Posts by leec

I don't know why the other thread was abaondoned and a new one created, right after I posted my response there which was, imo, the most meaningful thing I have said on here since I joined. So I guess I'll use my last "allowed" post on here today to re-post what I said, because I despise the stereotype of men as just wanting to get laid, don't relate to it at all, and because it's the gd truth.

1 honest

2 full of love

3 smart

4 introspectively confident

5 kinda cute

... in that order.

Someone please find me one like that, would ya?

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"Dubs" ??

by leec in

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would someone please explain to me the etymology of the term "dub" as used in this forum?

i've searched here and elsewhere online (albeit not exhaustively) and cannot find anything enlightening.

(by the way, if it's something really obvious, i am infamous among those who know me for missing the obvious at times, so this is not a joke or anything other than a straightforward question.

leec

AH ok thank you!

... strange similarity to Bush II's nickname, but for entirely different reasons.

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"Dubs" ??

by leec in

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would someone please explain to me the etymology of the term "dub" as used in this forum?

i've searched here and elsewhere online (albeit not exhaustively) and cannot find anything enlightening.

(by the way, if it's something really obvious, i am infamous among those who know me for missing the obvious at times, so this is not a joke or anything other than a straightforward question.

leec

Would someone please explain to me the etymology of the term "dub" as used in this forum? I've searched here and elsewhere online (albeit not exhaustively) and cannot find anything enlightening.

(By the way, if it's something really obvious, I am infamous among those who know me for missing the obvious at times, so this is not a joke or anything other than a straightforward question.)

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Worldly friends on Facebook

by dgp in

some people i know to be jw's have worldly friends as facebook friends.

i apologize for my ignorance, but, isn't this supposed to be socializing with worldlies?

if so, it seems many jw's are simply ignoring what the wts says.

leec

"long story short = no, they shouldnt be having worldly friends on FB, but more importantly, should YOU be considering ending YOUR association with 'T' if it looks like she's going down the fundamentalist road...? What exactly would you have in common anyway? Trust me, its difficult maintaining a friendship inspite of the WT brainwashing, I know, i've been there(except I was the brainwashed person). If she gets deeper and deeper into the JW mindset, accept that(for the moment at least) your friend is gone, and take several steps back. You never know, she might come round later in life, and you can be mates again..."

You speak wisdom. If I had half a brain (and an adequate measure of a couple other body parts) I would have already severed ties by telling her that the idea of my becoming a JW is just never going to work out, and then letting her do her thing, i.e. slam the "door" in my face (interesting analogy I didn't think about until after I said it!). I have been stalling, I guess.

I've been trying to come to a nice tidy point of closure by keeping some final promises ... helping her with some computer stuff that has been several months on the "to do list", after which I have been planning to drop the bomb, and then go about pursuing my recovery. According to her she's been going through never ending post-op issues after having back surgery in late December. This nice tidy transition is turning into a messy skid mark. I simply need to be man enough to hasten the coming of what I do not want to happen but which needs to happen as soon as possible.

p.s. ... if the website is correct in its accounting, that was the last post I am allowed on here for around 10 hours, so if I suddently disappear for the rest of the day/night, that would be why. :(

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Worldly friends on Facebook

by dgp in

some people i know to be jw's have worldly friends as facebook friends.

i apologize for my ignorance, but, isn't this supposed to be socializing with worldlies?

if so, it seems many jw's are simply ignoring what the wts says.

leec

I am really confused on this general issue and would really appreciate understanding more about this. I have been under the impression that any baptized JW, in order to remain in good standing, should not "unevenly yoke" themselves with worldly people. The behavior I observe however seems to contradict that.

When my friend T (female JW about to be baptized) said that she and I couldn't know each other anymore unless I start doing bible studies, I asked her if she was also putting this same condition on her friendship with C (a non-JW female). She said no ... basically the difference being that I'm male and C is female, and that makes all the difference. I also noticed that her mother, the driving force for JW in her family, has wordly friends on Facebook from her high school days, and T's family all visit their non-JW family at least once a year. In fact T was telling me how her mother and uncle were debating religion when they were visiting ... JW vs. Baptist, or something like that.

So what's the story here? Is this a "technical" rule which is subject to discretion, a matter of "personal choice" or something like that, or is this a serious breach of conduct that would be punished somehow if the wrong people found out?

I mean ... what I read here and elsewhere online about JW rules is significantly different from what I see being practiced by those I know who are apparently in very good standing, and I don't know what to make of it.

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whose hiding in the toilets at the kingdom hall?

by highdose in

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this was a favorite way of getting away from the very unloving "loving brothers and sisters".

hide in the toilets, no one can collar you and tell you off.

and even better you won't be in amongst a group of people but still feeling so alone... at least you will actauly be alone!.

leec

From the title I thought this was going to be about pedos lying in wait

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Highdose has wonderful news!

by highdose in

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my user name highdose i chose because after leaving the borg i was on a high dose of anti depressants to help me cope.. i'm happy to report that my user name is no longer accurate!

after many weeks of cutting the dose down i am now off the pills totaly!:).

such a relief!

leec

Awesome accomplishment!

I just finished weaning myself from about 7 years of prozac this past December ... wouldn't you know, just in time to have my closest friend (and love interest) decide to get all serious in her JW faith and start preparing for baptism (i.e. demise of close friendship).

I seem to be weathering this pretty well so far -- albeit with enormous amounts of help from people here and other (non jw) friends.

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Paradise has arrived. WTS wrong again.

by parakeet in

here's proof that armageddon has already arrived, "invisibly.

" we're living on the paradise earth, fellow apostates.. (when you click on the site, select the "slideshow" option.).

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/29771063.

leec

At college I once shared off-campus housing with several people including a Rosicrucian from Nigeria. His version of the "lion laying down with the lamb" story involved the fact that there was a huge forest for marijuana where they all lived together, and all the animals ate the marijuana and became lazy friends ... all lying around happily in peace.