives in Arkansas. Let's just say he has a penchant for little girls. I need to find some other people who know this or whom he did this to.

  Fuel for my fire.

  Jen
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  Have You Ever Been Falsely Accused In The Cong?

  by minimus in

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  were you ever falsely accused of something either by an elder or member of the congregation?

  how did you handle it?

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  My sister and I were accused of "snuggling" in the back of the hall during one Sunday meeting. We were just sharing a magazine, but the elder felt we were just a little too close for comfort.

  Yeah, right. From that point on, my sister went out of her way to go wrong and I just knew from that point on that I didn't want to be a part of a church that looked for sex at every innocent turn.

  Jen
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  Anyone know LAWRENCE "LARRY" DIAMOND?

  by JenGill97 in

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  if anyone knows this man please post your story here.

  jen edited by - jengill97 on 5 january 2003 15:45:28.

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  He has lived in Washington state, Arkansas and Missouri.