Posts by Aeiouy

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What's Your Sport?

by finallysomepride in

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mine is rugby union the sport of kings lol.

the new zealand all blacks.

the hurricanes.

Aeiouy

Golf, and snowboarding. Oh did I mention golf.

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Baptism

by Aeiouy in

so i was thinking about baptism today, and something that was said in my jc meeting a few months ago.

i was baptized at the ripe old age of 10. yes that's right, 10. that should be illegal.

what kind of 10 year old knows what they want to do for the rest of their life?

Good God Garyreal. That video is disgusting. Well not the video I mean. The content. Again I ask myself, "How did I not see this sooner???" Funny thing is, I remember reading that recent Awake article. I remember it struck me as odd, but went along with my training, believed it, and promptly dismissed my feelings. Again I say, Yeesh!

Aeiouy

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Introducing myself

by Aeiouy in

and a third continuation........meh.

however, breaking up with her had a very good affect on me.

an unexpected one.

Aeiouy

@BtXB:

I think I see where you're going with this. It wouldn't be wrong to say I was upset (that's putting it lightly) about them asking me such awful questions. So "why don't I want to go to the meeting? Among other things, brother Fulano asked me this and this." I could see how that might be a good thing to do. Then she could see and feel that I'm not trying to hide anything, and at the same time I am not viewed as a apostate. Is that what your getting at?

By the way, don't worry. I just noticed. Fulano is not his name. It means so and so in Spanish. Hermano Fulano, Hermana Fulana.

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Baptism

by Aeiouy in

so i was thinking about baptism today, and something that was said in my jc meeting a few months ago.

i was baptized at the ripe old age of 10. yes that's right, 10. that should be illegal.

what kind of 10 year old knows what they want to do for the rest of their life?

Aeiouy

@wizardca:

That's the point. How is it any different? Witnesses say they don't do infant baptism because the person needs to be making a conscious decision. That's why they condemn other churches for infant baptism. But it would seem that they themselves follow the same creed. I don't know. Like I said. Ramblings.

Aeiouy

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Baptism

by Aeiouy in

so i was thinking about baptism today, and something that was said in my jc meeting a few months ago.

i was baptized at the ripe old age of 10. yes that's right, 10. that should be illegal.

what kind of 10 year old knows what they want to do for the rest of their life?

Aeiouy

According to the elders in my JC, my faith isn't allowed to change. I made a vow. A life long commitment. And I have an obligation to uphold that vow. Interesting points though about swearing to a corporation. Too bad that won't work with the R&F.

Aeiouy

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Baptism

by Aeiouy in

so i was thinking about baptism today, and something that was said in my jc meeting a few months ago.

i was baptized at the ripe old age of 10. yes that's right, 10. that should be illegal.

what kind of 10 year old knows what they want to do for the rest of their life?

Aeiouy

So I was thinking about baptism today, and something that was said in my JC meeting a few months ago. I was baptized at the ripe old age of 10. Yes that's right, 10. That should be illegal. What kind of 10 year old knows what they want to do for the rest of their life? I think there should be a limit on when one can get baptized. There is a reason you're not considered an adult until you're 18. It's because you're not an adult! And even at 18, who in their right mind really knows what they want to do.

Anyway, it bugs me because if someone has reached say 15 years of age, they begin to be looked badly upon by others if they have not gotten baptized. Why aren't you baptized? Are you doing something immoral? You're not studying enough are you? What's wrong with you? That's what I've seen at least. In my JC meeting, they brought up the vow that I had made, and told me I had an obligation to fulfill it whether I wanted to or not. I had made a vow. I thought to myself, "WTF? How could I possibly have known what I was getting into at 10 years old? And now I'm bound for the rest of my life by something I did when I was 10? Not Bloody Likely! There is no way that would hold up in the imperfect human courts of this evil evil world. Why then would Jehovah accept the vow of a 10 year old?

Just my ramblings. Any thoughts?

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Introducing myself

by Aeiouy in

and a third continuation........meh.

however, breaking up with her had a very good affect on me.

an unexpected one.

Aeiouy

Very interesting post Cantleave. I just read it after posting this last one with the possible email in it. Shoot what do I do. Yoko and I have been through a lot. I insisted we hide everything from mom. I'm just not sure that realistic or even functional now. Input?

Aeiouy

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Introducing myself

by Aeiouy in

and a third continuation........meh.

however, breaking up with her had a very good affect on me.

an unexpected one.

Aeiouy

How does this email look everyone. Does it say enough without saying too much? I still haven't hit the send button, and am understandably nervous about doing so. Any input would be helpful.

Hi mom, I wanted to talk to you about the email you sent the other day to me. I feel it is time that I be honest with you. I need some time off from the meetings. There are things that I need to think about. I don't want to get into them in this email, but I want you to know I have thought about this a lot. You know that. You can see how I've been doing with meetings lately. I don't want to make rash decisions about these things, and that's why I need to think about them. Have I been dating? At one point I was. Before I had my judicial meeting, we were 'dating'. After my meeting I broke it off with her. A little bit later, I decided to start up with her again. The elders came by my house and talked with me, and after that I broke it off with her again. She does not trust me now, and I don't blame her since I've changed my mind so many times. We are not dating right now. I'm not sure we ever will because of her distrust of me. I tell you this because I don't want you to think that she is my motivation for this. Like I said there are things I need to think about, and finally make the decision to be a Witness or not. The main reason for writing this email though, is to assure you that I love you. Don't think that my taking time off from the meetings is a sign that I don't love you. Nothing could be farther from the truth. You have always been there for me, and I am eternally grateful. I will always love you. You are my mother, and I would never want to change that. I don't want to disassociate myself, and I don't want to be disfellowshipped either. I don't want to lose contact with you. But I also have to seriously think about where my life is going, and how I feel about being a Witness. I'm afraid you will be disappointed in me though. I'd like to come over for dinner, as you mentioned in your most recent email, but would you have me? I hope you don't hate me. I hope you see that I have to make these decisions, and that I am doing my best not to make the wrong one. I'm not sure what else to say in this email. But like I said, I don't want to lose contact with you. I would like to come over anytime you want me to. Tyler Here is her email. Tyler, I've been through enough in my crappy life and I deserve to know what is going on with you. I don't think you're being honest with me. If you are not planning on being in the truth any longer, I deserve to know because if you're not, that means you are planning on being part of the world. It will just be a matter of time before I'm not able to have any contact with you either. T-mobile was due today. I need to know what you're planning so I know whether or not to cancel our family plan and also whether to remove you from the car insurance policy. I'm tired of wondering what you're doing and if you are dating. Lane at the bank said you go to trivia night at the Island Grill and you are always saying you went somewhere. I have a hard time believing you are going alone. If you are planning to stay in the truth then you need to do it and stop missing for no good reason. You need to think about all that Jehovah has done for you in your life and appreciate it. The world is a hostile place to decide to place yourself. Anyway, I am

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Introducing myself

by Aeiouy in

and a third continuation........meh.

however, breaking up with her had a very good affect on me.

an unexpected one.

Aeiouy

Oh another thing I wanted to mention.

@happyguy: Interesting point about the beard. I do kind of want one though. But you have a good point about keeping under the radar. I don't however, want to live in fear. I don't want to restrict what I do just because some JW might see me and rumors start flying. I have the unfortunate situation of living about 2 minutes from the hall also, and my landlord is a JW. So pretty much anything and everything I do will be noticed by someone. I don't want to try and hide everything. That is not a life. That's just living under the WTS shadow still. I do see the benefit of not being dramatic though. I will definitely have to think about all this, and try and figure out the best course of action. Shunning... I can't believe I actually bought into this crap. Yeesh.

Aeiouy

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Introducing myself

by Aeiouy in

and a third continuation........meh.

however, breaking up with her had a very good affect on me.

an unexpected one.

Aeiouy

Interesting. Very interesting. Sorry I haven't responded sooner. I had reached my daily post limit.

I don't like calling her 'The Girl'. I'm going to refer to her as Yoko* from now on.

Here is what Yoko said in response to these posts:

"i guess i can't ever know what its like to be a jw, thats for sure. so of course i have a different perspective than your jw counterparts online. when i do give you advice, its usually from my personal experience and personally i find that being honest with the people i love is what feels right for me. hence me telling you to actually tell your mom how you feel. for me it would be like lifting a heavy burden off my shoulders. to just say mom, i no longer wish to be a witness, its just not what i believe in anymore. i still love you and i always will and i hope that this doesn't affect our relationship as mother and son. period. the end. obviously that sounds really easy and i know that it isn't. i guess that's how i envision it though, you telling your mother. i guess if i were leaving the jws, i wouldn't want to have to play their game anymore. to not be honest with my mother for fear of the jws coming down on you and her, its like still letting them run your life for you. at the same time, yeah you'll have to take everything i say with a grain of salt because i have no knowledge of what its like to be in your shoes as a jw. "

I think there's wisdom in Yoko's words, as well as everyone elses here. The message I am coming to in my mind is this. Be honest. But don't start a drama show. Tell my mom I need some time off from the meetings, but mention I don't feel comfortable explaining in detail the reasons why. As well as assuring her that I absolutely, wholeheartedly love her.

It seems that going into detail would only cement in her mind that I'm an apostate. I don't want that to happen. I must say fellow forumers, I have learned a lot this past week. Especially how to think for myself. And take the combined thoughts of others and formulate my own belief on matters.

Normally this matter wouldn't be that urgent except for this email I recieved from mom today:

"Hope you're doing good. I don't work Wednesday morning if you want to work on my door. Also, don't work Tuesday if you want dinner before meeting. Let me know. Love you, Mom " I can't just ignore her. And I can't feign sickness or some other absurd thing like I've been doing lately. So a response seems warranted and necessary. Still thinking. Thanks for the input again everyone. And Yoko if you read this thanks to you too. Aeiouy *Some names have been changed.