Posts by LittleSister

i'd imagine that those laid off will have to rely on their families or social safety nets to help them out.. my man is a successful fader, but his family are all super-jw's.

parents pioneering in a foreign land, youngest pioneering where the need is great, oldest sibling is on the fast track to being a co. my man went to university and is in the upper-wage earning tax bracket.

LittleSister

I agree it all smacks of double standards.

Your wise not to speak your mind to your man, family issues are always a sensitive area in and out of the society, but here is a great place to get things off your chest.

One thing my Dad (never been a JW) has always said is that the organisation doesn't look after its members physical needs, which he maintains is an essential Christian principle. The Watchtower is never going to feed a real starving man, hell it won't even keep them warm as they don't burn well.

A member of my family seems to think its fine to live off state handouts rather than earn a living, which they are perfectly capable of doing. She and her family claim for every penny they can get. She even has disabled badges when she isn't disabled. She does have a mentally handicapped son, but he doesn't live with them (in a special boarding school) and is only home for the holidays and the disabled badges are definitely in her name not his. A fine example for an Elder and his wife don't you think.

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How Did You Know The One You're With Was "The One" ?

by palmtree67 in

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i'm feeling all warm and fuzzy, love-y and romantic because of my upcoming marriage, so i ask you all:.

was there something that happened to prove to you that your spouse or mate was "the one"?.

my man gave up his longest and best friend.

LittleSister

It's a cliché, but I just knew my husband was the one when we met, which I found a bit scary at the time.

My mum calls it our Celtic intuition, but he would say it had more to do with me wearing a very short black skirt.

All the best for your upcoming wedding hope you can get in as many pagan traditions as possible.

"Something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue"

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"Old School" Elders

by xelder in

in the last few years that i served as an elder, and as i was discovering what the wts really was, the term "old school" would be used and it began to bother me more and more.

it was usually used to praise a person with a mean, unwaivering, dogmatism to an obselete policy.

a couple of times i would ask the person what he meant by the term.

LittleSister

It's all about control 'old school' is just another name for 'control freak'.

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The new "Find a Brother" arrangement - I went to the meeting for the first time in months tonight

by slimboyfat in

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i went to the meeting for the first time in months tonight.

during the announcements the presiding overseer mentioned that the "find a brother" arrangement was being moved from wednesday nights to saturday afternoon.

what in the name of god is a "find a brother" arrangement?

LittleSister

I always thought they liked targeting women after all that’s how they got to my family through my mother.

Plus women make the perfect converts they have no say or position in the congregation yet do all the donkey work (ministry, cleaning etc...). We also make great baby making machines boosting ranks without all that house to house nonsense.

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Help Needed!!!! Please Advise!!!

by thepackage in

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quit background, my good friend left the jw in 2004, divorced his wife cause she was a b*tch and a hard core jw in 2007. he was never df nor did he speak to anybody as to why he left the jw expect for me.

he realized it was all a bunch of crap.

he supports and houses his dad who is old and an elder.

LittleSister

Like other posts your friend needs to know exactly what he is up against so he needs to get the letter.

My husband found details yesterday on a letter online that you can send the Elders asking for everything in writing and in detail before you will consider a meeting to discuss the situation. I don't know if it works, but apparently the Elders are not allowed to put the details of what they are doing in writing and so can no longer proceed meaning they can't DFed your friend.

I think the letter is on JWFacts.

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For those who researched 607...

by AwSnap in

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did you use wt dates as well as things found from a secular perspective?

if a witness was researching the 607 dates strictly from watchtower info, would it still become clear they are wrong?

or does the wtbs *make* the dates add up...?

LittleSister

There is the perfect article on 607 using the bible and WT literture to disprove in JW recovery mag page 23.

http://jwrecovery.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/JWR-MAG-Fall-2009.pdf

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To Ex-JWs: Do You Regret Learning it Was a Lie?

by leavingwt in

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this question was inspired by a question on another thread.

to the ex-jw community here,.

do any of you regret learning that wt is not god's organization?

LittleSister

No, I left like others still thinking it was Gods org, but just couldn't stand the hypocrisy in my congregation. They had turned their backs on me and my family already so it wasn't hard to just stop going to meetings.

My sister and brother-in-law opened my eyes a few weeks before Christmas and although I had a few sleepless nights I knew they were right. It is like everything has fallen into place. I owe them big time they are the best.

After talking to my husband I discovered he had found things out too, but kept them from me. I was very upset I wish he had shared sooner, but now we are making a new start together with no regrets.

"The truth will set you free"

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Even though I'm OUT of the JWs - I still feel a lil guilty! (help)

by babygirl30 in

out of all the 'friends' i had while in the jws, only a few (4) still have contact with me - 2 of them being very close to me to this day.

one of these girls is about 6yrs older then me, so she has always been my 'big sis' so to speak!

anyhow she and her mom are jws and they live together, but are very 'relaxed' in their stance against me in that when i go out of town (which is on a regular basis) my gf will stay at my place to #1-get my mail, and #2-get a break from being up under her mom everyday!

LittleSister

I can understand why you feel guilty, but you really have no reason to. Your friend is talking to you because she knows you will understand her and she needs you there is no one else she can turn to. You are wise to remind her of the realities of the situation, but ultimately she will make her own decisions regardless of what you or anyone else has to say.

I met a wonderful man 14 years ago who was not a JW and we have now been married for 13 years this Sunday. I have a 3 year old boy and am expecting my second child in 6 weeks. I just knew in my heart that my husband was the one and I never regretted my decision. I have seen many lovely sisters give up their hopes of love and children, because they could not find a suitable marriage mate in the organisation.

Ask yourself if your friend gave up this man and went back to her old JW life and never met anyone else how would you feel? She would be sacrificing her happiness and for what, a lie.

Maybe this relationship won't last and maybe it will, but I think she should have the right to find out.