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  Belated Introduction

  by LittleSister in

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  first i must apologise for not posting an intro before and for the length of my intro, once you start it just keeps pouring out.

  i grew up in what the jw org likes to call a divided home.

  my mother had become a jw a few years before and was raising her 4 children of which i was the youngest in the truth.

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  LittleSister

  cantleave surely birthday cards come first
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  Belated Introduction

  by LittleSister in

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  first i must apologise for not posting an intro before and for the length of my intro, once you start it just keeps pouring out.

  i grew up in what the jw org likes to call a divided home.

  my mother had become a jw a few years before and was raising her 4 children of which i was the youngest in the truth.

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  Thanks everyone
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  Help - my husband wants to buy scratch off tickets!

  by doublelife in

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  but, i don't see that as a bad thing.

  he asked me over lunch if i think it's wrong and i told him no.

  we discussed why the society says it's wrong and i told him why i don't agree with it and he agreed.

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  Scratch cards and the lottery are a definite no no JW wise as it is all considered gambling.

  One argument I remember is that you are winning money at the expense of others loses. They seem to ignore the fact that people are happy to take their chances and the money raised (certainly in the UK) goes to charities and community projects.

  If you want to do this and still be in the Org you need to do it on the sly or expect trouble.
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  Belated Introduction

  by LittleSister in

  1. jw
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  first i must apologise for not posting an intro before and for the length of my intro, once you start it just keeps pouring out.

  i grew up in what the jw org likes to call a divided home.

  my mother had become a jw a few years before and was raising her 4 children of which i was the youngest in the truth.

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  LittleSister

  First I must apologise for not posting an intro before and for the length of my intro, once you start it just keeps pouring out.

  I grew up in what the JW Org likes to call a divided home. My mother had become a JW a few years before and was raising her 4 children of which I was the youngest in the Truth. My dad was not interested in being a JW, but let my mother have her way as far as we were concerned.

  To say I was a terrible JW would be an understatement, I rarely studied, going on the ministry made me shake with nerves and physically sick and my mind often wondered at meetings. I did really try and it wasn't that I didn't believe I just couldn't meet the grade. I always felt there must be something wrong with me; I am just not good enough.

  In my early twenties I met wonderful man and fell in love. He wasn't a JW, smoked and had tattoos, so not the ideal man from my family’s point of view, but he was the kindest and most loving man I had ever met. I left the Org to be with him and a year after we met we eloped and married. There is a lot more to this part of the story, which I might cover at another time.

  I never wanted or asked my husband to change I love him for who he is so how we got sucked into the Org again I don't know, but at some point we did and my husband studied and got baptised. Everything seemed perfect from a certain point of view; however, this time round I was no better at being a JW than before.

  When our son was born getting to meetings became very difficult so my husband often had to go alone. There were problems in the congregation and I could see the effect was making my husband very unhappy. I asked the brothers for help and support, but got nothing. This wasn't the first time they had promised to help and then let us down, but it would be the last.

  Then my husband had a health scare relating to his heart, I was frantic with worry we didn't know what was wrong or how serious. I was also made redundant from my job around the same time. People in the congregation knew, but did anyone phone or pop by to see how we were no. My husband had an anagram around the time of the district assembly, just before he received a letter saying because he had not been attending meetings he would not be able to do parking duty (so caring). The fact that we were not going to be there due to his health had gone completely over their heads.

  That was it I was done with the congregation, but I still felt this was a local problem that overall the Org was right. Then just before Christmas my Dad let it slip to my sister that I had let my son take part in the nativity. She called me worried that if my other sister found out they would have us Dfed. I told her I didn't care what they thought anymore then she and her husband confessed that they were fading from the Org and had found out things were not right.

  They opened my eyes and at last I could see the problems in the congregation were only a reflection of more deep seated issues higher up. I took their advice and starting doing my only research, which I shared with my husband. He then confessed he had doubts for a long time.

  I couldn't sleep for two nights my mind had so much to process, but once it had I felt a great inner peace. I didn't just know what I was reading was right I felt it. It was like my instincts all along had been screaming this is wrong and now I could listen to them.

  I am so thankful to my sister and her husband, the last two years had torn me apart emotionally and mentally, had this continued I don't know what might have happened. I used to be so angry, but now I feel great. My husband and I are much happier and we both love the network here you guys and gals are great.

  Future wise I want to:

  1. Help my sister’s family fade and give them all the support they need.

  2. Keep my family as far away from the Org as poss

  3. Get in touch with lost Dfed friends and let them know the truth if they don't already

  4. Tell people the truth if they ask me about JWs

  5. Tell my dad he was right never to be involved

  6. Get rid of all JW literature (poison)

  7. Look forward to the day when I can tell certain people what I really think of them

  8. Look forward to the birth of my second baby happy in the knowledge that I won't risk dying in the process due to lack of blood
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  Where is God when the Haitians needed him?

  by AK - Jeff in

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  perhaps a hundred-thousand dead.

  millions affected.. how many prayed in vain to stop the quaking, keep a loved one from dying, or for saftey?

  all disregarded, all ignored.. he either doesn't care, is dead, or never was.

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  Who cares what Gods doing, what worries me more is what people are doing to save lives and get aid to were its needed.
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  I finally found Jesus...

  by dudeson in

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  turns out he's been hiding in a nitric acid drum here in ny..

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  LittleSister

  I found Jesus

  
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  Who really supports "the work"?

  by palmtree67 in

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  i've been thinking alot about all the threads here regarding the bethel lay-offs.

  i'd imagine that those laid off will have to rely on their families or social safety nets to help them out.. my man is a successful fader, but his family are all super-jw's.

  parents pioneering in a foreign land, youngest pioneering where the need is great, oldest sibling is on the fast track to being a co. my man went to university and is in the upper-wage earning tax bracket.

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  I agree it all smacks of double standards.

  Your wise not to speak your mind to your man, family issues are always a sensitive area in and out of the society, but here is a great place to get things off your chest.

  One thing my Dad (never been a JW) has always said is that the organisation doesn't look after its members physical needs, which he maintains is an essential Christian principle. The Watchtower is never going to feed a real starving man, hell it won't even keep them warm as they don't burn well.

  A member of my family seems to think its fine to live off state handouts rather than earn a living, which they are perfectly capable of doing. She and her family claim for every penny they can get. She even has disabled badges when she isn't disabled. She does have a mentally handicapped son, but he doesn't live with them (in a special boarding school) and is only home for the holidays and the disabled badges are definitely in her name not his. A fine example for an Elder and his wife don't you think.
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  How Did You Know The One You're With Was "The One" ?

  by palmtree67 in

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  i'm feeling all warm and fuzzy, love-y and romantic because of my upcoming marriage, so i ask you all:.

  was there something that happened to prove to you that your spouse or mate was "the one"?.

  my man gave up his longest and best friend.

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  It's a cliché, but I just knew my husband was the one when we met, which I found a bit scary at the time.

  My mum calls it our Celtic intuition, but he would say it had more to do with me wearing a very short black skirt.

  All the best for your upcoming wedding hope you can get in as many pagan traditions as possible.

  "Something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue"
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  "Old School" Elders

  by xelder in

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  in the last few years that i served as an elder, and as i was discovering what the wts really was, the term "old school" would be used and it began to bother me more and more.

  it was usually used to praise a person with a mean, unwaivering, dogmatism to an obselete policy.

  a couple of times i would ask the person what he meant by the term.

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  LittleSister

  It's all about control 'old school' is just another name for 'control freak'.
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  The new "Find a Brother" arrangement - I went to the meeting for the first time in months tonight

  by slimboyfat in

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  i went to the meeting for the first time in months tonight.

  during the announcements the presiding overseer mentioned that the "find a brother" arrangement was being moved from wednesday nights to saturday afternoon.

  what in the name of god is a "find a brother" arrangement?

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  I always thought they liked targeting women after all that’s how they got to my family through my mother.

  Plus women make the perfect converts they have no say or position in the congregation yet do all the donkey work (ministry, cleaning etc...). We also make great baby making machines boosting ranks without all that house to house nonsense.