Ata my heart goes out to you.
If the elders came to your door so eager for your admission, I wouldn't be surprised if they just go ahead an announce you df in absentia without your consent. It seems like sadly both sides of your family are trying to do just that.
Please prepare yourself for anything that may come out of this. Hopefully they just back off for good and let it ride.
I really like how u handled yourself. I know saying that is probably pulling on your heart strings since its your mom on the other side of the accusation but remember like everyone else has said YOU OWE THEM NOTHING.
Dont give them the pleasure of disfellowshipping you with ease. You are bothering nobody they are bothering YOU.
Stick to your fade.
Sending many hugs to you. Hang in there hun!
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