this has been asked before, however i thought it may be good for newer members of the board to read some of our reasons on how we decided to exit the jw cult and why we decided to do it the way we did.. first off - i have been faded for almost 8 years.
essentially i decided to fade into inactivity and not da because i have elderly jw parents who would shun me if i did get dfed or daed myself.
also- i like keeping open the possibilities that some of my many jw relatives may in time start doubting and have questions and reach out to me in my inactive state.
I started to fade in 1991 but got called out by my mom who contacted the elders. So I decided I would DA. BTW I was a 25 year old virgin and planned it so my letter was in before I was no longer a virgin. I quit because I wasn't going to be a hypocrite like I had seen so many others be.
Basically other than my father's memorial in January, I haven't been back.
coffee shop guy directed me to his thread...thank you so much everyone for your thoughts of support, it means a lot to have people who understand and show genuine sympathy.
here's my experience so far.... my father dies monday night & my brother (nonjw) calls me to come home, when i arrive my father is still sitting on the couch- all the jw family is sitting in a semi-circle around him, my non jw brother is standing in the next room.
no one is crying, no one is talking.
I,m so sorry about your loss.
My father passed back in January and I did the memorial service, brought a couple close friends and my son. Your father sounds quite different form mine. It was all I could do not to stand up and tell the elder who the F did he think he was talking about? My father, a loving parent and husband? Too many times I had bruises, my mother had bruises, my sister's glasses were broken, I could go on, but we have all heard it before. Yes, it was a dog and pony show. But I went, did my duty and have a clear conscience.
am i right in thinking that the music of meatloaf is off limits to jw's?
i seem to remember some tut tutting and strong concil about bat out of hell?.
Eddie in Rocky Horror Picture Show
Meatloaf for Dinner again.
Sex, Drugs, Rock n Roll, Rocky Horror Picture Show
Yeah, my first midnight showing was when I was still in the Borg but on my way out. Most likely 1989-90. Good times and good friends.
am i right in thinking that the music of meatloaf is off limits to jw's?
i seem to remember some tut tutting and strong concil about bat out of hell?.
Since sex is major part of his lyrics, I would say JWs are urged to stay away. As a child of the 70s, I remember 2 out of 3, but not Paradise by the Dashboard Lights. My uncle, who went to Bethel, had quite a cassette tape collection, including Boston, Styx, etc. I don't remember him having Bat out of Hell. I do remember all the craziness about Queen and backward masking on Other One Bites the Dust.
Ah, the joys of listening to what you want and singing along at the top of your voice all those words you had to change, like Jim Croce's Bad, Bad Leroy Brown, baddest man in the whole DAMN town.
I was there about 4 weeks ago. I had a blast taking my friend from Akron to the ROck n Roll HOF, Westside market, Lola's, etc. But I am back home in Forida now.
http://www.goddiscussion.com/69370/ex-jehovahs-witnesses-support-and-recovery-forums-growing-on-internet-ex-jws-are-encouraged-to-join-meetup-forums/.
I joined a meetup group in 2009. I still attend when I can. We have made a point to make sure new religons are not discussed. It is now a yahoo group due to the cost of Meetup. First Saturday of the month at Panera Bread in Tarpon Springs, FL at 10 am.
this is very difficult to write (forgive me for any spelling mistake, i am not a native english speaker).. i cannot tell my complete story on this board - i eventually will, once i have broken the last "link in the chain" that has kept me captive to the borg.
i can't tell my story, because.....basically i will be known.....as a more or less "famous" jw..... i have been lurking this site for many years, wrote here under another name - this eventually was found out and i had to do "damage containment".
i had to "go back" and tow the party line....all my family (extended and close) are witnesses, all my "friends" and even work & business relationships are jw.
Might I suggest if you want to locate other ex-JW in your area, check Meetup, Yahoo Groups and even Facebook. I attend a group here in Florida. It does help! Good luck to you!
i didn't go to college and of course, "higher education" was never recommended.
still, i never felt terribly deprived because of not going further in my education.. yet, i did wish that i could've had "normal" aka "worldly friends".
i wish that as witnesses, we could've been better integrated with other people.
College which I am working on my BS degree right now at age 45
Dating, which is still haunting me because I never learned the ins and outs of it when non JWs did
Holidays
Forming lasting friendships with people I knew growing up, but Facebook is reconnecting me with some of those.
Thinking the end was just about to happened when I left so I rushed into a bad marriage , so not taking the time I should have to find the right guy, really fall in love and then have kids.
anyone else here obsessed with this case as much as i am?
she's saying her daughter accidently drowned now?
and the father told her to hide the body?
Any mother who waits a month to report the child missing is somehow involved or covering up. Unfortunately, accidental pool drowning happen here in Florida more often than you would like to think about. There was a JW family about 30 years ago in Daytona it happened to, even with a big fence around the pool. But to try to hide something that is tragic with this kind of stunt? Gasping at straws.
seriously this time.
its not the nicotine that drives me nuts (i chew the gum) it's that hand mouth desire or lack of it.
i am finding myself chewing on pencils or whatever else is around me.
Good luck to you!
